Have you ever seen an engagment you felt wouldn't work out? / myLot

Agate, Colorado

March 15, 2018 2:38pm CST

Someone I know has been with someone for a few years and now they are engaged. It's a happy occasion of course but for some reason I'm just like this won't work. Anytime someone I know says they're engaged I always feel happy for them and always so excited for them. However, this engagement was different to me. I still said congrats and was excited and didn't say anything bad but these two people also fight constantly they always put each other down, yell and cuss at each other and will in a way screw the other over and not really care. Less than a week ago they were trashing each other on facebook and now they're saying how they're perfect together and never thought they'd get married but now are. Maybe it's just me but when you see or hear how they talk to each other sometimes it's like that's not okay. I'm not going to say anything about thinking it's not alright or might not last because it's not my business but it's so weird trying to be excited for them when it's like that

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Essjayd

@Essjayd (1568)

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15 Mar 18

I think looking from the outside many couples look wrong for each other! My partner could cause a fight in an empty room and most of my friends were shocked when we got together. He's nothing like my usual type on the face of it we have zero in common but for some reason it just works! The strange thing is we hardly argue and if we do it's over in seconds, we've been together for 8 years and still as happy as day one! Sometimes what looks wrong from the outside is perfect on the inside :)

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Tammy

@tammys85 (29951)

• Baltimore, Maryland

27 Mar 18

I'm not sure if I've felt that way or not, but I do hope they can get past it and make it work out. If not, it's a lesson they have to learn for themselves.

much2say

@much2say (53959)

• Los Angeles, California

15 Mar 18

In my 20s, my best friend got engaged to someone in a matter of weeks. I didn't even meet the guy or anything - in fact just before that I called it quits with my friend (she became a pest, sorry to say). I knew it wasn't going to work out because of HER. Well since I ended the friendship, we did not speak for years - but then she found me on FB. She is still married to the same guy, but she keeps posting how her marriage was a mistake from day one. She has 2 kids but is miserable as heck. Still married yes, but definitely not happily.

Courtney

@Courtlynn (66921)

• United States

15 Mar 18

My boyfriend and I are like that sometimes, because we're both stubborn and get hurt. But in the end, we do love one another and have been together for almost 8 years. So I personally don't think acting a certain way shows how long people will last. But it would be hard to be happy for them.

lovely

@augusta123 (6649)

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16 Mar 18

Sure,just like you I mind my business and hope for the best for the best for them

august

@august18 (3907)

• Tunisia

15 Mar 18

Yes, my sister's. I always thought something was wrong about her fiancé but I chose to keep quiet. Fortunately, she discovered his flaws all by herself and broke up with him.

Nnaemeka

@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

15 Mar 18

Maybe they like themselves that way. There are some people who grew up in abusive households and want to be abused before they feel loved. You never can tell. The cussing and shouting online might just be love manifesting in a different form.

Morgan

@OneOfMany (12150)

• United States

15 Mar 18

I've seen examples just recently. The father of the groom told them that they shouldn't get married, because the bride to be wasn't ready emotionally yet. However, they got married, and yep, the bride completely changed. It was so bad, that they got divorced several months into their marriage. She would go out late into the night and party like she was in college, and cheated regularly. And these people had been dating for 4 years before all this. It was really surprising.