Raising A Red Flag

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@Kandae11 (53679)
February 4, 2018 3:27pm CST
To raise a red flag, meaning - to alert or let someone know that danger or trouble may lie ahead. We may see those red flags or signs which warn us - in our relationships, our job, our health and other situations as we go through life. I must admit that I ignored one or two very glaring red flags shortly after meeting my husband (now ex). I was so smitten, that I brushed all warning signs aside and married him anyway. I paid a heavy price for not heeding those signs. Have you encountered any red flags lately - whether at home , work or play? Do you ignore them or take heed?
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
4 Feb 18
Never seen any around here.
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
5 Feb 18
@Kandae11 Good morning.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
That's good.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
@amadeo A good morning to you too.
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
4 Feb 18
Yes I did. I had pains in my chest and thought nothing of it. It turned out to be a serious infection which is still not gone. Sorry to hear you had a bad choice of husband
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@Kandae11 (53679)
4 Feb 18
When it comes to health and relationships we do tend to ignore those flags. my marriage ended a long time ago - and I have learned from my mistakes.
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@timely (90)
• Nigeria
5 Feb 18
Am very sorry about what you went through. Its never pleasant to feel rejected, particularly by the ones we love, its really painful I swear. The thing is love is on the way, it would always come looking for you. It definitely would ok. You would surely get to meet someone that's better. That's how life is.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
4 Feb 18
I'd say I ignored many red flags in all my relationships because I always try to see he good in people because I expect others will treat me with kindness and honesty like I do them.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
4 Feb 18
Unfortunately some people will turn out to be unlike what we expect them to be.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
5 Feb 18
I saw those red flags and ignored them when I fell in love for the first time. I lived to regret that decision.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
6 Feb 18
@TheHorse Gladdens my heart to hear that.
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@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Feb 18
@mydanods I wonder if relationships are best when the "baggage" is similar.
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@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Feb 18
You are not alone.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
5 Feb 18
Oh no, I wouldn't ignore them, I try to take evasive action.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
Evasive action is the best reaction.
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@JudyEv (325759)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Feb 18
I think mostly I take heed but sometimes we all turn a blind eye to things, usually much to our regret later.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
It happens yes.
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@Angela150 (928)
• London, England
5 Feb 18
I have not received any red flag signals but I do try to follow my intuitions now and again.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
That is good, it is of great benefit to be intuitive.
@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
5 Feb 18
I listen to my gut or intuition but lately it has been quiet
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
That is a good sign.
@jstory07 (134456)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 Feb 18
If you sense something is wrong that should set off a red flag.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
Yes, that's the way it works.
@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
5 Feb 18
I never ignore red flags. When something makes me feel uncomfortable I become very, very careful.
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@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
5 Feb 18
@Kandae11 So true, if you do not trust your feelings, you can get in trouble.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
That is what we should do - and save ourselves from heartache and trouble.
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@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Feb 18
Heh. I ignored some red flags in my previous relationship. And yes, I paid dearly for it. None right now.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
We think ignoring them would be less trouble - now we know.
@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Feb 18
@LovelyxOdd I think many of us do that during the "sparkle" stage of a relationship.
@cintol (11261)
• United States
6 Feb 18
Red flags, are there any other kinds? Evidently those were the only flags I saw when I was younger and thought they were all good, thank goodness I grew up and learned what they really meant so I could run the other way when I saw them.
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@TheHorse (205716)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Feb 18
I'm still learning.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
6 Feb 18
@TheHorse Well you better hurry up and figure it out before its too late for you lol
@Kandae11 (53679)
6 Feb 18
I made a few more mistakes, but I am much wiser now.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
5 Feb 18
Oh yes I have! I try not to anymore because I know no good will come my way.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
Best to take heed.
@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
4 Feb 18
Yup about losing my money to my family members
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@Kandae11 (53679)
4 Feb 18
Any hope of getting at least some of it back?
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@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 18
@Kandae11 nope my dad took from me $700 each month when I was working , 27 years ago. Never paid me a single cent. He said he borrowed from me because he need money for running his business which became a failure. ANyway, he never appreciated the money I lent it to him over the years.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
@peachpurple Sorry that his business failed - and you paid the price.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
5 Feb 18
Difficult if they come in sheep's clothing.
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
5 Feb 18
@Kandae11 When one sees them in their true colours it could be too late
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
Hopefully they will unintentionally disrobe sooner rather than later.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
@allknowing I was thinking the same thing.
@1creekgirl (40515)
• United States
4 Feb 18
I haven't always, but I try to listen to my red flags or intuition. I find myself saying, "I knew I should have done...." whatever it was. I'm sorry your marriage didn't work out.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
4 Feb 18
That's right - intuition is almost the same, but it works for something good as well - not only bad. About my marriage, there is a saying "You make your bed, you lie on it". Thankfully I realized my mistake and got out of it before matters became worse.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
5 Feb 18
I have had some recently health wise and no I don't ignore them. I am a bit of a hypochondriac about my health
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
5 Feb 18
@Kandae11 Even though your doctor doesn't always share your concerns
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
Best to take heed at all times.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
@Freelanzer That is a relief sometimes.
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@just4him (306137)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Feb 18
It's good to pay attention to those red flags. The only red flag in my life concerned my last book, Freedom's Cry. I got it taken care of and now it's published.
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@just4him (306137)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 Feb 18
@Kandae11 Awesome! Thank you.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
@just4him I'll post a picture when I get it.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
Good that you were able to take care of that problem with your book- I'll be having one of them in my hands pretty soon.
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@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
6 Feb 18
I have had red flags in my life but I guess I had to learn for myself so made many mistakes in my life.
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@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
7 Feb 18
@Kandae11 I can imagine Kandase.
@Kandae11 (53679)
6 Feb 18
I pay a lot of attention to them now.
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@gigil_etb (140)
5 Feb 18
I sometimes do actions to avoid its effects and I sometimes ignore it and suffer at the end.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
@gigil_etb You'll have to think it through carefully and make a sensible plan. Good luck.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
5 Feb 18
Sometimes we are lucky to get away with it and other times we do suffer.
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5 Feb 18
@Kandae11 you can say that again. Actually I am in that moment. As of now, I am still thinking of things to eventually get away. It's stressful.
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