BULLYING AND HOW TO PREVENT IT (PT 7)
@gnatsmom (2336)
April 22, 2018 1:56pm CST
PREVENTION
1. The Home: Prevention must begin in the home. The best well-adjusted children come from homes where love, consistency, selflessness,and self-discipline abound. As busy as parents may be with work, providing, and social responsibilities, it is imperative they find time to interact with their child. Quality time should not just be a phrase that is tossed around. We must notice the red flags indicating our child could be a bully or a victim, then take immediate, specific action to rectify the behavior.
2. Ministers/Teachers/Caregivers: If we notice signs of abuse, it is important to take action in the form of intervention. However, it is just as important make sure suspicions are accurate before reporting abuse or neglect. Many families have been destroyed because of false accusations. Should an overzealous or narcissistic social worker get hold of a complaint, their life's mission becomes destroying the home. This is a slippery slope. But, on the other hand, we can not turn a blind eye when we encounter victims or bullies.
3. As a Christian, I must also include a solution from my worldview, and that is embracing God in the home and inviting Him back into our schools. . No one cares more these little ones than He.
Matthew 19:13-15 “13Then were there brought unto him little children, that he should put his hands on them, and pray: and the disciples rebuked them. 14But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven. 15And he laid his hands on them, and departed thence.” (KJV)
Luke 17:2 “It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.” (KJV)
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
22 Apr 18
I did not see your previous posts but this is a sensitive subject with me as I was bullied all through school. I don't think anything can stop it completely until they continue the studies that produced these results:
I have not heard of any further studies but it makes sense. Child bullies grow up to be adult bullies and they usually produce children who are bullies.
The best action to stop bullying is to fund the research to fix those mis-wired brains and in the meantime isolate the bullies. Have a special school for them, make them school at home, institutionalize them or some other solution. You will not stop bullies through modifying their behavior or society's because it's not a behavior problem--it is a brain malfunction that needs to be fixed.
If a monster was loose in a school killing children, would you not shoot it? Same thing--monsters are loose, we must remove them and work for a cure. 
Aggressive boys may actually derive pleasure from watching other people suffer pain, a new study says.
@gnatsmom (2336)
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22 Apr 18
I agree to some degree. Numerous studies have shown that those mis-wired brains form during a infant and child's formative years. Often bullies are created. I also believe it is a spiritual thing. There are some who can be transformed by God. I have seen it, personally.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
22 Apr 18
@gnatsmom Then we need to start paying attention to our children. I never understood why we have so many prisons and re-forming programs when we could prevent most crime by making sure that children were nurtured and loved from infancy. Instead of spending billions on welfare, give parents job training while caring for their children in loving child centers staffed by grandparents, retired teachers, empty nesters, and other experienced people. Feed those children nutritious meals and spark their creativity and imagination.
In Germany they pay a parent or close family member for 2 years to stay at home and raise the child. Their juvenile delinquency rates are dramatically lower than the U.S. and so is crime in general. I would bet that their policy on child-rearing has a lot to do with that. I don't know about their bullying rates but I'd also bet it is much lower than ours because their children are loved and nurtured from birth rather than being raised by a succession of strangers.
@gnatsmom (2336)
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22 Apr 18
@dragon54u Yes, I agree. Prison overcrowding would not be an issue if parents were consistent, available, took advantage of teachable moments, and practiced intentional parenting. Germany definitely has something going, but wouldn't it be even better if parents were willing to sacrifice and one of them just stay home. You are so right in understanding the importance of the home.
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