Can Your Doctor Tell The Gender Of Your Baby When You Are Pregnant? Not Here In India...He Will Be Punished To Do So!

@AKRao24 (19637)
India
February 16, 2018 11:31am CST
In India we have strict rules that a doctor should not reveal the gender of the baby when a woman visits for check up during her pregnancy! Reasons...In India a girl child is considered as a burden and a boy child as a boon! It is believed that a girl needs to be married by the parents and while doing so they need to pay heavy dowry and raising a girl child in a Indian society is a big challenge ! As in India they believe that a girl must be Virgin till she gets married! If she gets pregnant before marriage since the signs and symptoms are evident the society will condemn her and her family! On the contrary if a boy is born , then he will fetch good dowry for the parents and even if he does some sexual mistakes we won't have any apparent symptoms to show like a girl.so he always has the chance to cover himself. But then why the Doctor be punished...because he is the culprit who after conforming the gender of the baby helps the lady to abort the embryo...some times because of misdiagnosis male embryo is also get aborted! Now the point is that the people who are getting indulged in these activites are mostly illeterate ones...what should be say about the Doctors who are making this this flourishing for the want of mere money?! Have you ever heard anything like this before or do you have such practices in your country? Please respond! Thanks!
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@lovebuglena (6516)
• Staten Island, New York
16 Feb
If women don't give birth to girls there won't be a continuation of generations. There is nothing wrong with revealing to the pregnant woman if she is going to have a boy or a girl. It is her choice to know or not to know. No one else should have a say in this.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
I agree with you...it seems you have not gone through the discussion completely...please go through it and please make your second response or add response! You will understand why I said so! Thanks!
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@Daljinder (21688)
• India
16 Feb
Hate to tell you the truth but educated people in India are worse than illiterate ones when it comes to such practices -dowry or foeticide. Illiterate people need to first know that there is such thing called amniocentesis that can tell the gender of unborn child. Educated ones are already well aware of this. So, who has the more chance of going for those tests on the sly? The educated ones! Same with dowry! A doctor and engineer demand dowries in lakhs and crores blatantly just because of their qualification. Ever heard a poor illiterate villager from a rural area asking for crores in dowry? Again who come out as worse here? The educated ones! Remember the Nirbhaya case? Well the "educated" lawyer defended the culprits and shamed the victim for being out late at night with a guy friend. Then shamed the guy friend by saying he wasn't man enough to protect the victim. See? That is how much educated these so called degree holders are! Holding credentials are worth sh*t. They hardly bear proof of their qualification coz admittingly Indian education system produce robots. Not educated or learned individuals. The sick mentality, the rotten patriarchy, the irrational faith in anything remotely religious without credible proof for ex the fake babas, the corrupt politicians, etc.. There is no cure for that yet. Honestly! It is all stupidity. Indians themselves are ruining India. Their priorities are so screwed that it isn't even funny anymore. They have no one else to blame that for.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
Yes, dear friend these facts are known to every Indian and I also mentioned in one of my response that even so called as affluent people...for I can't call them educated.....(as in case of family members of Lalu Yadav whose all daughters are doctors who hardly appeared in any exam to qualify the degree of MBBS) dear friend! But the point is , it will not serve the purpose if we think that we ourselves, our society and politicians are responsible for this and nothing can be done to improve the situation! Things are changing and in the future times we will get to see entirely different picture as the girls in india are getting educated and are touching new heights! I am hopeful and expecting my fellow Indian to be hopeful and join the movement against this evil ! thanks dear @Daljinder ! Thanks!
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• Northampton, England
17 Feb
Time for Britain to take back control of India!
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
Unfortunately things were worst then dear friend @thedevilinme! Then people were struggling for the bread and for their existence! ! Today the independent India is coming out of the the all the wounds that got inflicted on its during that regime and I am sure with changing times things will be fine ! This is the rural part I am talking about! Urban part is very advanced and it is contributing its intelligence and technology towards the progress of whole World. Most of the top CEO in the big companies are Indians! Thanks!
