People asking about your health

I know what you mean but I have come to realise that most people just say it to show good manners they really don't care about your health so I just don't bother.

People are only asking to show some politeness.

It is evidence that really they do not care but are just following formal patterns or flapping their jaws to hear themselves speak. They can pat themselves on the back and say they "did the expected thing" by greeting you with good health.

I think @Freelanzer is right. They don't really care and don't want to get involved. They are just trying to be polite.

Ah yes. I know what you mean. Sometimes I think people just want an answer to their question, not caring what the answer is

I dont' normally ask people how they are feeling unless I am willing to listen to them. If someone I know asks me how Im doing, even if I'm in pain, I will tell them I'm fine because telling them the truth is pointless. :-)

When I had my last babies and I was trying to tell people how tired I was and no one believed me at all. They just took no notice so I do know how that feels a bit yet it can be frustrating and annoying also at the same time. I had to handle it well and it was a year that I had to take on a lot of things being a President of the block of flats where we lived.

They don't want to know. They just use it as a way of greeting you. Even if I am ill I still say I'm fine because I know they aren't really interested.

I just say I'm okay even if I'm not .. because it's not easy to explain what we are going through...

A lot of people are asking just to be nice, not because they really want to know. Plus, most won't have any idea what to say even when they really hear your answer. I tend to share with people and often which I'd kept my mouth shut rather than telling them how I'm really doing. Although, I do run into people that have had similar problems and have some answers and sometimes I happen to be sharing to a doctor that will encourage me. But, overall, sometimes it's best to keep the info to ourselves. When they ask how we're doing and we answer with fine, even if we're not really fine at least we are stating our hopes for being fine and many times that helps us be fine faster.

I guess they are trying to be nice and thoughtful. Yes, if taking that phrase literally when you are in poor health it definitely does come off as rather callous. I would do as you do, many people are just to self-absorbed to listen anyway, so why upset yourself. When this happens again Hanni remember this quote above.

Yeah it happened to me many times .. some people just want to greet .they are not really concerned about our health...but I will say I'm fine to them.

I think saying good health is like saying hello or have a nice day. They are not interested in your health, it is just something that they usually say.

Yes lots of time, most especially when I am feeling depression getting the best of me. When people ask me whats wrong and tell me that it is nothing and get thru with it, in my mind, "Really? you do not have the slightest idea of what is wrong and tell me it will just go away fast." I just hate it really.

I think most people don't want to hear about other people's health issues.

I usually just say that I'm fine. I don't like to give out too many details, people aren't really that interested I find.

I think it's just a "formality," with little sincerity behind it.

It's none of their business how my health is or isn't. I'd just thank them and move on.

Those people are just asking or saying what they always do, without any thought to how you really feel. They don't want to know how you really are. Don't focus on them, just move on. You know the ones who are truly interested and will listen and will sympathize and pray with and for you when things aren't good for you. Those are the ones who truly care and listen.

Yeah it's annoying. People ask you "how are you" and when you say "i'm doing fine, but.." and then they add " well, anyway blah blah blah" . Why can't they just tell you right away what they really wanted to tell you.