What exactly is 'Rude'?

@JolietJake (51149)
United States
April 16, 2018 5:59am CST
I see this word pop up often describing other users here. I was told I was 'rude' for telling someone not to call me 'Buddy'. 'Rude' is defined as being 'offensively impolite or ill-mannered'. Being abrupt, cutting through all the bullshit and saying what a person means, is not of necessity 'rude'. I could say that calling someone by something other than their screen-name here is 'rude'. I could say not bothering to read the Guidelines and FAQ pages here...and ignoring people that say you might want to check them out...is 'rude'. And not to put too fine of a point on it...yes, I can be 'rude'. But if you merely think I am being rude...then you probably don't really understand what 'rude' is. But I can teach you... *This Public Service announcement is brought to you courtesy of SomeRudeGuyTyping@InHisBed.Room*
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@WorDazza (10106)
• Manchester, England
16 Apr
Unfortunately there are far too many people around who have a massively over-inflated sense of their own importance and regard any treatment other than the utmost deference and reverence towards them as being rude!! They are usually the same people who will balance a step-ladder on top of their toilet cistern, climb up it, hang out of their bathroom window and use a pair of binoculars to look into one of their neighbours bedroom windows and then complain they are offended by what is happening within!!!
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@LadyDuck (156827)
• Switzerland
16 Apr
@WorDazza Great description!
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
A much better answer than my usual 'people are just weird'.
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@LadyDuck (156827)
• Switzerland
16 Apr
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@LadyDuck (156827)
• Switzerland
16 Apr
Too many get offended quickly, they become aggressive, but then the "others are rude".
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@yugocean (8336)
• India
16 Apr
You are rude, I am rude so we are rude.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
I specifically asked someone a few weeks ago to not call me 'Buddy'. Their next comment began 'Buddy'. Now THAT, to me, is rude.
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@LadyDuck (156827)
• Switzerland
16 Apr
@yugocean I do not consider myself at all rude. This is your personal opinion.
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@JohnRoberts (56689)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Apr
I looked up "rude" in Webster's and saw my photograph.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
I saw a Foghat album/CD
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@kobesbuddy (46151)
• East Tawas, Michigan
16 Apr
I looked up the word rude and look what I found!
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@Hannihar (35958)
17 Apr
@JohnRoberts John that was funny.
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@rebelann (41141)
• El Paso, Texas
16 Apr
I suppose 'Buddy' would be the same as those jerks calling me 'dear', 'honey' or 'sweetie', I hate those terms of not so endearments.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
JJ seems so much easier to type than Buddy...
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@GardenGerty (99159)
• United States
17 Apr
I don't like those either.
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@rebelann (41141)
• El Paso, Texas
17 Apr
Yeah, that too @JolietJake
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@sabtraversa (13328)
• Italy
16 Apr
Being told you're rude is... rude. But you weren't rude, BUDDY.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
Dammit Buddette!!!
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@topffer (34070)
• France
16 Apr
Oh, well, you were not blocked as it happened to me after a comment to a new member which had nothing rude, but was probably too rude for this member. What I found rude was not your comment, but the way your comment was quoted and used. We have a few rules here, and discussions towards other members were forbidden in the past...
I am starting to see some posts pop up that are hinting in a round about way at dealing in personal disputes between members. I just want to take this...
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
I did see they removed the photo after I told them it was 'rude'.
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@topffer (34070)
• France
16 Apr
@JolietJake I had not noticed that. Using a photo was sneaky.
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@yugocean (8336)
• India
17 Apr
@topffer Which photo? I forget if this discussion had a photo. @JolietJake was there?
@MALUSE (40040)
• Germany
16 Apr
I've learnt today that my comments on the same topic - namely to use terms of endearment for members one doesn't know - are harsh and rude. One member was so enamoured in his own words that he sent me multiple comments.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
Why people can't be satisfied with our names I just don't quite understand.
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@vandana7 (64724)
• India
17 Apr
@JolietJake You have changed yours once too many, and Joliet sounds feminine and finally...I have been playing a lot with under 5 and all those words keep on spilling...
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@kobesbuddy (46151)
• East Tawas, Michigan
16 Apr
If I'm doing something that's offensive to another person, something definitely needs to change. If what I'm doing is offensive to you, I need to stop doing it! Letting me know, is your part in this. Now, the ball is in my court, to stop the offensive behavior or continue to make waves. Being honest isn't being 'rude' in the least bit. Not being called 'Buddy' is your personal choice and others should respect that
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@Juliaacv (30228)
• Canada
16 Apr
If someone referred to me as Buddy and not my name as indicated on the site, then that is rude, no questions asked. The use of the word buddy and the use of the word rude seem to be very popular on the site as of late, and we can really do without a lot of use of either word.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
I think many of these people don't really understand the concept of 'rude'.