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@bunnybon7 (36883)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Feb
no way. as you must know by now from reading here our country is quite different on all those beliefs. except for a few religions that share the virgin part and pretty much every religion here are against abortion for any reason.
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@prashu228 (25808)
• India
16 Feb
@bunny. I agree all religions are against , but all these so called dirty things are not happening openly.. it's kept in dark. No one will agree openly.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
Yes I understand that and I am sure with the changing times things will improve here also in my country dear friend @bunnybon7 !Thanks!
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• Northampton, England
17 Feb
@prashu228Its pathetic. Little Indian kids are so cute. Why would you want to kill that.?
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@nanette64 (17682)
• Fairfield, Texas
17 Feb
India needs to get a grip on their population 'problem' @AKRao24 . Right now they are in 2nd place behind China with a pop of 1.348 BILLION; which is a crock of crap and needs to stop.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
I fully agree with you...unfortunately India is a secular state and we pay respect to every religion and caste which prevails here, but then unfortunates some people are taking undue advantages! When family planning program was introduced most Hindus implemented to have a kid or maximum two, the Muslim community never paid any ear to it and still today you can see children more than 8 to 10 in each family there! Reason Muslin leaders want more number so that they can win their elections with this population which is so pathetic! Muslim laws are untouched and that's why Muslims are taking advantage to ruin the country and its welfare (No bad intention intended here)! Thanks dear @nanette64 ! Hope you understood the actual problem! By the way I have only one kid who has grown up as an adult today! Thanks!
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@nanette64 (17682)
• Fairfield, Texas
17 Feb
@AKRao24 Sadly, things probably won't change. I am 'proud' of you however.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
To change any thing one needs to a optimistic dear @nanette64, so I am ! Thanks!
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@shaggin (37116)
• United States
16 Feb
Wow that all seems so strange to me and sad
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
That is not only strange but it is disgusting to the societies in India who are adopting such things and defaming the whole country dear @shaggin ! Thanks!
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@NJChicaa (42225)
• United States
16 Feb
I agree with the law. It is a shame that your country has such disregard and disrespect for women. Without them, men wouldn’t exist!
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
That is so true...woman is the one who is responsible to continue the generations...it's beacuse of illiteracy of the people in the rural society it was prevalent! But the main culprits are the Doctors who are promoting this notion to make money for themselves! I also feel that they should be punished hard! Thanks dear @NJChicaa!
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@Hannihar (38104)
12 Apr
@AKRao24 That is very sad. I know after a certain time the ultrasound will tell if boy or girl. In Judaism they prefer boys to care on the name but a girl to me is just as special to have.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
12 Apr
I appreciate your views ! I never had gender discrimination in my life! For me both the genders are equal! But unfortunately for various reasons people in India they don't prefer to have girl child, especially in rural parts @Hannihar!
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@Hannihar (38104)
12 Apr
@AKRao24 I am sorry.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
12 Apr
@Hannihar , Now the things are gradually changing and within few more decades to come things will change more! Thanks!
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@toniganzon (51626)
• Philippines
17 Feb
In South Korea doctors used to be prohibited from revealing the gender. Baby boys were considered worthy in their world while baby girls aren't, which also resorted to mothers getting an abortion when they are carrying a female child. But not in our country, there has been no prohibition at all.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
Prohibition is imposed when there is discrimination in the gender of baby in the society. If the babies of both gender are looked after equally then why should there be any prohibition dear @toniganzon ! Thanks!
@toniganzon (51626)
• Philippines
17 Feb
@AKRao24 There was a discrimination in our country between the two genders too back in the past but no prohibition was ever imposed to the doctors. Male children were always ever given priority over female children. In fact only male children in the past were allowed to go to school.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
Here also we had such scene, but now things are getting changed though it will take a long time to completely change the situation dear @toniganzon ! Thanks!
