People asking about your health
By Hanni Harel
April 1, 2018 10:52pm CST
Do you ever feel when people wish you good health and you try to explain that your health is not good and goes right past them. They will again with you good health ignoring what you told them.There are times I just say thank you and just do not try to explain because they do not listen anyways. Does that happen to you too? If so, how do you handle it?
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• Dartmouth, Nova Scotia
I dont' normally ask people how they are feeling unless I am willing to listen to them. If someone I know asks me how Im doing, even if I'm in pain, I will tell them I'm fine because telling them the truth is pointless. :-)
@FayeHazel Faye, I agree with you and also people feel they have to say something other than asking about the weather but really do not care about either topic. They may say how are you and then walk past before you even answer. Some people say that I am here so that must mean something.
• United States
It is evidence that really they do not care but are just following formal patterns or flapping their jaws to hear themselves speak. They can pat themselves on the back and say they "did the expected thing" by greeting you with good health.
• Pamplona, Spain
When I had my last babies and I was trying to tell people how tired I was and no one believed me at all. They just took no notice so I do know how that feels a bit yet it can be frustrating and annoying also at the same time. I had to handle it well and it was a year that I had to take on a lot of things being a President of the block of flats where we lived.
@lovinangelsinstead21 Thank you for sharing that. I can see how you would get tired. No, people look at one and if they look good then they assume they are fine. They do not know what goes inside one and they do not have the time to bother to sit and talk to them to find out so they just say that you are fine even if you are not.
• Pamplona, Spain
@Hannihar When I was in that state a girl was looking to her mother and I said to her Mom she is very very tired I can see it in her face. The girl said see she is the only one that has noticed. Her Mom was rather hard on her saying that she should not complain and take it like other women but I saw a girl very tired and needing to sit down right there where she was. Its the same sort of thing. I know how it feels like I said.
• Manila, Philippines
Yes lots of time, most especially when I am feeling depression getting the best of me. When people ask me whats wrong and tell me that it is nothing and get thru with it, in my mind, "Really? you do not have the slightest idea of what is wrong and tell me it will just go away fast." I just hate it really.
I guess they are trying to be nice and thoughtful. Yes, if taking that phrase literally when you are in poor health it definitely does come off as rather callous. I would do as you do, many people are just to self-absorbed to listen anyway, so why upset yourself. When this happens again Hanni remember this quote above.
• Midland, Michigan
A lot of people are asking just to be nice, not because they really want to know. Plus, most won't have any idea what to say even when they really hear your answer. I tend to share with people and often which I'd kept my mouth shut rather than telling them how I'm really doing. Although, I do run into people that have had similar problems and have some answers and sometimes I happen to be sharing to a doctor that will encourage me. But, overall, sometimes it's best to keep the info to ourselves. When they ask how we're doing and we answer with fine, even if we're not really fine at least we are stating our hopes for being fine and many times that helps us be fine faster.
• Midland, Michigan
@Hannihar Here when we see people we don't somewhat or quite a bit we tend to ask how they're doing. The respected reply is 'Fine, thank you'. Depending on the situation or circumstances might provide the knowledge of how specific to get, but even when friends ask, they all don't have time or inclination for the full story necessarily.