Date of death - to be advised

dove-cote, Osterwieck
@JudyEv (134434)
Bunbury, Australia
February 9, 2018 1:22am CST
Regular myLotter @xFiacre wrote recently about how his aunt’s ashes were mixed with potters’ clay and made into six commemorative mugs. The link is at the bottom of this discussion. Fiacre asked what the reader would like to be made into. We recently paid to book a niche in a columbarium at our former parish. A columbarium is also a name for a dove- or pigeon-cote and I’ve written about them before. Here’s a link: http://www.mylot.com/post/3136188/there-are-columbariums-and-there-are-columbariums Our ashes will be put in a casket and sealed into one of the holes in the wall of the columbarium. The only added extra expense for our boys will be the plaque. If we don’t die for ages, the price of the plaque might go up. Indeed, it is almost sure to. So we thought we could get around the problem by paying for the plaque and some nice words on it to say who we were and how much we’ll be missed. We could put our birth dates but, as we won’t know our date of death, we could just have engraved ‘TBA’ (to be advised). What do you think? And it’s meant to be a joke, folks. The photo is of a dove-cote in the German town of Osterwieck where my ancestors came from. Although a dove-cote, this looks nothing like our columbarium. There is a photo of a pigeon columbarium which looks more like a person one on my other post. But it’s an interesting photo isn’t it?
This is a photograph of my aunt. When she was cremated her ashes were added to some potters clay and a set of six commemorative mugs were produced from what was...
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@LadyDuck (175653)
• Switzerland
9 Feb
I said to my husband that my ashes must be dispersed. Why to be closed in a urn for the eternity when your ashes can be free in the nature? This is also less expensive, after all, once we are gone we are gone.
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@tiada123 (342)
• Malaysia
9 Feb
Agree, i wish to plant a tree with my ashes one day.
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@LadyDuck (175653)
• Switzerland
9 Feb
@tiada123 I think it is the best we can do. To let our ashes free in the nature.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Feb
Yes, being scattered in a natural setting is a good idea.
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@jobelbojel (8136)
• Philippines
9 Feb
That is a good plan. It was a nice idea to mix the ashes in making the mugs. I want my ashes to be buried in my mother's tomb.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Feb
I wouldn't want to be made into a mug. It seems a bit weird to me.
@Mshafeeq (1553)
• Bangalore, India
9 Feb
Interesting one have to think over it.
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@Mshafeeq (1553)
• Bangalore, India
9 Feb
@JudyEv oh I see I will be just in time I guess.
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@TRBRocks420 (82411)
• Banks, Oregon
9 Feb
That's a good idea. I hate to think about it though.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Feb
You have plenty of time yet. We wanted it sorted and paid for so our sons wouldn't have to worry about it.
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@AKRao24 (20981)
• India
9 Feb
Yes indeed the picture looks very beautiful and pleasant dear @JudyEv ! Thanks!
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Feb
It's a lovely old building isn't it?
@xFiacre (5140)
• Ireland
9 Feb
@judyev thanks for the mention. I don’t really care what’s done to my leavings once I’ve gone, but it’s a good idea to leave instructions so that your family doesn’t have to make decisions. My aged parents have paid for their arrangements and given me instructions.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Feb
Ours is decided and paid for now. But the link to your post about your aunt isn't working it seems. I don't know why not.
@jstory07 (69750)
• Roseburg, Oregon
9 Feb
That is an interesting photo.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Feb
It was a lovely old dove-cote.
@MALUSE (43422)
• Uzbekistan
14 Feb
The link to your aunt doesn't work. At least not for me.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Feb
Sorry. I don't know why that is. It's Fiacre's post. I'll add it here but I don't know if it will work.
This is a photograph of my aunt. When she was cremated her ashes were added to some potters clay and a set of six commemorative mugs were produced from what was...
@MALUSE (43422)
• Uzbekistan
15 Feb
@JudyEv Strange. Here it works.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
15 Feb
@MALUSE Ours not to reason why!
@DianneN (84978)
• United States
9 Feb
My religion forbids cremation, and that's fine by me. When we return home, we will make arrangements, just so our sons won't have that burden.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
That was our idea - to make one less problem/decision for our boys.
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@DianneN (84978)
• United States
10 Feb
@JudyEv We've been putting it off, but our younger son suggested we do it to save him and my older son the trouble. He is right!
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
@DianneN It does save hassles especially if someone hasn't left any guidelines as to what they'd like.
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@cintol (7706)
• United States
9 Feb
I love buildings like this one and I have never seen anything like having your ashes made into cups and such. Different idea though. My husband and I ashes will be mixed together and he wants them spread over the ocean since he was in the Navy and loved the water
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
I know many people like to have them spread in a certain place. I can understand that.
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@cintol (7706)
• United States
10 Feb
I am terrified by water so I don't want to go there but I won't be there so its ok with me
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
@cintol By that stage we'll all be past caring won't we?
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@Orson_Kart (4481)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb
If I could afford it, I would be cryogenically frozen and when reversing old age became possible, I could be revived and live forever. Sound good?
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 Feb
I don't know you well enough to judge!
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• United Kingdom
14 Feb
@JudyEv I used to like you.
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@teamfreak16 (41311)
• Colorado Springs, Colorado
11 Feb
Question marks would have been funny as well!
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@teamfreak16 (41311)
• Colorado Springs, Colorado
11 Feb
@JudyEv - No, I missed that.
@JustBhem (42791)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Feb
I was thinking about putting my ashes in a special box and put it in a place where they can see me. Lol
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
9 Feb
Many people have their ashes put in a special urn.
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@JustBhem (42791)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Feb
@JudyEv Yeah, I wanted to be like that. You know where they can still see me. Lol
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@mydanods (6747)
• Nigeria
10 Feb
I wouldn't care how I was buried. What I deem more important is how people treat me now that I am alive. When I die, I become ashes, nonexistent.
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@bebuddy (269)
10 Feb
Good idea mix ashes and make mud
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
I've never heard of making something from a person's ashes before.
@LeaPea2417 (21939)
• Toccoa, Georgia
10 Feb
I will probably be buried. I am not sure about cremation.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
Cremation is very common here but there aren't a lot of towns that have crematoriums - only the big ones.
@GardenGerty (102457)
• United States
10 Feb
We will be cremated, that is all I know, although I have seen the offers to become starter pods for trees. That would be nice.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
We almost chose to have the ashes buried in a rose garden. There are many options.
@averygirl72 (16617)
• Philippines
10 Feb
I think I don't want to be cremated. Ashes made to mugs sounds a good idea maybe a flower vase is good too
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
A flower vase would be better than a mug.
@snowy22315 (52556)
• United States
9 Feb
I don't want to be "made into a tea cup" I would prefer my ashes be scattered over a body of water, and maybe a plaque with my name on it at the base of a tree would be good.
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
There is a lot of choice nowadays isn't there? On the Busselton jetty in Western Australia, also every post along the pier has a plaque commemorating someone who used to fish from that place. The old fisherman all had their favourite spot on the jetty from which to fish. Most have had their ashes scattered at that place.
@RasmaSandra (19614)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Feb
I would love to feed the fishes in the sea...
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@JudyEv (134434)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Feb
I'm sure they'd appreciate it.
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