Please meet him...His NAME is RONNIE...

By Bess
@epiffanie (9703)
Australia
April 6, 2018 8:38pm CST
. His NAME is RONNIE... But everyone calls him "Lapiga".. Lapiga means you drop yourself down anywhere.. he doesn't sit himself properly you see...He comes and does lapiga.. It is what he did ever since he was little so he became "Lapiga" until now that he is 30 years old.. One of the things about the culture here where I was born is giving individuals and families "bansag".. Most of the time the bansag words are derogatory but it is somehow useful when describing who or which family you are referring to or looking for or talking about..It's like a form of identification.. .. It is weird and I never liked it..because it is mostly to put people down..I guess people here don't realise that by deliberately putting some people down, the entire community goes down too.. A few years ago when I first met Lapiga, I asked him what his real name was.. I told him then that "we'll call him Ronnie from now on". He is a different person when he's with just Greg and me.. But he changes when others are around..He becomes what others probably expect him to be the "Lapiga" that they have always known.. When I speak to him one on one, and with no one around, he always make sense.. and quite serious with our conversation.. I feel that he liked being taken seriously... Greg and I treat Ronnie like how we want to be treated.. Not to be mocked and laughed at.. With low education, and obviously traumatic childhood, being abandoned by his mother when he was very young, he is ignorant of a lot of things. But he is intelligent and hard working thinking only of what the next day brings. Supporting himself and his brother ( who prefers to be his sister ).. Ronnie comes around whenever he's out of work and asks if he can do something for you in exchange for some cash.. He has pride like that.. Well, at least that's how he presents himself to us as Ronnie.. I don't know how others really think of him as "Lapiga".. Amazing how many around here never bothered to ask what his real name was.. Anyway, we are glad we met someone like Ronnie.. I see more human dignity in him and in his "simplicity" than in many so called sophisticated people I met in my life.. We are grateful to Ronnie for making sure that we have a regular supply of water from the well that he fetches for us.... Thank you Ronnie! .................................. I shared this story on my Facebook and I was surprised to get a lot of reactions from the people who knew him in the province and shared by 38 people that I don't know.. Some laughed and mocked how "Lapiga is now famous" etc..Some of them just found out his real name.. Some were touched and were inspired by his story.. Some were grateful that I shared his story .. Anyway, I just want to share this here because, I know that there are many people like Ronnie in the world that needs to know that they count and valued and worth getting to know by their names.. Do you know anyone like him?.. Thanks for reading Bess.. .. .
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@DianneN (73931)
• United States
7 Apr
My father knew many people like Ronnie and gave them work in his business as helpers, hired them to work in our yard, and a few to help my mother run our house. He even gave one a place to sleep and live in our basement. They were so appreciative.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
That is ver ykind of your Dad .. Yes people like them just need to be given a chance..
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@DianneN (73931)
• United States
7 Apr
@epiffanie Exactly!
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@marguicha (90202)
• Chile
7 Apr
I like to call people by their name. In my country, every woman that works as a maid is called Nana. I think this is derogatory. Once, at the hospital, a doctor told me whether I had come with my Nana. I said that if I were a child I might call a person Nana as I would not be able to speak well. But that the lady who came with me was Leticia.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
In the Philippines they are called yaya ..But yes, it's better to call them by their names ...
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@marguicha (90202)
• Chile
7 Apr
@epiffanie People have names.
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@kepweng (10890)
7 Apr
nice to meet him but i cant believe hes 30
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
Why can't you believe? Does he look older or younger than 30?
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@Starmaiden (3723)
• Dartmouth, Nova Scotia
7 Apr
Thank you for this heartwarming enlightening story. Ronnie now knows who his true friends are. God Bless You.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
Thank you kindly .. I asked Ronnie if he is happy being called name other than his real name .. He said, he can't do anything about it anymore as people already got used to calling him that name ..
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• Dartmouth, Nova Scotia
7 Apr
@epiffanie He'll have to learn to speak up for himself and start correcting them. Whenever someone calls him by that name he should interrupt them and tell them that isn't his name.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
8 Apr
@Starmaiden That is exactly what I told him .. He is not assertive .. If he does that after all these years of answering to that name, he will be more ridiculed .. isn't that a terrible part of the culture that everyone happily accepted?.. It's like that over there .. One driver I met was called "Daday" which means small .. When I asked him what his real name was, he said Richard .. I asked him why he's called Daday, he said he doesn't know .. He just got used to being called Daday and never asked his parents why.. I find it really odd ...
