If you dont drive...
@ricki_911 (21625)
Toronto, Ontario
March 12, 2018 9:31pm CST
This is really irritating..
So in the single group two of which dont drive. They live in town but realistically here if you dont drive then you cant go anywhere.
Also, here if you dont drive then it shows irresponsibility and immaturity. No public transit. If you cant budget a car in then not many date you or even hang out with you.
We made an event to a local pub for st pattys day. This guy messages me... ok he is 6 years older than me and roughly 3 months ago left the states. So at first back months ago i pivked him up or dropped him off. Yes, out of my way now at that time it was about 3 weeks since he moved back.
Now 3 months later.. he messages me and keeps asking me to drive him around. I told it i drive right past this place and my house is 40 minutes away so yes a hassle and fact i did it for free. Since 3 months have gone by why hasnt he got a car. He has people taking him to work and events etc.
You can get a used car for $1,000. He lives and works in town so very minor trek and km on it compared to say myself who puts 100 to 150km a day on my car (so i need a better car).
So i asked ... i can budget it and have for years. Its a priority. He is always say he is leaving work and going out to eat. So why cant he afford a car?.
Why say yea i can go then show up but then oh i dont have a ride home.
I said ask these two ladies as they live closer (maybe a 10 minute walk from his house) as its literally 20 minutes out of my way.
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7 responses
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
13 Mar 18
He may have disability that prevents him from obtaining his licence and driving. I could never get my licence because I have seizures. I rely on public transit, my feet and taxis.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
13 Mar 18
He has a drivers licence . Drove in canada and the States. Only thing i can think of is he mentioned about an conviction ie speeding etc. Our laws are different than the states. So once you transfer it over may mean he will have issues here.
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@shaggin (71664)
• United States
13 Mar 18
If he can afford to go out and eat all the time then he can save that money up to buy a car and pay for insurance etc. But maybe there is a reason. Maybe he has a DUI and is not allowed to drive. My daughter was born with nystagmus and will likely never be able to drive so I hope people don't judge her and not want to date her because of it as it is not her fault.
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@shaggin (71664)
• United States
14 Mar 18
@ricki_911 I think it is awesome that he was a stay at home dad! But now that he isn't with his wife he need to work. Even if the pay is little it is worth it to work to pay for the things he needs. He needs to stop relying on others and get his act together!
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
14 Mar 18
@shaggin He picked to stay home and love kids. But i also think support one self and their kids. Not that i make a lot of money. But when he cant get the basic (phone, car, etc). Now a days you cant have everything and stay home. He has to pay child support and frankly i believe he was just trying to win me over 
. He kept sayng how hr stayed home with his kid until school age then worked short days to pick her up. But then also made comments how laxy his ex was. I believe now she was typical welfare and he knows i could never do that. I work for what i have and if that means working 3 jobs. I refuse to support a man.
He doesnt seem to have an idea of how life works such as rent, or budget a car with rent etc. So its making me wonder now. He should be able to pay his child support plus rent then a cheap car. I can see not being able to afford a brand new car (it gas taken me 5 years to bank up enough for a 2017 car) but $1,000 when he has no rent or bills minus child support. Example income should be with the hours he given $1,775 and have about $1,000 after child support every 2 weeks. So im not getting how hr doesnt have the money ot a penny in savings.
. He kept sayng how hr stayed home with his kid until school age then worked short days to pick her up. But then also made comments how laxy his ex was. I believe now she was typical welfare and he knows i could never do that. I work for what i have and if that means working 3 jobs. I refuse to support a man.
He doesnt seem to have an idea of how life works such as rent, or budget a car with rent etc. So its making me wonder now. He should be able to pay his child support plus rent then a cheap car. I can see not being able to afford a brand new car (it gas taken me 5 years to bank up enough for a 2017 car) but $1,000 when he has no rent or bills minus child support. Example income should be with the hours he given $1,775 and have about $1,000 after child support every 2 weeks. So im not getting how hr doesnt have the money ot a penny in savings.2 people like this
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
13 Mar 18
I was told i wouldnt drive but here iam. Yet, have a friend who has a medical condition and they would give her liecence she just doesnt want the cost. But he has a licence and has driven up until december when his ex took the car (he left her with everything). So iam thinking maybe it has to do with her and racking up debt. But $1,000 for a cheap car, and insurance as hes 35. Would be max $200 a month but most likely less. $200 for plates. But i am rhinking now hes bad with money. He made a vomment about income as its not worth working (he apparently stayed home for 3 years with his kid). He vlaims he makes $900 less than me a month yet has a better job than me 
. I still cant understand his reasoning. He doesnt seem motivated or a priority so i think more to rhe story. When we went out a couple times he kept saying hes looking for a car just nothing cheap enough. So i sent him some links and nothing. I basically told him no way we can date because i work and have priorities. He just seems lazy now.
. I still cant understand his reasoning. He doesnt seem motivated or a priority so i think more to rhe story. When we went out a couple times he kept saying hes looking for a car just nothing cheap enough. So i sent him some links and nothing. I basically told him no way we can date because i work and have priorities. He just seems lazy now.2 people like this
@BarBaraPrz (45484)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Mar 18
When I was younger I used to regularly hitch-hike wherever I wanted to go, but not only is it against the law now, nobody would stop to pick up a person, anyway.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
13 Mar 18
I was going to say I didnt know it was illegal . But yes many dont bother now. But this is a reasonable walking distance. When i was younger before i was old enough to drive we walk towns and can take up to 5 hours.
. But yes many dont bother now. But this is a reasonable walking distance. When i was younger before i was old enough to drive we walk towns and can take up to 5 hours.2 people like this
@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
14 Mar 18
@ricki_911 I did to. There were many times I went to football games and would walk home from them even some were 2 miles or more.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
14 Mar 18
The guy needs to get his priorities sorted out.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
13 Mar 18
We have lots of public transit buses here so I find it hard to relate to the necessity of having a car as you described. It can be frustrating though if someone keeps on annoying you with requests to drive him around when he can just budget for his own car. If you want to live in a neighborhood, you must first ask what are required to live there. You don't just pack in and assume all will be well.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
13 Mar 18
Its very true. My friend doesnt drive and buses so she has to be within city limits. But again i find those who dont drive tend to be bad at budgetting. He doesnt seem to want to work or have priorities.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
13 Mar 18
Iam fine if say they say hey can you drop me off. But when its oh i cant walk. I would be embarrassed to keep asking. If he really wanted a car he would get it. He just seems immature. Makes me wonder why im still single . Alot of guys my age dont drive or spend all their money on their cars, cant manage money.
. Alot of guys my age dont drive or spend all their money on their cars, cant manage money.1 person likes this
@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
13 Mar 18
Maybe he cannot afford to buy a car or maybe he cannot get a drivers license.
@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
13 Mar 18
He does have a driver licence. Not being to afford is sort of lame. If you need and want it you would find a way. I would as i need it to work and go anywhere (shopping etc).
I think hes just immature and lazy. He always has an excuse when i ask. I said oh haha you havent got a car yet. He always leaves work early. He's excited to have half day friday. When i said something about well you loose that day pay basically he goes oh well. Maybe, thats why he cant even afford rent, car.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
14 Mar 18
@ricki_911 To me he sounds lazy and a user. I would stay away from him.
