Does having no boyfriend means you're emotionless?
By Debashri Das
@deba12 (2951)
India
April 5, 2018 11:23am CST
One of my colleagues asked me today whether I have any boyfriend or not. I replied no. Hearing that she said, how could I have no relationship till date. She indirectly told me that people having partners have more emotions. To me, she is wrong saying so. I love my family. I become very emotional whenever they face any problem.
Do you think being single means emotionless?
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14 responses
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
5 Apr 18
@vandana7 You must be able to give her the best piece of advice as you know your society.
Your comment shows me (again) that asking for advice on an international site is complete nonsense. What is accepted in one society makes you a leper in another.
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@vandana7 (98778)
• India
5 Apr 18
@MALUSE That is the problem. The social life here is a major source of agony. Not everywhere, but in almost 70 to 80 percent cases you will come across people who want to decide how you have to live. If you do not conform to their views, you are treated as a specimen, laughed at behind your back.
Funny thing? If she has a boyfriend, she will be spoken of as "cheap", "uncultured", and what not. If she does not have one, she will still be spoken of as "lesbian", or "heartless".
So it is just jealousies at work.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
5 Apr 18
No. I'm also single but I am full of emotion.. just like you, I also love my family.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
5 Apr 18
When I was single I was not emotionless at all.
Quite the contrary actually.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
7 Apr 18
@deba12
It could well be that they don´t have the emotion or the what it takes in them.
You will find someone for sure no worries about that.
You are not emotionless far from it.
@vandana7 (98778)
• India
5 Apr 18
It pretty much depends upon situations and circumstances I suppose. If you have problems, your time could be used solving them rather than go towards romantic thoughts. It does not mean that such a person is less emotional. When problems are resolved, may be such person's true ability to care will surface. Each one has different level of caring at different point of time. So don't worry. All is well.
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@deba12 (2951)
• India
7 Apr 18
Thanks for supporting me. The society is changing. I believe that one day will come when people will be allowed to live the way they want.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
5 Apr 18
Of course not. Just because you're not in a relationship now it doesn't mean you won't have one later or that you don't feel things.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
7 Apr 18
@deba12 Well don't let them. You should believe you're as good as anyone else.
@mohit459 (12568)
• Haldwani, India
6 Apr 18
No !..
Who says so!..
I'm too single..doesn't me that who so ever is single is emotionless!..
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
7 Apr 18
Of course it's not right to say so. Some people are single just because they don't meet the right person.
@Hannihar (129388)
• Israel
8 Apr 18
@deba12
I believe you friend if she is in a relationship is talking for herself. I was married and divorced and I feel like I can do what I want and not have anyone telling me when to get or when to go to bed. I decide for myself what I want to do or not do. I believe it depends on the person how they feel about things and has nothing to do with having a person if your life or not.
@skydream (1446)
• Agate, Colorado
5 Apr 18
Not at all.
To me being single only means that you are single. Everyone is single at one point and that doesn't mean they suddenly have no emotions
@deba12 (2951)
• India
7 Apr 18
That's what I wanted to tell her. To me, my family is important now. Isn't that mean that I am caring towards them? There are few people who are just interested in hurting others.
@deba12 (2951)
• India
7 Apr 18
Yes, just caring about your partner doesn't show you've emotions.An emotional people will have emotions for everyone.
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Apr 18
No. Being single means that you are a complete person and capable of loving. It also means that you are waiting for the right one to give your heart to. 
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
5 Apr 18
Absolutely not! I think being single offers you the opportunity to expand your emotions. Extend them to all you meet. Share a smile with your neighbors and with total strangers without being judged a flirt. Being single gives you more space to discover yourself and be all that you came here to be. Not being tied down in love to one person or having an identity crises because you lost yourself in your dependency upon another is the greatest benefit of being single. Once you fully discover yourself and live your example, the whole world will notice. Embrace your time as a single person and learn to love yourself first.
:-)
