leaving your luggage with family but ...
By hereandthere
@hereandthere (45651)
Philippines
February 8, 2018 1:25am CST
let's say you visited your parents and left your luggage with them.
it's safer.
it saves you money.
especially since you'll be there for a month.
but you leave with your spouse and child all day every day
to spend time with your spouse's family.
you come home every night to sleep, wake up, shower, get dressed and leave again.
you have a sister, but she goes to work every day.
your parents are aged late 70s to early 80s
and don't want to go out anymore.
they pay someone to come in daily to clean, buy food, run errands, wash and iron.
this was narrated to me by the helper years ago.
if it was me, i would at least make sure we all ate breakfast together before going out.
i would bring home food daily - either a dish for lunch or dinner, a dessert or snack.
and i would give a big tip to the helper when our month-long vacation is over.
would you rather rent a room than stay with family?
have you ever come and gone without letting your family know you were in town?
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13 responses
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
9 Feb 18
you're the first one to say that. i guess you like the freedom of being able to come and go, when to eat and sleep.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
10 Feb 18
if the family is not always at home when i am there, i guess i have to rent a room, because. that is why a house is not a home if there is no one living there.
ehek! i hope i answered the discussion correctly.
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@much2say (53907)
• Los Angeles, California
18 Feb 18
Both of our parents are local to us - we've never been in this situation. I am not particularly close with other family members (cousins, aunts, uncles, etc) so I wouldn't even ask to stay with them - I'd rather be in a hotel - and honestly they wouldn't care if we were in town or not.
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@much2say (53907)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Feb 18
@hereandthere Exactly! And no need to feel "careful" that we are in a family member's house!
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
20 Feb 18
@much2say there's also the opposite. they don't ask where things are or how to go about doing stuff so you end up searching, or fixing, or redoing.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
19 Feb 18
there's freedom in that. no pressure, no expectations.
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@Letranknight2015 (51490)
• Philippines
8 Feb 18
There's a lot question over there as what is the situation between the family that made the person sleep in the hotel instead.
@Gita17112016 (3611)
• Trinidad And Tobago
8 Feb 18
I have never done either. If I had a choice I think I'll choose staying with family but not in such an abstract way. I would like to interact a bit and help if I can.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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14 Feb 18
Depends on the situation and depends on the family... If the family told us in advance in a roundabout way, that they rather not be bothered by our coming/going, then renting an outside place is a must. vice versa I guess (as in, if we were told to turn up or else).
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