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• Philippines
7 Apr
you know how people are here mostly are arrogant, they even look you down on you if youre a nanny or just a helper but even doctors here apply for a cleaner in UK/US just to earn high, also many here are so arte/vain mostly females dont like to wash dishes dont like to cook because they feel they look low level type of person and is only done by a helper, always texting on the phone always looking at the mirror feeling pretty. they prefer to be lazy that get paid on being a nanny. whats wrong on being a nanny/helper anyways.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
Nothing is wrong with being a nanny .. I was a nanny when I was 14 no pay .. they just fed me and gave me a corner to sleep on and I went to night high school...That's how I negotiated my way into life ..by working very hard.. and by enduring years of ridicule and discrimination ..
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• Philippines
7 Apr
@epiffanie you're not like other 14yrs old here thats lazy
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
8 Apr
@Strawberry18 the modern technology made the young people these days lazy..
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@Courage7 (5496)
• United States
7 Apr
Thank you for sharing Ronnie with us. I know of people around here, yes, that do jobs to survive on the street, but are still looked down upon. You are so right that it brings the community down when looking down on others who are doing their best. He has a very honest look about him.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
When I first met him, he just stared at me.. anyone who meet him for the first time would probably think that he should be approached because he's always has this bolo ( machete ) hanging on his left hip tied up with a rope .. but he really is very harmless and gentle..
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@Courage7 (5496)
• United States
7 Apr
@epiffanie Yes I can understand peoples fear at first of the machete lol
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
8 Apr
@Courage7 it is very common to see men over there walking about with a machete on their side .. . I told my husband that maybe, he should start carrying one too... the biggest and longest one we could find .. ahahah!! .. He reckoned I must be going looney ..
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@caopaopao (5134)
• China
8 Apr
You're doing well, and you're a nice person.I think everyone should be respected.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
9 Apr
Not everyone deserve respect, but everyone deserve to be validated...
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@caopaopao (5134)
• China
9 Apr
@epiffanie Yeah more reasonable.
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@Thewings (637)
7 Apr
Heart touching story dear.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
thank you! .. yes there are many people in the world with heartwarming stories .. just like Ronnie's ..
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@Thewings (637)
7 Apr
@epiffanie absolutely true
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• Philippines
7 Apr
how can you have a self confident here if seems someone is always watchign youre move i think even youre blinking of eye will be criticised or even the way you breath, anything just to make you feel small eventhough they dont know you personally they just want to mock you they love doing it
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
Yes.. I know exactly what you mean .. I experienced that for my first 25 years living over there..
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• Philippines
7 Apr
@epiffanie cruel and annoying
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• India
7 Apr
Nice to know about him and glad you shared. Have a great weekend
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
thank you for your time reading about Ronnie ..
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@mlgen1037 (15124)
• Manila, Philippines
7 Apr
Oh yeah. Those people who roam around our streets who were homeless. Those “brusko” people would call them names for fun and eventually they were called by others too. I prefer to call people by name as you mentioned, to show dignity for that person, which is I think should be. It also gives that person his own identity. Is Ronnie the same guy on your other discussion, Bess? About helping him get a bank account?
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
No Louise , the one I set up a bank account for was my caretaker .. Ronnie will never understand how banking works ..
@Maria24 (2066)
• United States
7 Apr
Thanks for sharing. I really don't know anyone like him.
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@epiffanie (9703)
• Australia
7 Apr
Thank you for your time ..
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@LeaPea2417 (19017)
• Toccoa, Georgia
7 Apr
No, I don't know anyone like him. Thanks for sharing your story.
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@KrauseHome (34982)
• United States
8 Apr
This is awesome, and I am sure he has been a Blessing in your lives, and you in his. Thanks for sharing your story and being there for him.
@acelawrites (10929)
• Philippines
8 Apr
He shouldn't be called by such a derogatory name; people should look at his positive trait, that is, working for money to support him and his brother. Some people could be so judgmental!