MY EYES ARE TIRED!

United States
March 12, 2018 3:36pm CST
Another sleepless night. Although, my body is wired, my eyes are tired. And not to be inconsiderate, this is nothing new. I've been going through menopause the last few years. I've probably tried everything everyone is going to suggest. My symptoms are pretty severe. And some things that are supposed to heal just end up making things worse. And yes, I've looked into alternative medicines with a degreed licensed practitioner, as well. So, please no suggestions. I'm in as good a place as I can be. I've learned to go with it. The more I try and fight it the worse it is for me. Sleepless nights are just part of it. I have found women that are in the same boat as I am. Nothing works for them, either. Some of us have kind of isolated ourselves, for the most part. It's easier on our loved ones. This too, will end. Unfortunately, it could be 5 years to 25 years.
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@psandra (73)
12 Mar 18
Try to drink hot milk with a spoon of honey, maybe it will help you!
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• United States
12 Mar 18
Thank you. Tried that before I knew it was menopause. If it wasn't menopause, it would probably help.
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• Okotoks, Alberta
12 Mar 18
Good idea the warm milk
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@mydanods (6514)
• Nigeria
12 Mar 18
I have a friend who always walks in the sun and walks barefoot who has menopause problems. She says it helps to relieve the pain.
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@mydanods (6514)
• Nigeria
13 Mar 18
@KindredSoul Please, follow the directions of the physicians you have seen about the condition. You might be having other symptoms apart from menopause.
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• United States
12 Mar 18
Fortunately, I can't say I feel pain. Well, perhaps when I try to sleep. It's a weird kind of pain. It's kind of like a highly charged sense of frustration. It actually does hurt. I don't know if I'm explaining it correctly. Otherwise, it's more an unreasonable level or anger or rage. The ones that scare me are the ones I don't remember. I'm not an angry person. I love rainbows and butterflies and I still believe in unicorns and fairies and Santa Clause! I get along with children far more easily than I do with adults. Or at least I used to. :-(
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• United States
13 Mar 18
@Strawberry18 Oh, don't get me wrong. I'm a beach blossom and I always will be...so I am well aware of how therapeutic walking barefoot can be.
@anikoonline (3254)
• Hungary
13 Mar 18
It will be over one day (hopefully sooner than later).
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• United States
13 Mar 18
I'm soooo looking forward to it!
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@mlgen1037 (29901)
• Manila, Philippines
13 Mar 18
I do not remember my mom going thru like that during her menopausal stage or maybe she was not vocal about it. But nevertheless, I am sure you will surpass this.
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@mlgen1037 (29901)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Mar 18
@KindredSoul thank you for this, my friend. It would absolutely help us and be educated. We never talked anything about menopause that is why we are unaware that there is something more to it. I am sorry for the way things ended up with you and your husband. But really, you helped us future generations to be aware of menopause. It is a big help for us.
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• United States
14 Mar 18
@mlgen1037 You are quite welcome. I remember seeing it in other women. The ones that would stick out most are when I would see women completely freak out. For what seemed to be no reason at all. Then literally the next moment they turn their head to look at someone and would honestly and kindly ask "What?" They had no idea what transpired just moments before. I had done that. Those are the moments that scare me the most because I have no memory of what I should be apologizing for.
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• United States
13 Mar 18
It will. In retrospect, it explains a lot about my mother. At least, I'd like to believe it was menopause. I've posted about it and talked about it a few times. I'm often thanked for talking about it because it is a sensitive and personal issue. In fact, did you know that it is not uncommon for marriages to end in divorce because of menopause? Menopause is not the same for everyone. I had to suffer 7 years of perimenopause. I had no idea what was going on with me. My doctors were also baffled. For me menopause in any form wasn't a consideration because it started in my early 30's. Everyone just chalked it up to stress. Menopause was something my mother and her generation did not talk about. Which I believe is such a disservice to the next generation of women. Daughters should know what to prepare for. We all should. I got married when I was 34. If I knew I about menopause, I wouldn't have. I got divorced 10 years later. My then husband found it too difficult to deal with. And I don't blame him.
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
12 Mar 18
I am fortunate to not experience severe symptoms of menopause. I dont even get hot flashes too often. I had a hysterectomy a few years ago because of cervical cancer. I still have my ovaries, but everything else was removed. I dont even have mood swings.
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• Canada
12 Mar 18
@KindredSoul keep perservering. Menopause is the least understood of women's afflictions. :-)
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• United States
12 Mar 18
@Starmaiden Thank you for that. Many people don't understand that. I try to be as patient and I can be considering I'm going through it and I still don't understand it. --{--{@
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• United States
12 Mar 18
Wow! It must be nice. While I was trying to fight it and make it better it turned my life upside down and nearly destroyed my relationships. At the very least everyone is terrified of me. LOL! I was one of those that was always happy. Apparently, everyone's best friend. In sensitive situations, I endeavoured to weigh my words carefully. I was the one everyone came to for any advise. I was the neighborhood mom! Well, my verbal filter is all but gone and at times I have an impossibly short fuse if any at all. Since I have stopped trying to make it better, it is better.
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@lynnief (1203)
• Australia
12 Mar 18
I'm one of those blessed ones who have not had any menopause symptoms. My heart goes out to those like you who suffer so badly. I hope you will get through it quickly.
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• United States
13 Mar 18
Thank you. I appreciate that. Often women that have had mild forms of menopause will try and tell me what worked for them should work for me. I've learned to take a deep breath and walk away. I envy all of you. It will pass. I just need to roll with it.
@sw8sincere (5206)
• Philippines
13 Mar 18
sorry to hear about what you are experiencing but I hope it shall surpass soon.
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• Okotoks, Alberta
12 Mar 18
I hate those nights. Usually when I have alot on my mind or am stressed. I feel for you and I wish you a better sleep tonight
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• United States
12 Mar 18
Yes. Thank you. I'm trying to keep myself from napping otherwise I know it will be another sleepless night tonight. I'm not one to nap. When I do it just messes up my entire sleep schedule for days.
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