The "Road" Statement
By Bojel
@jobelbojel (34729)
Philippines
April 14, 2018 5:33am CST
At first I cannot relate to this statement, "you're road".
I heard (or should I say eavesdropping) my colleagues telling stories about the statement.
I was thinking they were talking about how rude the caller was. And I saw a meme on Facebook.
While on YouTube, I saw a suggested video and the TV station reads TLC. When I saw the video, I was able to know about it.
The foreigner visited his Filipina acquaintance. The girl's family prepared a roasted pig called lechon to welcome him.
The American (foreigner guy) does not like the pig.
According to the interview, the family of the girl got insulted because the guy did not eat.
Then, this girl said to the guy, "you're road". The guy was puzzled. What? I'm old?, replied the guy. " You are acting like a kid" the woman said.
I am not picking on the girl.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
when the cast of banana sundae spoofed the 'road' issue, and last night i checked on 'the road girl' on Facebook, and knowing the lady speaks the same regional language as me, i felt dismayed to some of our fellow countrymen.
while the lady mispronounced the word RUDE as ROAD, i don't think we have to continue bashing the lady. i think the lady is not very knowledgeable enough to pronounce the word, so it is harsh and disrespectful to those who keep on bullying and bashing her.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
My point in posting this is not comment on the way she said it. I just really don't know how to express myself. I wanted to comment on the custom and culture of different races.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
@mlgen1037
Oh yes that is true. I pity the girl now being bash and people now do a lot of spoof re-enactment of the scene 
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
18 Apr 18
@jobelbojel yes i understand that. it is just my own personal opinion that i commented this way. i have read the comments of others and many are in unison in saying the same things so i opted to comment on the other issue and that is the bullying time of the netizens.
thank you for your time.
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
14 Apr 18
I fully agree with @Jessabuma surely the girl mispronounced the word "rude". It's not a good idea to prepare pork for a guest, many people do not eat pork for many different reasons.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
14 Apr 18
I would definitely not serve pork to a foreign visit. I will take note of that.
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@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
14 Apr 18
@jobelbojel It's a good thing to ask first. My husband does not eat pork, he would be very embarrassed being obliged to refuse. I always ask my guests if there are some food they do not like or cannot eat.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
@LadyDuck I definitely agree with you. Not all eat pork especially the "lechon" (rosated pig). We have our own preferences when it comes to food. But here in our country, having the roasted pig means something grand because not all people can afford that and it is quite hard prepare and cook. That is also the reason why I think the hosts got offended.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
14 Apr 18
I think that the clip (which you posted later) explains everything. "Road" is a mispronunciation of Rude" (as the subtitles make clear). It is also a very good example of how a misunderstanding of cultures can lead to hurt and accusations of rudeness (and I think that is what the real message of the video is).
The guest has been asked to try roast pig (lechon) which is a very special dish (both expensive and taking a long time to prepare). Unfortunately, he doesn't like pork (why is not explained in English, at least - he may be vegetarian or he may just find it nauseating. He is not Jewish or Muslim, at any rate, because he crosses himself vigorously before trying to comply).
It is very difficult to know what to do in this kind of situation but the only way is probably for both sides to try to have a little understanding and to talk it through. Of course, the guest does not mean to be rude and nor are his hosts trying to make him feel uncomfortable. There is just a lack of understanding on both sides which can only be resolved by talking about it.
I suspect that the film was produced as an educational video so that students could discuss how they would resolve the situation.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
15 Apr 18
@jobelbojel In the West, when we roast a whole pig (usually a young one, as in the video), we would always remove the intestines first. I didn't notice, in the video, whether that had been done and, of course, I didn't understand the commentary in Tagalog which wasn't subtitled.
I believe that in Arab countries, it is sometimes the custom to roast a whole lamb in honour of a guest and that the eyes are considered a special delicacy which would be offered to the guests. Again, the host would very likely be offended if this special part were refused unless he understood that most Westerners would find it extremely nauseating to think of eating that part!
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
@owlwings That is a good to know information about the Arab custom. I am unsure if I heard it correctly, the guy (American) mentioned about seeing the intestines.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
I think it is about how the guy saw it being prepared. I thought I heard him say that he saw the pig's intestines. My point is, there are lots of cultural differences. The girl's family could have asked the guy about his preferred dish. The family can adjust, probably. In the Philippines, receiving visitors is a festivity.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
In the Philippines, it is something that a festivity can offer. When they celebrate something special, they prepare the meal they don't prepare in ordinary days.
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@DianneN (246720)
• United States
17 Apr 18
@jobelbojel I understand. Normally, in this day and age, I ask my guests if they have any food restrictions.
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
I am actually not a fan of the girl. Filipinos are really sensitive people and I do understand that the girl's family really took pain in preparing for the guy's visit. I do not think that the guy deliberately mean to offend the girl's family because in the first place he could have given the bad attitude and not come here to visit. The guy did really love the girl even if she is not good in English. So I hope the girl would have understood that the guy did not want to offend the family and should have at least respected his decision
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
Yes, correct. I would say the family was offended because of the guy's gesture. As a Filipino, I would feel that the visitor did not.value the effort. But of course, since I know how other people react when served with dish they don't really eat, I will accept their reason of not eating the food. I don't eat pork so I understand the guy on that part.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Apr 18
@jobelbojel I believe the guy did not mean to hurt or offend. The family took it the wrong way. The guy is unable to explain since he was pressured to eat as if he was forced.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Apr 18
The girl's fiance went to the Philippines and paid a his gf's family a visit. The family prepared "lechon" or roasted pork because the fiance is coming to visit. The fiance did not like to eat, I think because he is not accustomed to eat such delicacy. The girl and her family was insulted. The girl told his fiance "You're ROAD" instead of saying, "You're rude."
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 May 18
Oh, so it's actually how the girl has pronounced "rude" as "road" . Well, sometimes pronunciations of English terms depends on the place where a person is coming.
It is funny that it is pronounced as road, but I think to be laughed at by many people in Fb is already degrading.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
11 May 18
@jobelbojel Somer people can really be insensitive.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
11 May 18
Yes, the geographical is the concern. I hope that the girl is not getting too much bashing this point in time.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
11 May 18
@SIMPLYD That is correct. The few Filipinos are the ones bullying her. This post does not bash though. I hope it is not a bashing post.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
16 Apr 18
Lol! .. the accent or pronunciation can be misleading ..
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
17 Apr 18
Absolutely correct. I can lead to another meaning and context.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
24 Apr 18
And will lead to different meanings.
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@Iam_jauntyjen (4951)
•
20 Apr 18
That girl became popular because of "the road".
English is not our second language and obviously the girl is not accustomed to speaking a foreign language.Ironically,those people who are criticizing and bashing her are fellow Filipinos as well. How sad.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
23 Apr 18
Yup, it was trending and more Filipinos are bashing her. As if all Filipinos are perfect. I also commit mistake but I am also pointing out the attitude of the girl towards the guy's not eating in their festivity,
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@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
20 Apr 18
The girl should learn something about the man's culture or food preferences if she wanted to be friends with him; and the man should had shown some "appreciation" to the girl's family just by tasting a bit of the food prepared for him; out of courtesy to the host.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
23 Apr 18
I think the girl needs to get to know more about the guy's culture. and the guy as well.
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Yes rude not road.
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
14 Apr 18
Hahaha !!!! The girl mispronounced the word " rude" to road ..
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
Yeah. It is the talk of the town in the office. But I did not comment too much on the accent. I comment about the hospitality went wrong.
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