People asking about your health

@Hannihar (32920)
April 1, 2018 10:52pm CST
Do you ever feel when people wish you good health and you try to explain that your health is not good and goes right past them. They will again with you good health ignoring what you told them.There are times I just say thank you and just do not try to explain because they do not listen anyways. Does that happen to you too? If so, how do you handle it?
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@Freelanzer (8520)
• Canada
2 Apr
I know what you mean but I have come to realise that most people just say it to show good manners they really don't care about your health so I just don't bother.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@Freelanzer You are so so right. They really do not care but it is polite to ask.
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@sugartoes (40025)
• Greencastle, Indiana
2 Apr
@Freelanzer well here's one that does care & I don't mind listening to what is ailing you.
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@sugartoes (40025)
• Greencastle, Indiana
2 Apr
@Hannihar I care how people feel cause I'm just that way.
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@TRBRocks420 (75502)
• Banks, Oregon
2 Apr
Some people are just weird my friend and, yes i know types that will ask someone something and, then start answering before they even say anything.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@TRBRocks420 I had someone try and finish my sentence for me and she was wrong.
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@TRBRocks420 (75502)
• Banks, Oregon
2 Apr
@Hannihar Same here it's annoying, like no you're completely wrong and, please shut up lol.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@TRBRocks420 TR, exactly.
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@Starmaiden (4997)
• Dartmouth, Nova Scotia
2 Apr
I dont' normally ask people how they are feeling unless I am willing to listen to them. If someone I know asks me how Im doing, even if I'm in pain, I will tell them I'm fine because telling them the truth is pointless. :-)
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@Starmaiden Lucinda, I have also told people I am fine when I am not. If I do not like the person I will not ask because do not want to talk to them.
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@marlina (72696)
• Canada
2 Apr
People are only asking to show some politeness.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@marlina You are right Marlina and they really could care less how one is unless they are a caring person that really wants to know.
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@JudyEv (121176)
• Bunbury, Australia
2 Apr
I think @Freelanzer is right. They don't really care and don't want to get involved. They are just trying to be polite.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@JudyEv So so true Judy.
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@FayeHazel (17093)
• United States
2 Apr
Ah yes. I know what you mean. Sometimes I think people just want an answer to their question, not caring what the answer is
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@Hannihar (32920)
3 Apr
@FayeHazel Faye, I agree with you and also people feel they have to say something other than asking about the weather but really do not care about either topic. They may say how are you and then walk past before you even answer. Some people say that I am here so that must mean something.
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@FayeHazel (17093)
• United States
3 Apr
@Hannihar I like that "I am here so must mean something" line. I know. It's hard to answer that question sometimes. If things aren't well - but you know someone is just being conversational
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@Hannihar (32920)
4 Apr
@FayeHazel I really am not sure why people ask how one is if they really do not want to hear the answer. Why can't they be honest and just say hi or hello instead and leave it at that.
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@GardenGerty (98100)
• United States
4 Apr
It is evidence that really they do not care but are just following formal patterns or flapping their jaws to hear themselves speak. They can pat themselves on the back and say they "did the expected thing" by greeting you with good health.
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@Hannihar (32920)
8 Apr
@GardenGerty Very well put Heather.
• Pamplona, Spain
4 Apr
When I had my last babies and I was trying to tell people how tired I was and no one believed me at all. They just took no notice so I do know how that feels a bit yet it can be frustrating and annoying also at the same time. I had to handle it well and it was a year that I had to take on a lot of things being a President of the block of flats where we lived.
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@Hannihar (32920)
5 Apr
@lovinangelsinstead21 Thank you for sharing that. I can see how you would get tired. No, people look at one and if they look good then they assume they are fine. They do not know what goes inside one and they do not have the time to bother to sit and talk to them to find out so they just say that you are fine even if you are not.
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• Pamplona, Spain
5 Apr
@Hannihar When I was in that state a girl was looking to her mother and I said to her Mom she is very very tired I can see it in her face. The girl said see she is the only one that has noticed. Her Mom was rather hard on her saying that she should not complain and take it like other women but I saw a girl very tired and needing to sit down right there where she was. Its the same sort of thing. I know how it feels like I said.
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@Hannihar (32920)
8 Apr
@lovinangelsinstead21 I believe you do. That was nice of you to notice.
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@mlgen1037 (24545)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr
Yes lots of time, most especially when I am feeling depression getting the best of me. When people ask me whats wrong and tell me that it is nothing and get thru with it, in my mind, "Really? you do not have the slightest idea of what is wrong and tell me it will just go away fast." I just hate it really.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@mlgen1037 I hate when people do that and do not really listen to what you are saying Louise.
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@mlgen1037 (24545)
• Manila, Philippines
2 Apr
@Hannihar Yes, they just dont understand that it not easy, Hanni. It will not go away overnight.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@mlgen1037 Louise they just do not care at all.
