Is MyLot too boundless?

There have been exceptions, there have been a few meaningful discussions that got the popularity they deserved. However, there are things we can do to make this happen more often. By liking and commenting, the discussion has more chances to appear in the Hot/Top Rated sections. You can also suggest a discussion to your followers, obviously you can't suggest your own. Then that's how "democracy" works, the people decide what goes viral and what does not. We can't ignore the fact a mundane discussion is easier to read and engage with, compared to something that requires time and thought to be processed and responded to. In the end, myLot is about socialization, "treated" as a personal journal most of the time. It would be different if it was a café for intellectuals, it wouldn't be the myLot we all know about. It would be another site, I mean. But we can still make it what we want it to be. For instance, we can create tags for thoughtful matters or limit ourselves to follow those whose content is interesting and unique enough for our tastes.

I have always felt that mylot is a sort of party offline. I don´t talk to everyone at a big party. I walk from group to group until I discover people talking about things that interest me. I don´t expect people to change: they cannot. So I look for birds that have feathers like my own. Not even family is the same as us. We have to look for what we want here and there. Sometimes, even what seems a basic post is interesting for me is it is one from another part of the world. I then learn about what people from other countries think, do or eat.

The first thing I noticed about this site is that it is mainly banter. I think one of my most popular discussions was about what people like on their toast and I knew it would be because it's something that nearly everyone can reply to. If you are here for intellectual discussion you won't find a lot to interest you although there are a few people who write serious posts; as JJ says, you won't get much interaction on them. Despite all that I am enjoying the site this time round and there are some friendly people here. I generally flit back and forth and don't stay long but this time round I think I shall stick around for a while.

I tried intelligent posts years ago. They were ignored because people were lost by them. While some people are willing to engage, they quickly lose interest. A lot of people are here to figure out their lives, and are frustrated to the point where they just engage in the mundane and ordinary.

It is what it is. Unless you plan to recruit a new caliber of members or start writing many theses per week yourself, I don’t think the site will change.

Just because you think a topic isn't up to snuff, does not mean that's the popular opinion.

There are a lot of meaningful discussions here that aren't too boring too.

Perhaps you would be happier elsewhere? I don't mean you're not welcome but I do think you have misunderstood the philosophy of the site and the reason for it. One of the nicest things aboutMyLot is that it is open to anyone and that anyone can start a discussion. There is no pressure to be anyone other than yourself. This has meant for example great joy and occupation for a lady in advanced years who doesn't always make the greatest deal of sense, but many of us love her anyway and love to respond to her posts. What is so wonderful about myLot is that she can continue without anybody saying she has got to a point where she needs to stop. I'd also welcome someone with a learning disability which meant that they didn't always have the greatest ability to write in the way that most of us can. This is the place where people become equal and there are very few places like that in the world today. We do have serious discussions and we also have non-serious discussions. We tell each other things that affect us, things we have found out, things that puzzle us, and things that worry us, as well as the things that have given us joy. If I wanted to post about nuclear physics I could. If I wanted to post about paleontology I would. I wouldn't be censured for being too intellectual. On the other hand there are days when I just want to be really silly and it's great to come here. Even in the greatest of universities I think you will find that people have their silly moments among the deep debates. You will find shopkeepers who have degrees discussing the weather. It that way my lot resembles real life. Most of us are quite capable of being adult enough to make her own choices as to what we reply to. In the world, we interact with many different people and many different levels of discussion. In a day I discussed with those who can't talk on a deep level and those who can. What has been so good about this site and will continue to be so is the fact that I can on one day post about a serious accident and the effect it has on me or others, contribute a poem or story that I happen to have written, discuss the meaning of life and my faith with others, read a devotiona, discuss politics and make a contact who actually proved to be of use to my life in the wider world. I can also have a laugh and a joke which is why my cat sometimes makes an appearance. What you are trying to do is find something that this site was never meant for. If you want a serious discussion site, limited to only serious discussion, then set one up yourself. Most of the people here are quite happy with the way things are because they have made friendships and have a place to "discuss" in any way which takes their fancy at any time in the day without the normal rules and regulations of a "writing" site. I think your post shows that you have totally misunderstood what this site is about. By all means start an intellectual discussion if that's what you want and those who want that kind of discussion will probably join in with you. I may be one of them depending on how my mood takes me. You will not achieve any discussion by failing to interact with others. If you cannot find any posts to interact with then maybe you need another kind of site. The key here is INTERACTION. Please don't try and think that you are going to improve things by imposing your own standards upon a site which has brought joy and often a great deal of companionship to many to many. The intelligent way to deal with the post you don't wish to answer or don't approve of is to simply pass on by. That's what the rest of us do. If you want larger numbers for your post then you will need to engage with others. I think you'll find that by and large most people have something quite meaningful to say at times. One of the most important things to remember is that part of the guidelines are that we do not criticize others for the way they write their content. This is not the place to come if you want perfect grammar. As long as the post makes sense most of us are quite happy because we understand the philosophy of the site.

You can post whatever you like as long as follows the rules of myLot. The test of your posting will be the response that you get. If you get few responses, then you know that is not what the readers want to talk about. I have been there, trying to write quality posts and failing with them. My readers are more interested in animals or what my neighbors have been doing. So, I repeat. Write for the audience.

It is what it is. As long as your post is positive, post it. Somethings might never work sorry to say