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@Courage7 (7921)
• United States
16 Feb
Oh I did not know this ..this is strange
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
And Shocking too dear @Courage7 ! unfortunately together with the illiterate people some families from so called from affluent families are also doing like this! This is a shameful act!
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@Courage7 (7921)
• United States
16 Feb
@AKRao24 Yes it surely is shameful
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
But we need to fight against such a gruesome crime dear @Courage7 ! Thankfully Government has initiated the firm step against this but as usual there are many law breakers who are becoming factors of hindrance here! Thanks!
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• Cuddalore, India
16 Feb
Its offense here.Many villages some nausty doctors make filthy things. They would get money and open the gender. Some compounder too involved in this. I am not saying all doctors ,few rare cases
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
I agree with you dear @Lignitecityabishek96 ! Despite such strict laws there are doctors who still practice to determine the gender and undertake or helping people to undertake abortions for the want of money dear friend! This is disgusting and young people of the society unite and fight against such people who are encouraging such dirty practices! Thanks!
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• Cuddalore, India
16 Feb
@AKRao24 I will stand with you
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
You must...since you are an energetic young man you must fight agaist this cruelty by educating and convincing the people that their thinking are not proper and they need to change dear @Lignitecityabishek96 ! You need not take arms and fight against the society for this dear friend!
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@prashu228 (25808)
• India
16 Feb
It's bad, but now a days Government is providing many schemes to those who have girl child , like depositing some money on girls name etc.. hope this is working..
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@prashu228 (25808)
• India
16 Feb
@AKRao24 yes of course lots of things are changing now but still , we can see lot of crimes happening against women..
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
Yes I agree and we can discuss about those issues later on in the relevant discussions dear @prashu228 ! Presently let us concentrate on one issue and discuss about it at length to come to one conclusion to have a solution! Thanks!
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@prashu228 (25808)
• India
16 Feb
@AKRao24 this issue has to be addressed , by conducting some awareness programs among (illiterate) people, by some NGO's and Government.
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@Meramar (2432)
17 Feb
It's a pity to here that there is such a big difference between girls and boys. In Spain, the doctor (if it's a private one) makes you an ultrasound once a month. In the fifth one, there is a special one where the doctor is supposed to see the gender. But, he/she always asks the future parents if they want to know the gender. Here, you can decide or choose whether you want to know it or not.
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@Meramar (2432)
17 Feb
@AKRao24 It's a bit difficult to understand for someone, who doesn't know well your culture. As far as I see, it seems like the doctors protect the babies which will be female by not telling to the parents that it will be a girl. The point which is difficult to understand is, why should the parents abort a female, as the female is the complement of the males. The males need the females to get married with and to have children in the future. It's the way to assure new generations. A world with only males or only females living in wouldn't be possible.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
18 Feb
Dear friend @Meramar , if you go through the discussion then you will come to know why people in general don't want a girl child in India! To get a girl child married parents need to give lot of money to the boy in gthe form of dowry which may be in some millions some times! So to avoaid this paraents prefet to have boy to girl! Thanks!
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@Meramar (2432)
18 Feb
@AKRao24 Your are right, I missed that part! In the passed, this habit existed in more cultures.
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@JudyEv (125891)
• Bunbury, Australia
17 Feb
I know this happens and it is very sad that it is so. It will take a long time for these traditions to change. When my mother was pregnant some 80 years ago, she didn't know she was having twins and neither did the doctor. It was a surprise to both of them.
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@JudyEv (125891)
• Bunbury, Australia
17 Feb
@AKRao24 I believe what you're saying. Politicians have their own agendas. That's why I say it will take a long time before there will be major changes. But every change starts with a small step.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
I really understand that dear @JudyEv ! but today the guilty politicians are ruthlessly punished and they are jailed without any fear anymore! This is a welcome change and things looks improving! Thanks!
