forgive but never forget

@sashann (210)
Philippines
April 26, 2018 11:45am CST
My husband cheated me, yes I forgive him because I love him our family and that was a long time ago but why is easy for me to forgive him but not my self, ?
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@MALUSE (69416)
• Germany
26 Apr 18
You don't forgive yourself? What does that mean? You haven't done anything wrong.
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@MALUSE (69416)
• Germany
26 Apr 18
@sashann Try to put that behind you and learn to love yourself!
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@sashann (210)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
@MALUSE yeah , that's what I am trying to do now:) thank you,, but still i really had this hard headed, he is always my priorities (actually next to our kids)
@sashann (210)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
He kept on telling me that because he was mad at me, because I had flaws ,because I'm not able to reach his expactations maybe, that is why he was not satisfied with me, I'm just a plain boring wife.
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@LeaPea2417 (36396)
• Toccoa, Georgia
26 Apr 18
Why would you even blame yourself?
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@LeaPea2417 (36396)
• Toccoa, Georgia
26 Apr 18
@sashann You are not just plain and boring. You were good enough for him to marry you in the first place. He should have accepted you for who you are. He got tempted on his own, you didn't cause his temptation and he fell to that temptation (on is own). It is fully his mistake, not yours.
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@sashann (210)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
@LeaPea2417 He kepton telling me that if she can always find a better person, I'm always thinking that he is just saying that to make me stay but why not in a nice way , why would he always need to threaten me? (sighhhh)
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@sashann (210)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
because I'm not able to reach his expactations maybe, that is why he was not satisfied with me, I'm just a plain boring wife.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
26 Apr 18
Forgiving is not easy, it show your greatness..
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
27 Apr 18
@sashann According to me a cheating person never deserve forgiveness or respect and another chance too. For me, that will be a closed chapter for ever. I won't beg instead I will stand strongly on my feet. I agree it may pain, but begging someone for care, concern and love is the worst thing in the world. Have the courage to stand up strongly.
@sashann (210)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
i always asks myself if I do really deserves to be cheated, and that girl she never asked for my forgiveness even i begged her to ask for it,
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@skysnap (20154)
26 Apr 18
Find out the cause for the cheating. because men or women who cheat can do it again if you don't find the cause and make peace with that.
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@skysnap (20154)
27 Apr 18
@sashann complicated.
@sashann (210)
• Philippines
27 Apr 18
he told me it was my faukt and his alsobecause he is wandering in life(stupid)
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
26 Apr 18
Because we expect too much from ourselves.
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@sashann (210)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
yeah,, we always think thatsince we are giving our best ,we deserves the best also
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
27 Apr 18
@sashann It is natural that we think and feel that way. We always deserve the best but sometimes we can only do so much.
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
26 Apr 18
Ohh that's sad to hear, anyway we all do mistakes, I hope he will never do that again.. Good luck to your relationship.
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@sashann (210)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
thank you:) I really hope so, because it feels like it only happen yesterday
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
26 Apr 18
@sashann I understand you
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
27 Apr 18
And why cant you forgive yourself?!? Sorry I cannot understand.
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
26 Apr 18
"And the one-eyed furry toy, that lies upon the bed, has often heard me cry. Heard me whisper out a name long forgiven - but not forgotten. You're forgiven, not forgotten. You're forgiven, not forgotten. You're forgiven, not forgotten... you're not forgotten." Sorry, you reminded me of that song from Corrs. If you want to listen to it, here it is:
The Corrs - Forgiven Not Forgotten
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@sashann (210)
• Philippines
27 Apr 18
sure i will:)