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@dgobucks226 (11537)
3 Apr
I guess they are trying to be nice and thoughtful. Yes, if taking that phrase literally when you are in poor health it definitely does come off as rather callous. I would do as you do, many people are just to self-absorbed to listen anyway, so why upset yourself. When this happens again Hanni remember this quote above.
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@Hannihar (32920)
3 Apr
@dgobucks226 DB, I love it but I know I will forget it. Thanks.
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@dgobucks226 (11537)
4 Apr
@Hannihar No problem and I forget things all the time Hanni. Glad you enjoyed it
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@Hannihar (32920)
4 Apr
@dgobucks226 Thank you DB for saying that you forget things all the time. That helps me because I also do forget things. There are things I can remember and things I cannot.
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• Midland, Michigan
9 Apr
A lot of people are asking just to be nice, not because they really want to know. Plus, most won't have any idea what to say even when they really hear your answer. I tend to share with people and often which I'd kept my mouth shut rather than telling them how I'm really doing. Although, I do run into people that have had similar problems and have some answers and sometimes I happen to be sharing to a doctor that will encourage me. But, overall, sometimes it's best to keep the info to ourselves. When they ask how we're doing and we answer with fine, even if we're not really fine at least we are stating our hopes for being fine and many times that helps us be fine faster.
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@Hannihar (32920)
10 Apr
@MarshaMusselman Marsha, you have a good point there. I do know there are those that do care about my health and want to know how I am just like I want to know how they are.
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• Midland, Michigan
11 Apr
@Hannihar Here when we see people we don't somewhat or quite a bit we tend to ask how they're doing. The respected reply is 'Fine, thank you'. Depending on the situation or circumstances might provide the knowledge of how specific to get, but even when friends ask, they all don't have time or inclination for the full story necessarily.
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@Hannihar (32920)
12 Apr
@MarshaMusselman I see Marsha.
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@epiffanie (10413)
• Australia
3 Apr
I just say I'm okay even if I'm not .. because it's not easy to explain what we are going through...
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@Hannihar (32920)
3 Apr
@epiffanie Bess, I understand completely what you are saying. It is not worth saying how you feel. People tell me I look good that is the outside but they do not care how I feel on the inside.
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@epiffanie (10413)
• Australia
4 Apr
@Hannihar Some I’m sure would care, but just don’t know how ...
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@Hannihar (32920)
4 Apr
@epiffanie Bess, there are some that do care.
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@Icydoll (14649)
• India
2 Apr
Yeah it happened to me many times .. some people just want to greet .they are not really concerned about our health...but I will say I'm fine to them.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@Icydoll It has also happened to me a lot.
@Icydoll (14649)
• India
2 Apr
@Hannihar yeah it happens Hanni..
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@Icydoll You are right it does.
@sprite1950 (12872)
• Corsham, England
2 Apr
They don't want to know. They just use it as a way of greeting you. Even if I am ill I still say I'm fine because I know they aren't really interested.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@sprite1950 Snowdrop66, I have said that on occasion that I am fine when I am not.
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@sprite1950 (12872)
• Corsham, England
2 Apr
@Hannihar It really isn't worth telling them how you really feel as they will just make an excuse to get away.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@sprite1950 You have a point Snowdrop66.
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@anikoonline (2979)
• Hungary
2 Apr
I think saying good health is like saying hello or have a nice day. They are not interested in your health, it is just something that they usually say.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@anikoonline Aniko, you are so so right.
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• Hungary
2 Apr
@Hannihar Thank you!
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@anikoonline You are welcome Aniko.
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@sugartoes (40025)
• Greencastle, Indiana
2 Apr
no cause no one ask me about my health as it feels like they just don't care but I'm fine as I have a docs appt the 24th & it's nothing serious so it's all good in the hood.
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@Hannihar (32920)
2 Apr
@sugartoes Glad to hear you are ok littletiger.
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@sugartoes (40025)
• Greencastle, Indiana
2 Apr
@Hannihar me too for now as I will know more when I got see the doc in a few weeks.
@TheHorse (63856)
• Pleasant Hill, California
6 Apr
I think it's just a "formality," with little sincerity behind it.
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@Hannihar (32920)
8 Apr
@TheHorse The Horse I believe you are right, but, there are those that really truly care how one is.
@BelleStarr (37624)
• United States
6 Apr
I think most people don't want to hear about other people's health issues.
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@Hannihar (32920)
8 Apr
) @BelleStarr Belle, you are right there but there are some that really care and want to know how you one is doing.
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@Corbin5 (103019)
• United States
5 Apr
I think most are merely insincere when they wish us good health. It is merely something nice to say, but something not many want to get involved in.
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@Hannihar (32920)
8 Apr
@Corbin5 Yes Deborah you are right. It is a topic of conversation like talking about the weather.
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@DianneN (76157)
• United States
4 Apr
It's none of their business how my health is or isn't. I'd just thank them and move on.
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@Hannihar (32920)
4 Apr
@DianneN Thanks Dianne.