Jealousy, the green eyed monster
@sprite1950 (30453)
Corsham, England
April 15, 2018 1:49am CST
When I was young jealousy was an emotion I struggled with especially when it came to romance. It can be very destructive and I'm ashamed to say some of my relationships ended because of it.
These days I am much more laid back. I feel secure in my relationships with people and no longer see others as a threat.
Has jealousy ever been a problem in your life or have you always felt secure in your relationships?
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
15 Apr 18
It's funny how we have preconceived ideas about people. I just can't imagine you suffering from jealousy!
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
15 Apr 18
@JudyEv I think it's natural to want something others have on occasions.
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@JudyEv (325255)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Apr 18
@sprite1950 Sometimes people have something I'd dearly love to have and I have to watch the green-eyed monster and keep him under control. Mostly a slim figure!!! 
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
@LadyDuck My partner used to look at other women a lot when I first knew him. He's not so bad now but it used to upset me.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
15 Apr 18
No I wouldn't like to share but then if a person loves you he wouldn't want to share either.
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@LadyDuck (457249)
• Switzerland
15 Apr 18
@sprite1950 This is my opinion, you are jealous only for the fear to lose something that must be only yours.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
16 Apr 18
I am never jealous of anyone but I get frustrated when they get what they do not deserve.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
Yes I know what you mean and that does seem to happen.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
You're so right. I have a friend who says she has destroyed every relationship she ever had through her jealousy.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
@rheicel That's true but some people cannot control it.
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@rheicel (7068)
• Philippines
16 Apr 18
@sprite1950 It's not healthy in the relationship when you always feel jealous about different things especially on a person.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Apr 18
Well jealousy has been a part of our relationship but I am happy that my husband made me feel secure and safe.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
15 Apr 18
Aw that's good, we all need to feel secure and safe.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
15 Apr 18
@sprite1950 Of course. And that I am grateful.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
15 Apr 18
Yes sometimes I also feel jealous.. it's a part of relationship.. jealousy is a sign that someone loves you truly..
But too much jealousy isn't good also..
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
15 Apr 18
You're right, a little jealousy shows you care about someone.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
15 Apr 18
@sprite1950 yes that's right dear friend, God bless you
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Apr 18
Back in the day I was always Jealous of the other gals and thinking they were out to steal the man I am with. Anymore I am pretty selective in who I want to be around and get to know.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
I was like that too and some of them really did want to steal my men! I'm much calmer now though
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
Jealousy is a monster as you said, a very destructive monster. I hate it when I feel it. It has been a problem for me too when I was younger but now I have overcome it.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
16 Apr 18
@sprite1950 Yes, that was when we were younger.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
It is a monster and it can wreck relationships. I'm so glad I don't feel it any more.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
15 Apr 18
I think it's because we are too young to deal with our emotion, when we grow up, we have already experienced a lot so we can handle our emotions better.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
15 Apr 18
Yes I think you're right, I am much calmer than I was in many ways.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
19 Apr 18
I expect he always made you feel secure 
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@nela13 (55702)
• Portugal
19 Apr 18
@sprite1950 Yes, I never had doubts and he always made me feel secure.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
Yes it's worse when we are young.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
23 Apr 18
I think it's natural if we care about someone. We just have to make sure it doesn't get out of hand
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@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
16 Apr 18
I don't think I have ever been the jealous type. I am pretty laid back and figure if the person wants to be with me then they will and if not then they can go be with the other person.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
17 Apr 18
I'm exactly like that now but I wasn't at one time and used imagine that whoever I was with at the time was up to all sorts. It's a horrible feeling.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
17 Apr 18
@morgoodie Yes we don't need cheaters in our lives!
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@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
17 Apr 18
@sprite1950 I can imagine it would be horrible. Always wondering what they were doing when they aren't with you. My ex used to make comments about other girls and I figured he was just trying to get a reaction out of me. I never acted jealous, I would just tell him to go on and be with her then. Come to find out he was cheating on me just not with the people he was making the comments about. 
Good riddance to bad rubbish as they say.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
15 Apr 18
Jealousy is a normal feeling to all. When it comes to relationship we must know how to control our emotions. I do believe that when we are jealous then we care. Surely we won't bother if we don't love or care for the person. It's just that we must know how to handle it. I guess we all traveled on that path somewhere in our lives and it becomes a problem. And as we grow older we are learning how to deal with it.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
15 Apr 18
That's a great answer and very true. I think most people feel it at some point in their lives but most of us learn to control it.
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@1creekgirl (40396)
• United States
21 Oct 18
I'm not basically a very jealous person, but it's surprised me at times in my life.
