When you're stressed, nobody else really understands.
@lookatdesktop (27129)
Dallas, Texas
March 23, 2018 7:24pm CST
Mostly I am a cool headed type. But when something is weighing heavily on my mind and I don't have a chill pill handy I can become quite irritable.
When I tell people that I am in a bad mood they fluff it off as nonsense. That can't be. You look like you are doing okay. Yea, on the outside I may appear so but inside there might be quite a storm brewing.
It's like that with some people, in that, when they are in a party mood and feeling on top of the world, they don't understand when I am NOT in such a party mood.
Today was kind of like that. I got a call from my brother and he asks me, "What's wrong?" Was it that obvious by the tone of my voice when I answered his phone call? Of course it must have been.
But, then he unloads his issues onto me by saying, "I'm in a bad mood myself. Nobody seems to care. I don't get any letters. I don't get any phone calls." - I interrupted and told him. "I have been having a real bad day and I don't have time to listen to your troubles." - and I hung up the phone. I know it was RUDE.
After giving it second thought, I realize I could have handled it with more formal tact and just listened to him unload his troubles on me but I was at a point that I was just not able to take it, that is, the emotions. Do you get what I'm talking about?
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@anikoonline (3250)
• Hungary
24 Mar 18
I have also troubles about this because when I feel bad I can be rude with people around me. All I want is some time to be alone and to be not disturbed but I think I can't express this in the right way. If you have any idea about handle these stresses periods, I'd like to know it.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
25 Mar 18
@anikoonline , I know it will help. People need to get in tune with their own mind and body and spirit, if you believe in it. My main thing is avoiding stress as much as realistically possible. Stress comes from excess negative information and the news is like over kill.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
24 Mar 18
I read about it and saw some videos. A new form of meditation is being realized by many people from various walks of life, well educated people, even famous individuals. They refer to this new meditation as Mindfulness or Mindful Meditation or Mindfulness Meditation. Here is a link about it from a YouTube.
This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Kasim teaches and presents on the use of mindfulness for creating h...
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@anikoonline (3250)
• Hungary
24 Mar 18
@lookatdesktop Thanks for this youtube link, I've watched and the next one that youtube played me, which was Happiness is all in your mind - Gen Kelsang Nyema. It was very interesting and true.
Maybe I should go back to practicing yoga regulary. As far as I remember, it helped a lot to me. I will read about mindful meditation, because it sounds interesting and maybe it can help.
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
24 Mar 18
Yep I do, I get like that, with my health being off and on for about 4 years and being really bad off at times, I would just about lose it when people complained about something small when I could barely get up out of a seat. It was just like I didn't matter or what I as going thru really didn't matter.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
24 Mar 18
That has to be hard to deal with. Sometimes when a conversation is all about him, I wonder if he ever takes time in his lonely life to stop and just listen to other people and maybe learn something from it.
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
25 Mar 18
@lookatdesktop You can learn a lot if you shhh and listen. I'm one of those I love people watching and learn a lot thru that.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
25 Mar 18
@Ithink , That advice applies also to me. I have a tendency to talk more than listen. LOL
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
24 Mar 18
Yes, I get it. I know there are things that will put me in a rotten mood, and I do not have chill pills. Sometimes I do not have good ways of coping, either.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
24 Mar 18
Yea. You understand where I'm coming from. The chill pills is more or less a metaphor for anything that makes you get calm, like a good nap or a long walk.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
24 Mar 18
No one can guess about your mood, it is for sure. However, I admit siblings or caring people can guess the same from our voice/tone over phone. But I will try to listen them even though I won't like to share my problem. Sometimes it helps me to change my mood.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
24 Mar 18
Hind sight is always more focused but sometimes I tend to act on impulse and learn to regret it later on.
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@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
25 Mar 18
@lookatdesktop I do think that people should be broad-minded in knowing the sanity of each individual. That's the problem of some people. They tend to be more provocative and never tried to understand the people's personalities.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
25 Mar 18
@Shavkat , I for one have known people, who never went to be analyzed by a psychiatrist, who never were said to have any form of mental illness, but for one reason or another had very bad tempers and got into fights on a regular basis and usually did so when intoxicated with booze. They turn into another person when they are drunk and being in an argument with a drunk is dangerous. It's like they go temporarily mad.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
24 Mar 18
True. Luckily, understanding mood swings, bipolar and the way it is addressed has become more accepted as a condition that can be managed that has been taken out of the generalized view of being out of control to acceptance as just another mood disorder that can be treated for most people and not stereotyped as a form of insanity that leads to self destructive behavior. But it has a long way to go still. Nobody can possibly understand fully the depth of mania or deep despair that accompanies this condition and the many very intelligent people who have these types of mood disorders.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
24 Mar 18
If he recognised that something was up with you, he should have offered to listen to you unload. That's my opinion. :-)
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
24 Mar 18
He is very self centered. Every time I explain my situation to him he redirects the discussion or conversation to things that matter to him and he doesn't even respond when I mention my problems. One sided conversations with him are always based on evoking my sympathy when things go south for him. He hardly calls on a good day.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
24 Mar 18
@lookatdesktop I can understand why others avoid him. Sad but true. :-(
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@snowy22315 (169965)
• United States
24 Mar 18
I think if it was me, I would have called the brother back when I was feeling a little better. It's not too late, just apologize.
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@lookatdesktop (27129)
• Dallas, Texas
24 Mar 18
He was using a new phone. He tends to use those burner type phones and I don't have his newest cell phone #.