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@Juliaacv (30228)
• Canada
16 Apr
@JolietJake Although the site is global, interactions don't always sit well globally because of the language and cultural differences. And that comes to play in a lot of aspects on the site. Everyone has to remember that comments left are visible to everyone on the site, and not everyone might appreciate some of how they try to convey their thoughts or feelings.
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@GardenGerty (99159)
• United States
17 Apr
@Juliaacv But my dear one, I should be able to call anyone buddy, or rude, if I choose to. It is my right. Free speech and all that. Okay, I did not say that, or would not say that to anyone here.
@pgntwo (21646)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
16 Apr
Rudeness, 1 letter more than what endures after undress: redness.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
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@pgntwo (21646)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
17 Apr
@JolietJake More of an 8-play than a 4-play Duress is another one, 2 letters shy.
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@lovebuglena (6321)
• Staten Island, New York
16 Apr
Sometimes you try to be nice to someone, try to the help them and they attack you, saying you were rude.
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
I've seen that quite often here
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@sprite1950 (13924)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr
Wow JJ is it your time of the month? Just joking The buddy thing is cultural. I get called "dear" too which is a bit weird but I know the people who call me that don't mean to be offensive.so I probably wouldn't say anything. I agree that people are easily offended here but it is a bit like that with text,
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
I've had people...in their very next comment...call me 'Buddy' right after I had just told them not to. Since then, I just start shutting them down at the first instance.
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• United States
16 Apr
This sounds like a 'thickness of skin and esteem' problem
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@nomus24g (22846)
• India
16 Apr
we have a cozy place here called "RUDE LOUNGE" which serves awesome cocktails with kebabs
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@JudyEv (123138)
• Bunbury, Australia
16 Apr
Some people should just be treated with ignorance? Or should that be 'ignore'?
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
One of the sites I am on has an 'ignore' feature so you don't see posts from people you have 'ignored'. I wish I had that here at times...doesn't block them from anything, you just don't see them
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@JudyEv (123138)
• Bunbury, Australia
17 Apr
@JolietJake Definitely a handy feature.
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@vandana7 (64724)
• India
16 Apr
I think what is perceived as rude varies from one culture to another and one person to another and one household to another. If you do not want to be called buddy that is perfectly fine. You would have your reasons that another person may not know or understand because of cultural differences. Under the situation saying it in a way that is simple may be easier. Like.."I do not like being called buddy. Can you try not to do so? Thank you." If I had to go ballistic, I could say "stop calling me buddy, I am not your buddy". hmmm.
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@sabtraversa (13328)
• Italy
16 Apr
@vandana7 That was my first thought, cultural differences. Some people will call everyone 'friend' or 'buddy', but for my culture, you barely call your friends that way. Personally, I don't care, as long as you don't use expletives such as 'princess' or 'sweetheart'.
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@vandana7 (64724)
• India
17 Apr
@sabtraversa In the west eating till a person belches is considered rude. But in India, some communities they believe in feeding people till the person belches. In fact, the host often tells people eat slowly there is no hurry, more food is coming.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
16 Apr
Some things that may be rude to others, perhaps others think are being polite or respectful .. Well, the "Buddy" is something else of course... because a buddy is someone you know in person.. a close friend ...
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@JolietJake (51149)
• United States
16 Apr
I had one user here continue calling me that after I asked them not to...which to me is exceedingly 'rude'.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
17 Apr
@JolietJake well, that is really rude, when you have already asked him not to do it and yet continue to do so ... that would be very annoying ..
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@celticeagle (118210)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Apr
If rude is being honest and telling it like it is I guess I am rude too. People have a right to say what they wish. Does society really know it all? Sure seem to.
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@sharon6345 (125270)
• United States
16 Apr
I am so so sad but this just lifted me up. Thank you. I would like to ask you. What do you think of a person that cuts you off and says I don't want to hear that. I want to talk. I constantly say I don't like that and it's not a concern. I get I want to talk. But I had been quiet for so long and it's not something I think is noticed. I simply wait a few mintutes and walk away.
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@nanette64 (17610)
• Fairfield, Texas
16 Apr
LMAO @JolietJake . Oh yeah, if someone wants to meet someone 'rude', that would be me; except they wouldn't realize it at the time. By the time it dawned on them, I'd be long gone.
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