March 30, 2018 9:46am CST
Are you afraid to tell a friend what you really think? There are many ways that one can lose a friend or spoil a friendship - and one of those ways is plain talk. Now - could you sit by and watch a friend head down the wrong path and tell yourself -"let her learn by her own folly?" I remember advising a friend that the guy she was crazy about was bad news and a womanizer. She didn't believe me and our friendship cooled considerably. Could she have thought that I was interested in him? I don't know - but she went ahead with the 'romance' which fizzled miserably within a brief two months . And I lost a friend. I couldn't help wondering if I should have kept what I knew to myself. Have you ever lost a friendship in a similar fashion? Have there been times when you were afraid to tell a friend something which they might not want to hear?
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• Manila, Philippines
I do not like losing friends except for valid reasons. If it is about love life of a friend, I learned the hard way that I decided to keep my mouth mum and pretend that it never happened. I do not like to divulge on my friends' romantic agendas. I will say a word when things have turned for the worst. Then I can say "I know." hahaha
• United States
Oh dear. I'm really surprised that the woman dropped you as a friend after your warning. I really value that input from a friend - even when it's something I don't want to hear. As long as they aren't trying to force me. Just inform me. It makes me think more of that friend. Then again... usually... I think I would politely say something, but weighing the situation. I have this one friend who is head-over-feet in love with this man who is just using her. I know if I were to say anything she wouldn't accept it in the least... so in her case.... "let her learn by her own folly"
I'm not afraid of giving advice to friends..it's our responsibility as a friend to let him/her in a right path..I just say what I know but it's upto them to take it or not.i have adviced one of my friend too in the same way you did...it's her suffering now...but she still talks with me.our friendship is same :)
• United States
OH! when it comes to love I do not say a word! Even if they split up because more than not I have seen them go right back to those scum bags. I told one friend she needed to clean her kids better than she did, she never washed the sticky off their hands, I think she got mad but she let it go and started wiping them off more.