Is that love?
April 11, 2018 4:16pm CST
I wonder how many women harbor a secret desire to be tied up or dominated by their partner. Before the movie "fifty Shades Of Grey" hit the cinemas in 2015, there were many demonstrations from various women's groups hoping to have it banned. Not only were their efforts futile, but the movie drew large crowds including women in droves - and sales for duct tape and other paraphernalia used in the film rose dramatically. It should also be noted that the movie was directed by a woman - and based on a novel written by a woman. Did you see the movie? Was it much ado about nothing? Can any form of abuse be a part of love?
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I'm not a psychologist or an anthropologist, but many women are into that, for several reasons. The movie was boring, and I didn't read the book. I asked a classmate, who was reading the book, what it was about, she said "go buy it". That made me angry, and I wouldn't ever buy it. I only asked what the topic was, ugh. I saw a similarity with Twilight and The Beauty and the Beast (Disney's), when it comes to the plot. There's a weird guy that frightens most people, but a girl thinks he's simply misunderstood, falls in love and tries to "rescue him from the darkness" or whatever. And again, that's something many women enjoy as well. I don't know if it was abuse, I believe it was manipulation. Anastasia was in love, and she accepted to play the submissive role. She knew nothing about it, but accepted because she didn't want to lose Mr Grey. However, she ended up enjoying some of the games. But I don't know much about the story anyway. I fell asleep at some point, during the movie.
I don't have faintest idea about the movie! But I think it is not possible to have abuse be a part in love! As far as I am concerned its understanding, exchange of mutual respect and emotions together with feelings that can make a love successful one! Thanks @Kandae11!
@AKRao24 Exactly, abuse (and manipulation) shows lack of respect, that goes against the concept of love. Unfortunately, the insecurities of people can create jealousy and possessiveness, some see them as a demonstration of love, but they go a little too far when respect is challenged. It's really hard to have a pure love, some negative emotions are always likely to pop up.
Wow! really? the sales of duct tapes? .. I haven't seen the movie.. But I have the books because I was curious about the fuss .. It's like 4 years now that I have the books but haven't read it yet .. LOL! .. Now I have to go and find where they are ..
• Manila, Philippines
No, I havent because I am not thrilles with the story. People become oblivious of the fact that abuse is never okay. We were conditioned to believe that these abuses are okay. This is money and they profit out of it.
• United States
Oh this is funny, you're not going to believe this but I'm watching "Fifty Shades Darker" as we speak. I don't think that the relationship between the 2 main characters, Christian and Anastasia is a healthy one, but I do think Domination and submission can be part of a healthy relationship, as long as boundaries are respected and communication is constant, with no effort of manipulation. Hypothetically speaking I would think it would be most fun to be the sort of person who likes both ;-)