On Having A Baby
By Mrs.Pumpkins
@MrsPumpkins (466)
Philippines
March 31, 2018 7:18am CST
A couple I know are planning to have a baby this month of May. She asked my opinion about this matter. I told her I am not positive about it.
She did not expected my opinion. I explained to her that, for me, now is not the time that they will have a baby, since they are not married. She insisted that they really want to get pregnant since they are both old enough to have a baby. And that when she reaches 40 it will be very difficult for her to bear a child. The girl is 38 and the guy is 43. I told her I don't think raising a baby out of wedlock is a good idea.
What do you think? Is it okay to plan for a baby even if they are not yet married?
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9 responses
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
31 Mar 18
They should marry first before planning to have a baby. But it depends on them.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
how long have they been together? when do they plan to marry?
@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
they have been together working abroad for 3 years. i haven`t heard them discussed about marriage yet. but they want to have a baby first.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
@MrsPumpkins what's preventing them from getting married first?
@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
@hereandthere i think they have no time to spend processing the wedding. they are both busy working.
@wolfgirl569 (95136)
• Marion, Ohio
31 Mar 18
Many people choose not to marry and have excellent relationships while some married couples should not be together at all. I think it is something they need to decide together.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
31 Mar 18
Not many marry before having kids these days, same with not many marry just because they've been together for many years. And really, there's nothing wrong with either - unless you're religious and have family who will shame you for them. But even then, it's your life (whoever wants the baby without marriage, or relationship without marriage), no one elses. So if they are good together, and a child is what they want, they should try for one now.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
31 Mar 18
NO. I still prefer getting married first. Besides, why arent they married yet?
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
31 Mar 18
@MrsPumpkins Yes or there is a mass wedding offered by the church. They could check it out.
@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
Well, they find it difficult to have a wedding preparation. I mean, a civil wedding will just do.
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@Tierkreisze (1609)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
And why did you tell her that? I don't think that it's not bad at all if you had a baby before you got married. But then again, why didn't they get married first anyway?
@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
31 Mar 18
Aside from being honest, she insists on knowing my views on this. That's why i told her my honest opinion about it.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
31 Mar 18
Actually, it's a mutual understanding and besides, they are old enough to discuss it as long as they've been together for a long time. I think she will have a hard time for pregnancy because of her age but who knows, right? They need to have faith.
