When You Feel a Relationship is Doomed, Why do You Still get Sad When it Ends?

I think it's normal to feel sad. You're only human. And even though you were expecting it wouldn't last long, there's always that little hope inside our heart that it would work out somehow.

Just the thought of another failed attempt and having to start again. That's what saddens me about it. Who knows? Maybe you'll meet again sometime down the road when you both have grown and you'll be able to make it work. :-)

I know what you mean. That person has been a part of your life and shared things, maybe personal things, with you so even if you didn't love them it is still sad. However I've had a couple that I couldn't wait to see the back of so it was more of a celebration when they went

I am sorry she ended it with you, long distant relationships can be hard. Its still sad though because you never get the chance to see what might have happened between the two of you and sometimes it might feel like it wasn't given the full chance to work.

One can get sad even though they know it was not a good relationship but maybe feel bad because they feel that maybe they failed in some way. I guess I would rather it ended early on before we got too serious and then the problems come out.

Ya it's common for everyone to be emotional at that time.. But control one emotions must be..

Ending a serious relationship is always tough. You know that you will be hurting someone you have become close to. If you and the other person simply realize after dating for sometime that you really don't have enough in common to have a future together and break-up is a mutual decision, it's still hard. After all, you've become close friends after all that time together and you are used to turning to that person first when you want to share something or when you need moral support. It usually takes a year or two -- maybe more -- before you can see each other as just friend without some pain.

The only case something similar happened to me, I was the one ending it. Again, it's about balance. The bad things about the relationship exceeded the good ones. I'm usually patient, but when I feel it won't go further, I prefer to leave. It could have changed with time, but I also felt like we were going to waste our time anyway. Sure, a break up is always sad. Losing a person is also like leaving a habit, you need to get used to the lonely life once again. If you were still in touch, you could try again later. I don't know, there could be good and bad people but there could also be good and bad times, and maybe it was only a matter of time. Other people don't like to recycle, so that might not even be your case.

Its sad because its the end of what could have been. But I have found in life that when this happens someone better comes along

It was a friend!! It hurts when u were getting attached and suddenly it's cut off!

Every ending and goodbye is sad. Good thing yours did not last that long or else you will have a hard time letting go. As for me, people go into relationship even if it is doomed in the beginning to see if there might be a chance to work things out or they want companionship. Every relationship is an experience for one to learn.

Actually, we all go on giving our efforts to make the relationship sustain. So, when it's ended finally, we feel disheartened. However, I feel the pain is temporarily and we can overcome it with the passage of time.