Kith and Kin
March 11, 2018 3:46am CST
Talk about the vicissitudes of life, there is one thing about Filipino mothers and their daughters who migrated to America puzzles me. Many stories have it, tales of aching mothers who, in many ways than one, have received maltreatment from their own daughters. There was one who threw a glass of water on her mother's face. Another slapped and pulled the hair of her almost nonanegarian mother. Another one literally asked her mother to leave home and dwell in a one-room rented flat. I couldn't believe these stories of Pinoy immigrants. Back home, in our country, the Philippines, we offer our mothers the utmost care. My own mother resigned from work when my grandmother fell ill with cancer. Have you heard uncanny tales of such abuse?
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those are rude ladies to abuse their own mothers. hmmm maybe the mother is doing something unpleasant also to their daughters and theye just making a revenge. its sad but not all mothers deserved to be called a mother, some are irresponsible and torture their children.
It happened to my parents. My sister-in-law who was arranged to marry my brother who lives in America literally turned a different person when she arrived America. She literally chased my parents out of my brothers house because she didn't like them again. She had all sorts of excuses to give to my brother and was so quarrelsome that my brother became confused about the issue. My parents left the house to have their peace of mind.
@mydanods All in God's sweet precious time. He makes all things beautiful in His time. Here's hoping your sister-in-law has a change of heart. No matter how worse situations are in life, there comes a time when things changes for the better. I will keep a prayer for you and your family. Blessings to you.
Influences... Allow me to use another example. When i got to the east, your people swam fully clothed. Divorce is unheard of and people are happy. Travel to places exposed to western influences and they wear what my people wear, get divorced as much as white people do, and are as broken as we are. My cousins suffer from cystic fibrosis. Their dad earns a nice salary but does nothing to support them
The Philippines had been under many a colonial rule: the Arabs, the clannish Chinese, the hot-tempered Spaniards, and the Americans. Divorce is still a no-no, and many women are still prude. But true, the colonial mentality is a negative trait. But children, whether thay are Africans or Americans, Chinese, or English, or Filipinos, must love and care for their parents. Which province of my country did you enjoy most? What food did you like?
Thank you. I was given an immigrant visa but no, I had to let it go. My place is here and my country is more than good enough for me. My physical constitution, in the first place, calls for a tropical weather. I couldn't endure the cold. The incidents you mentioned pertain to Filipinos?
@eileenleyva yes of course, im filipino myself living in Canada. I signed up on this site sometime last 2006 when mylot just started and left around April 2007 when I started working full time and since then I forgot about this and last night for some reason, I remembered mylot! after all these years! hahaha and was surprised to see few messages from people back in 2007. I was happy I was able to find one on fabebook. She was surprised I found here. Wow! I can't believe its been that long ago since I was on here.
@tmnjyk That's a wonderful story. I am glad you remembered. Mylot is a site where we can express freely our thoughts and opinions. Somehow, it also enhances our writing skills because we are compelled to read and write, Hope you get more wonderful experiences with our virtual friends here.
Yes, Judy. I have a nephew and a niece who migrated to Sydney. They are both caregivers now and studying at the same time to become nurses. They both love their wards. My niece even use her personal money to purchase perfumed soaps and lotion, shampoo and body wash for her wards. When the family realized that, they reimbursed her expenses, to her dismay. She just loved caring for her wards.
@JudyEv Australia was an awakening for my niece and my nephew. They were kinda becoming complacent with life back here. When they got to Sydney, responsibility and duty became the tall order of the day. But yes, both of them were very loving to their grandma. It was easy enough for them to love and care for the elderly.