Trust issues are real

@Gvdess (54)
March 9, 2018 10:47pm CST
Everyone in their lifetime goes through something that causes them not to trust much anymore. Some people go through traumatizing things and others deal with minor things . What are some things that caused you not to trust as much anymore and how has it impacted you in the long run? For me , it would have to be the fact I was sexually abused as a kid . Not only by my own family members but my mothers boyfriend. I no longer play victim to it and I forgave everyone a long time ago but I do speak on it as learning lessons for people to understand you don’t have to be what hurt you . Nor do you have to let it take over your life .
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
10 Mar 18
Please, do not play victims to it any longer. A paedophile has a problem. Always remember that and you are not the problem. Did you report the abuse to your mother?
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
10 Mar 18
@Gvdess I am sure you were scarred by the experience?
Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
10 Mar 18
@Gvdess I understand. Some victims even blame themselves for the abuse.
Kenya Ware
@Gvdess (54)
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10 Mar 18
@mydanods scared would be the least of how I felt at the time
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paigea
@paigea (35693)
• Canada
17 Mar 18
Amazing that you can face what happened to you and remind us that we don't have to be what hurt us. Take care.
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Kenya Ware
@Gvdess (54)
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17 Mar 18
Thank you. But trust me it took me years to learn that & a lot of faith. And when I finally got there I refused to look back
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Kenya Ware
@Gvdess (54)
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22 Mar 18
Thank you :)
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Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
10 Mar 18
I salute you for being so brave and admitting what happened to you. I’m not sure I have trust issues at all as I’m actually very gullible but I’ve been through tough, even traumatic experiences in life as well. It’s just something that I don’t really talk much in public.
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Kenya Ware
@Gvdess (54)
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10 Mar 18
And I commend you for that . I feel personally every struggle we face makes us who we are today & guides us to be a better person tomorrow
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Swayamsiddha Dash
@Swayamsiddha (4358)
• New Delhi, India
10 Mar 18
Its very sad that your own family members sexually abused you. Do you live with them ? Do you live away from them?
Kenya Ware
@Gvdess (54)
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10 Mar 18
They are both currently in jail for unrelated matters so I no longer have to deal with them
Louise Crisologo
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
10 Mar 18
Hi. I do not trust people who cannot keep their word. Trust is a big factor for me, though I give second chances but when that second chance is abused, I am sorry but it is goodbye. I have a hard time believing people that I feel like that everything they say or do is a lie.
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Louise Crisologo
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
10 Mar 18
@Gvdess I understand. My dad is the same as you. He is civil to those people who have no trust with but trust is another thing.
Kenya Ware
@Gvdess (54)
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10 Mar 18
You have that right . I believe everyone deserves a second chance because we are all human and we do mess up but if I can’t trust you then there isn’t a point in furthering our association.
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Debashri Das
@deba12 (2951)
• India
10 Mar 18
Yes, you're right. But many people has cheated my emotions, sometimes in the name of love and sometimes by promising me to give a job. I have forgiven them as I have no other way out. Now, I am not ready to play as a victim and thus has become more strict.
Kenya Ware
@Gvdess (54)
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10 Mar 18
Which plays hand in hand w/unable to trust easily and it is fully understandable
Jotomy
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
10 Mar 18
I really pity on you, this is so bad. You are so good you forgiven everyone. Be god side and be blessed. forget everything and concentrate on what you want to do and be in prayers. I can understand your feelings it hurts a lot.
Honey143
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
10 Mar 18
I'm glad you become stronger despite what happened to you in the past. Trust every new beginnings but never trust any person totally again. Thanks for sharing.
Starmaiden
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
10 Mar 18
Although Ive been betrayed by many people including those I considered close friends and family, I still try to give everyone I meet the benefit of the doubt. They only get it once. I do have trust issues when it comes to men for much the same reason as you.