Do I still have any fight left? Otherwise known as....

United States
February 27, 2018 10:50am CST
I started my life having to fight, all be it one individual it was still a fight. I was beaten every day, sexually abused, bullied, and forced to watch atrocities that most people wouldn't believe. That all was at the hand oloty brother. It was useless telling my parents as they would talk to him, tell him to stop and expect it to happen. What would happen is the beatings would be worse for my telling. I quickly learned to keep my mouth shut. It didn't stop the abuse, but it wasn't as bad. The abuse quit when my sibling turned 21 and my parents threw him out. That was enough battle for a lifetime, but now I face a new bully. My HOA. It seems like I can't satisfy them. They wanted liability insurance, I got it...now they say I also need it to cover them too. But to cover them I now need a structure on the lot. I don't have a structure on the lot because it burned down October second of last year thanks to the power company. If I don't get the additional insurance I face a $500 fine. One would think that would be a big enough fight, but the HOA also wants my lot cleared and my attorney wants it left as is so that his inspector can view it. If I don't get the lot cleared I face expulsion from the association with no payment for my lot, which means they can sell the lot and keep the money. The head of the HOA and one of the members came by and offered me "a way out" which amounted to my selling the lot to someone who doesn't have the guts to come to me and let me know who they are. It's almost like being in a major prize fight where my opposition is constantly coming up with new ways to fight dirty so I'll give up and he can win the big prize. Its not allowing an extra minute or two for me to catch my breath before boring in some more...before coming up with something else that will make me cry "Okay, you win, I quit, take it - take it all !!!!!!". I just don't know how much fight I have left! I just want my little home, my furry babies, and my car back!!!! That's a big enough fight for me right now.
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@akalinus (40352)
• United States
27 Feb 18
I am sorry that happened to you when you were just a kid. Your parents should have stood up for you. Life makes you tough. HOAs are another thing. I think they are mini terrorist organizations. Many of the people are on power trips and just want to get their way. Someone wants the lot and the building on it burned down. What a coincidence.
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• United States
27 Feb 18
They get full of themselves and go on a huge power trip! They don't care who they hurt or step on while they're on their power trip. What is amusing to me is after they go on their power trip it seems like it never fails, they need a "favor" from the people they've hurt the most. The people on the power trip don't hesitate to ask for the favors....
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@akalinus (40352)
• United States
28 Feb 18
@BearArtistLady That is the way the world works.
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• United States
1 Mar 18
@akalinus The biggest reason I love my home is that I could "hole in" and hide away from the people on either power trips or ego trips. I didn't have them coming around pestering me. Hopefully that will get back to normal soon,, and I can have MY world back.
@shaggin (71573)
• United States
1 Mar 18
That is absolutely horrible what your brother did to you and what your parents allowed basically. I am so sorry you had to go through life that way. This is terrible what the HOA is doing to you!
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@shaggin (71573)
• United States
1 Mar 18
@BearArtistLady wonderful!
• United States
1 Mar 18
I've been in contact with my attorney and he wrote the HOA Board a letter that will have them wetting their pants in unison. Especially with the board trying to get my lot for a tenth of its actual value. I'd love to be a fly on the wall when the letter is read!
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
2 Apr 18
Toni, I'm so sorry. I had no idea you were fighting so many battles. I'm frustrated just dealing with my bank and my insurance company, but I was fortunately enough to have good parents and a sibling I get along with, and I'm the one who's ten years older. I will keep you in my prayers. Let me know if you need anything in the way of household goods. I'm cleaning and decluttering and giving tons of stuff away. Maybe some of it would be of use to you.
@mohit459 (12568)
• Haldwani, India
28 Feb 18
Sorry for you!.. .. Though we can't genuine understand how much you have gone through... But I'm sure you are living a much better life now..
@mohit459 (12568)
• Haldwani, India
1 Mar 18
@BearArtistLady have a marvellous day . And whatever happens I'm sorry .... I know whatever happens is like a mark but still try to forget it and move on in your life...
• United States
2 Mar 18
@mohit459 Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I'm about to do another post on thee "Bullies" subject. I will say it is a bit on the funny side! Watch for it!
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• United States
1 Mar 18
After I spoke to my attorney and he has written a letter to the HOA. After the HOA Board receives the letter things should be much better. I don't handle bullies well and that is what these people are. Thank you for your post and your kind words, they mean a LOT!
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