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@JudyEv (125891)
• Bunbury, Australia
18 Feb
@AKRao24 That is really good news. Some people are very short-sighted and can't see more than a few years ahead. They give no thought to what would be best in the long-term.
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@LadyDuck (163135)
• Switzerland
17 Feb
Here it is perfectly normal to ask to the doctor which gender your baby is. There is no difference between boys and girls. Thanks God girls are not seen as a burden in this country.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
If there is no bad intention after knowing the gender then what is the problem of getting know about the gender of the baby expected? On the contrary by knowing the gender parents can arrange the things for the baby in advance to avoid eleventh hour's arrangements! Thanks!
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@LadyDuck (163135)
• Switzerland
17 Feb
@AKRao24 Parents want to know so they can buy what they need for a boy or for a girl. This is the reason why they want to know.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
Yes dear @LadyDuck that is quite natural and sensible thing to do dear friend! Thanks!
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@Happy2BeMe (75072)
• Canada
16 Feb
That is sad. I can not even imagine living that way. Women should be treated with much more respect. They are the mothers who bring men into the world and raise them. I would not be happy living that way.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
That is what the rural and illiterate people in India wanted to be taught dear friend @Happy2BeMe! Unfortunate part is that mothers and Mother in laws for get that they are also females and because of them the generation got spread ahead! Thanks for your sincere and thoughtful comment dear friend! God bless!
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@Happy2BeMe (75072)
• Canada
16 Feb
@AKRao24 You are welcome.
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@maximax8 (28490)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun
I live in England. I like to know my baby's gender so I can buy blue for a boy or pink for a girl. I had a gender scan and he was a boy. I later from out at 36 weeks pregnancy he is disabled. I went for a detailed scan to look to see if my next baby was disabled. I asked the gender and he said a girl. Yes, he was right. Both genders are loved in England. All people have feelings and I wish the female was more valued.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
5 Jun
That is absolutely fine so long the intentions are clean and healthy! But unfortunately in India after knowing the gender of the baby , many people they either abort the child or they are rather forced to abort the child by the in laws, if the baby found to be a female.This is very unfortunate thing! That is why it is made illegal in India to determine the gender of a baby in uterus! Thanks!
@galileo2008 (1147)
• Philippines
17 Feb
If this is case, the parents must not ask the doctor about the gender of their baby. But I also believe that the parents have the right to do so. What saddens me is the way how women are being treated in India. This is really sad.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
Unfortunately because of the illiteracy and the wicked moves by the local leaders the women are becoming the enemies of the female child! every one is thinking about their own families and no body bothers about the country in general. Today in Haryana state and punjab state the ratio of girl child is considerably less to the boy which is not good for the society at all! Thanks dear @galileo2008 !
@sjvg1976 (18368)
• Delhi, India
17 Feb
Yes that's the mentality of people here in India. Things are changing here but still not to an extent . Girls here are still not seen equal to the boys here. And we need to change it soon as it's the main hurdle in our country's development.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
17 Feb
I fully agree your views and I am seeing the difference dear @sjvg1976 ! In fact I came to the state of Haryana in nineties and since then there has been a big change. Now girl child is being sent to schools and colleges and they are outshining the boys in many fields. But as you say it will take time to get the things completely change! Thanks!
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@mandala100 (45962)
• Hong Kong
16 Feb
@AKRao24 That's very interesting piece of information to know my friend. Is this sort of "double standard" with regards to "boys" and "girls" thing changing now with modern times my friend? or is it still a strong cultural tradition? Thank you my friend.
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@AKRao24 (19637)
• India
16 Feb
Yes... things are changing but I think it will take another generation or so to eliminate this mindset from the minds of the people residing in rural India as the girls in those places have started to go to school and trying to get themselves educated and qualified dear @mandala100 ! I am having hopes from these girls who can do the real difference! Thanks!