Kith and Kin
By eileenleyva
@eileenleyva (27562)
Philippines
March 11, 2018 3:46am CST
Talk about the vicissitudes of life, there is one thing about Filipino mothers and their daughters who migrated to America puzzles me.
Many stories have it, tales of aching mothers who, in many ways than one, have received maltreatment from their own daughters.
There was one who threw a glass of water on her mother's face. Another slapped and pulled the hair of her almost nonanegarian mother. Another one literally asked her mother to leave home and dwell in a one-room rented flat.
I couldn't believe these stories of Pinoy immigrants. Back home, in our country, the Philippines, we offer our mothers the utmost care. My own mother resigned from work when my grandmother fell ill with cancer.
Have you heard uncanny tales of such abuse?
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
Indeed, Judy. In fact, of all the sweetest words there ever is, the word mother is what I love most.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
15 Mar 18
It happened to my parents. My sister-in-law who was arranged to marry my brother who lives in America literally turned a different person when she arrived America. She literally chased my parents out of my brothers house because she didn't like them again. She had all sorts of excuses to give to my brother and was so quarrelsome that my brother became confused about the issue. My parents left the house to have their peace of mind.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
15 Mar 18
That is a very sad story indeed. I do hope your brother realizes the truth and reprimand his wife for being mean to his parents.
In-laws must respect and care for the old folks.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
15 Mar 18
@mydanods All in God's sweet precious time. He makes all things beautiful in His time.
Here's hoping your sister-in-law has a change of heart. No matter how worse situations are in life, there comes a time when things changes for the better.
I will keep a prayer for you and your family. Blessings to you.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
15 Mar 18
@eileenleyva He is slowly coming to realize his wife is lazy and argumentative. That's some success.
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@tmnjyk (3486)
• Canada
14 Mar 18
@eileenleyva yes of course, im filipino myself living in Canada. I signed up on this site sometime last 2006 when mylot just started and left around April 2007 when I started working full time and since then I forgot about this and last night for some reason, I remembered mylot! after all these years! hahaha and was surprised to see few messages from people back in 2007. I was happy I was able to find one on fabebook. She was surprised I found here. Wow! I can't believe its been that long ago since I was on here.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
14 Mar 18
@tmnjyk That's a wonderful story. I am glad you remembered. Mylot is a site where we can express freely our thoughts and opinions. Somehow, it also enhances our writing skills because we are compelled to read and write, 
Hope you get more wonderful experiences with our virtual friends here.
Hope you get more wonderful experiences with our virtual friends here.@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
13 Mar 18
Thank you.
I was given an immigrant visa but no, I had to let it go. My place is here and my country is more than good enough for me. My physical constitution, in the first place, calls for a tropical weather. I couldn't endure the cold.
The incidents you mentioned pertain to Filipinos?
@allen0187 (58438)
• Philippines
12 Mar 18
Heard about it but never experienced it first hand.
So sad.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
13 Mar 18
Sad indeed. Some of the stories I heard were unbelievable, for I knew those people. I couldn't understand why they became mean.
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@RasmaSandra (73220)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Mar 18
Parents should be taken care of and not abused. Sad to hear such things.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
11 Mar 18
Very sad. I am still in utter disbelief.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
13 Mar 18
Yes, Judy. I have a nephew and a niece who migrated to Sydney. They are both caregivers now and studying at the same time to become nurses. They both love their wards. My niece even use her personal money to purchase perfumed soaps and lotion, shampoo and body wash for her wards. When the family realized that, they reimbursed her expenses, to her dismay. She just loved caring for her wards.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
14 Mar 18
@JudyEv Australia was an awakening for my niece and my nephew. They were kinda becoming complacent with life back here. When they got to Sydney, responsibility and duty became the tall order of the day. But yes, both of them were very loving to their grandma. It was easy enough for them to love and care for the elderly.
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@JudyEv (325345)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Mar 18
@eileenleyva That is very kind of your niece.
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