Your Mother Told You What?
February 8, 2018 9:45am CST
This morning an article about child support and social services brought to mind a conversation that I had a few years ago with one of my students. We were talking about the fact that her mother was going to be having her 4th baby any day. The student was filling me in on how the daddy to be has just disappeared into thin air. All of the sudden she asked me how many children I had. I told her I had three girls. She then asked me if any of them had the same father. It shocked me for a moment and I was speechless. Finally I told her that they all had the same father. She seemed surprised. She then told me that her mama said that when you have a baby you should make sure that each baby had a different father. Why was that I asked. Apparently her mother told her that when you have one baby per father you get more child support than if you had the same father for your babies. It sounded like she was preparing her daughter for the future of using the system. What to you think of this? It made me wonder if love entered into baby making at all in their lives.
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• United States
.... I'd be speechless too! All my kids are my husbands. I know quite a few who have multiple baby daddy's or baby mamas. It doesn't seem like a great situation when people just use babies as attempt to force a relationship or as an income possibility. Either of those cases the kids needs come last if at all. :( I hope that girl found a more positive role model...
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
It certainly doesn't sound like it. It does sound like her mother is preparing her to be a tramp. I don't think you can use the other word I'm thinking of on here. Find a guy, go out with him for the night or nights, get knocked up and then sue him for child support. No love there. I feel sorry for the fathers of her siblings, and herself. It's not a good way to raise a child.
• United States
How awful! It sounds like cycles of bad parenting skills who try to use the system. I had a student whose mother tried to get each of her many children into special education, so she could bilk the state. She had no job, a large home, a new car, and a built in pool. The state finally made the laws stiffer, and she moved.