My brother did it again

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Never in my life have I been more emotionally confused as to how to feel than I am now and that says a lot. My brother managed to get himself into more trouble. Part of me is sympathetic for what he is going through and what is going through his head and then part of me is still angry that he could do the stupid stuff he has done with no thought to anyone but himself. It's two very conflicting feelings. One minute I want to cry because I feel for him and the next I'd love to punch him in the face because he is being stupid and reckless. My brother isn't a baby he is a grown adult who is making some stupid decisions but at the same time, I know something is going on with him. This isn't who he used to be. He did the things he did and he needs to pay for his crimes. Whatever happens, happens at this point. No one is bailing him out and it looks like he now might be spending time in prison. He can't seem to help himself. My brother actually made local news in TN this time. He tried to hijack a car but didn't. He jumped into a car and noticed there were three kids in the back of it and said "sorry" and jumped back out and they found him several hours later hiding in a train car. My brother was out of jail literally about 15 minutes before he went and did this. He had misdemeanor charges against him and they gave him a year on probation which meant he couldn't leave the state. My brother had nowhere to go of course that was his own fault. He did the things he did. He is too proud to ask for help sometimes which is how he often ends up making life more difficult for himself. I am willing to bet had those kids not been in it he would be on his way to Florida somewhere. I know he wouldn't be coming back here, he doesn't want to face anyone here after what he did. Despite all of this my brother isn't a monster. He is running from something. I think he is afraid to stop and really think about things. He has all of this anger and guilt and doesn't know what to do with it. He refuses to admit he has a problem or seek help. He deserves prison if that's what he gets. I won't make excuses for him but I do think they should try putting him in a rehab program. They can't make him get better but maybe being there would be enough. If he gets prison then he gets prison. I hate that this is what it is coming to. My mom is hurting right now because of him and I think he knows that. He can't seem to help himself. My brother when sober and in his right mind would never intentionally hurt anyone and especially kids. He has always had a soft spot for children. I'm glad to see at least that much hasn't changed. He is a man who is hurting deeply and instead of seeking help he is running from it all but no matter how hard he tries he can't outrun everything he does. It will stay with him and keep following him everywhere he goes. Until he is willing to confront it it's going to stay there with him gnawing at him day in and day out. I just wish he could see that. I know this is more than an alcohol problem. There is something else there. His problems first started when his dad died when he was in high school and got so much worse after his stepson died. He blames himself for everything I think and I think a part of him believes he deserves to have bad things happen to him while the other part of him is terrified of the consequences. I hope he can finally understand he doesn't have to keep running and what he needs to do is stay in one place and address everything going on with him. He isn't a horrible person despite all he has done. He is a man who has this potential for good but keeps running the other direction. I wouldn't classify him as a good man obviously but he has this potential he keeps running from. He loves quoting the bible and he believes deeply in the bible but he is running from everything right now. He is not willing to listen to anyone right now not even the things he knows to be true. I may be angry with him but I also love him and I really hope that he can get the help he needs and that if prison is where he ends up that it helps him.