What are the keys to a happy marriage?

@renicemae (2989)
Philippines
April 19, 2018 7:31am CST
I'll be celebrating my first anniversary with my husband this coming May. For the first year of our marriage, there had been a lot of ups and downs. We argue because we have different perspectives and we criticize each others attitude at times. Is that healthy in a relationship? I guess, criticizing each others attitude is still healthy because it's a way of correcting your partners' unpleasant behavior. But I sometimes wonder if I'm doing things right or am I supporting my husband enough. Do I make him happy or not? Why does he lack the will to do his project? Am I not enough as an inspiration? Or is he just lazy? Or am I stressing him out? Those are questions in my mind that is left unanswered.
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@mlgen1037 (16389)
• Manila, Philippines
19 Apr
Trust and respect plus a dose of compromise.
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
19 Apr
Yeah I agree but pride is sometimes the issue.
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@mlgen1037 (16389)
• Manila, Philippines
19 Apr
@renicemae yeah. That is why learn to compromise. If both of you have pride, then no compromise.
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
20 Apr
@mlgen1037 I feel like I'm always the one giving way to him and I'm not a Saint. I dont know how to explain things in a way that we both agree.
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@Shavkat (56919)
• Philippines
19 Apr
I think the key is being honest and trust to each other.
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
20 Apr
I can say that we are both honest but when it comes to trust, I can't say that I fully trust him.
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@Shavkat (56919)
• Philippines
20 Apr
@renicemae Oh. it seems there is a history in the past. I hope it is not.
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
21 Apr
@Shavkat There was unfortunately. But he has learned his lessons so I forgave him.
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@Corbin5 (100138)
• United States
19 Apr
Marriage is all about working together as a team. There is no room in a marriage for criticizing each other. Complimenting each other works wonders for a marriage.
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
20 Apr
So i guess we're not doing good in our marriage. I also think that I'm having a hard time accepting my life now that I have in laws. I have to adjust knowing that I live in their house. NO matter how much my husband told me that it is our home now, I cant fully call it our home because technically it's not our home. I wanted to have a place I call my own.
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@Corbin5 (100138)
• United States
20 Apr
@renicemae I understand. I would not be happy at all living in the home of my in-laws.
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
21 Apr
@Corbin5 I suggested to him that if he really wants to stick around with his parents house then I should take part on the expenses for the construction of the house in the second floor.
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@Jessabuma (13483)
• Baguio, Philippines
19 Apr
I think the key to a happy marriage are trust, honesty and understanding...
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
20 Apr
Will financial matters don't matter?
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@Jessabuma (13483)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 Apr
@renicemae hehehe!!!! It also matter ..
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
21 Apr
@Jessabuma I think money is the most common reason why couples quarrel nowadays.
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• Philippines
21 Apr
i think theres no really perfect marriage, you mentioned its just 1year marriage so theres still long way to learn each other.
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
25 Apr
Yeah I know. We're still in the adjustment stage.
• India
19 Apr
I think we should accept our better half and its deficiency means the things which they are not good at and will try to do them properly and this can be done with good bonding, patience holds the key
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@renicemae (2989)
• Philippines
20 Apr
I think we both dont have that patience. But I also think that by staying in his parents place is waiting...and waiting needs patience. So i guess i still have that patience.
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