How to get rid of my close friend?
March 8, 2018 12:13pm CST
I am in a very complex situation and need some advice. I have friend of mine since I was a child. Now I feel he is not changing himself as most of time when we get older we change. He is not working and all the time spending time in bad activities and want me to hangout with him. I felt he is dragging me and wasting my time. How I can get rid of him.
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• Corsham, England
If he's trying to get you involved in bad stuff you should just drop him. Tell him you're not interested in the same things as him any more, don't answer his calls and distance yourself from him. You don't want him getting you into trouble.
If you could tell him directly then better do that. But if you can't be frank or direct, you can make excuses just to avoid him. I could not tell a person directly because I may offend him, so what I do is think of excuses just to avoid the person.
• United States
I would just tell him that. Tell him that people change and grow in different ways and sometimes people aren't meant to stay in our lives. I had a friend for 13ish years and we don't talk as much now as we used to. I simply changed and grew as a person and they didn't and I didn't have time or room in my life for people like her anymore. If what he is doing will affect your life in a negative way then tell him that. You are trying to get yourself together and be an adult and have a successful life and you can't do that if you are always hanging out with someone who has no motivation to better themselves. He might surprise you and change for the better with this information or he might just get mad about it. If he gets mad at you for wanting to better your life then he isn't a good or real friend anyway and you don't need him around.
• United States
I had a childhood friend who I had to "get rid of" in our mid 20s. She had problems after problems - I could not stand being an ear any longer. I couldn't really "tell" her as she was not one to listen anyway . . . . so I wrote it in a letter. I told her exactly how I felt AND I told her this was not to resolve anything - I wanted to end the friendship. And that is what happened. It was a great weight off my shoulders!