What exactly is 'Rude'?
By Joliet Jake
April 16, 2018 5:59am CST
I see this word pop up often describing other users here. I was told I was 'rude' for telling someone not to call me 'Buddy'. 'Rude' is defined as being 'offensively impolite or ill-mannered'. Being abrupt, cutting through all the bullshit and saying what a person means, is not of necessity 'rude'. I could say that calling someone by something other than their screen-name here is 'rude'. I could say not bothering to read the Guidelines and FAQ pages here...and ignoring people that say you might want to check them out...is 'rude'. And not to put too fine of a point on it...yes, I can be 'rude'. But if you merely think I am being rude...then you probably don't really understand what 'rude' is. But I can teach you... *This Public Service announcement is brought to you courtesy of SomeRudeGuyTyping@InHisBed.Room*
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• Manchester, England
Unfortunately there are far too many people around who have a massively over-inflated sense of their own importance and regard any treatment other than the utmost deference and reverence towards them as being rude!! They are usually the same people who will balance a step-ladder on top of their toilet cistern, climb up it, hang out of their bathroom window and use a pair of binoculars to look into one of their neighbours bedroom windows and then complain they are offended by what is happening within!!!
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Oh, well, you were not blocked as it happened to me after a comment to a new member which had nothing rude, but was probably too rude for this member. What I found rude was not your comment, but the way your comment was quoted and used. We have a few rules here, and discussions towards other members were forbidden in the past...
I am starting to see some posts pop up that are hinting in a round about way at dealing in personal disputes between members. I just want to take this...
• East Tawas, Michigan
If I'm doing something that's offensive to another person, something definitely needs to change. If what I'm doing is offensive to you, I need to stop doing it! Letting me know, is your part in this. Now, the ball is in my court, to stop the offensive behavior or continue to make waves. Being honest isn't being 'rude' in the least bit. Not being called 'Buddy' is your personal choice and others should respect that
If someone referred to me as Buddy and not my name as indicated on the site, then that is rude, no questions asked. The use of the word buddy and the use of the word rude seem to be very popular on the site as of late, and we can really do without a lot of use of either word.
@JolietJake Although the site is global, interactions don't always sit well globally because of the language and cultural differences. And that comes to play in a lot of aspects on the site. Everyone has to remember that comments left are visible to everyone on the site, and not everyone might appreciate some of how they try to convey their thoughts or feelings.
• Corsham, England
Wow JJ is it your time of the month? Just joking The buddy thing is cultural. I get called "dear" too which is a bit weird but I know the people who call me that don't mean to be offensive.so I probably wouldn't say anything. I agree that people are easily offended here but it is a bit like that with text,
I think what is perceived as rude varies from one culture to another and one person to another and one household to another. If you do not want to be called buddy that is perfectly fine. You would have your reasons that another person may not know or understand because of cultural differences. Under the situation saying it in a way that is simple may be easier. Like.."I do not like being called buddy. Can you try not to do so? Thank you." If I had to go ballistic, I could say "stop calling me buddy, I am not your buddy". hmmm.
@vandana7 That was my first thought, cultural differences. Some people will call everyone 'friend' or 'buddy', but for my culture, you barely call your friends that way. Personally, I don't care, as long as you don't use expletives such as 'princess' or 'sweetheart'.
@sabtraversa In the west eating till a person belches is considered rude. But in India, some communities they believe in feeding people till the person belches. In fact, the host often tells people eat slowly there is no hurry, more food is coming.
• United States
I am so so sad but this just lifted me up. Thank you. I would like to ask you. What do you think of a person that cuts you off and says I don't want to hear that. I want to talk. I constantly say I don't like that and it's not a concern. I get I want to talk. But I had been quiet for so long and it's not something I think is noticed. I simply wait a few mintutes and walk away.