"No, it wasn't my mum. It was the trained massage therapist."

Perth, Australia
April 28, 2018 9:18pm CST
wow it's been quite some time since I've been on here. I have missed MyLot very much. Everything is ok. Not sure if anyone has even noticed my disappearance lol but I am back again anyway. I just wanted to share something my Aunty said last week. We didn't argue or anything like that. Was just something that touched a nerve with me. Before I tell you the conversation, just wanted to tell you that April is a tough month for me for my mum died on April 7th. She died in 2007 but it's still a stressful month every year. It gives me anxiety and makes my OCD go wild. For the very first time, I decided that I would go out on the 7th of April instead of staying cooped up inside my house. I decided I will do something I enjoy. So I booked myself a massage. And it was lovely. A full body massage for one hour and then a 30 minute reflexology. When I had the reflexology, I was laying there and she pressed a point in my foot and I suddenly felt a huge sense of relief. Like I was calm and content. Which was wonderful considering I had been stressed and depressed a lot. Anyway, last week, my Aunty and I were on own way to the movies to see that Truth or Dare movie and....holy cow.... scared me. While we were walking I told her about my massage and explained how I felt good while having it and for a few hours after it. To which she said "That was your mother giving you that wonderful feeling." To which I replied "No, it wasn't my mum. It was the trained massage therapist." Though not a big deal, and it isn't, but what she said bothered me. The two theories I have for her saying this was 1: She genuinely believed it was my mum coming through from the spirit world to give me a sense of relief. Or 2: She was just saying that to make me feel better. I will respect either theory. I do believe in the spirit world due to my own experiences, but it's not about that. It's about people saying something like it's a fact without any proof. I do not like that. I just don't. Even if the whole idea is to make me feel better about something, I don't like statements such as that. No common sense or logical thinking was put into her comment. I don't mean that in a horrible way. I just don't believe that every little thing is a miracle or is coming from something we don't fully understand. Sometimes things...just are. Just is. When you think about it, I was having a massage. Massages are meant to feel good during and after. They are meant to make you relaxed. It had nothing to do with my mum. Another reason I don't believe my Aunty's comment is because my mum has been dead since 2007. If my mum was coming through to help me, then why just this year and not every other year when I was crying my eyes out wishing she could just hug me again? No sorry but I don't believe what my Aunty said and although innocent, it bugs me when people say stuff like this. It reminds me of a woman my dad dated. One night we were out and about and we saw a glowing ring around the moon. She said "That is your mum doing that." Even then ( I was about 16 or 17 ) I found it odd. She wanted me to believe that the ring around the moon, for billions to see was specifically just for me? I really hope my post has not offended anyone in any way. I respect those who have beliefs in things that make them happy and like I said, I have a big belief in the spirit world but I don't like comments such as this. Not everything I see, hear or feel should be connected to my mum who I desperately want to see nor do I believe someone should tease me into thinking my mum is the reason with no proof to back it up. You can tell me what you believe, that is fine but don't tell me in a way as if you're telling me a fact without thinking of all the other possibilities that are more factual. Would love to hear your thoughts about this topic. Thanks in advance.
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@much2say (53699)
• Los Angeles, California
29 Apr 18
I think their intentions were good . . . I mean, I believe their comments were meant to be comforting - not to really convince you of facts, but rather to say in a poetic way that your mom is watching over you. Perhaps there is a theory #3 that for some it can be difficult talking about a loved one that has passed on. Sometimes there are no right words to try to be consoling except to say something they hope can be meaningful or profound in some way. But everyone reacts differently, and I know their words did not comfort you. I do think they meant well though. Glad you are back - and that the massage did wonders for you!
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@vandana7 (98527)
• India
29 Apr 18
You nailed it. I don't think I can express it better than that. As long as intentions are not bad, and no ulterior motive can exist in such comment or the person, I'd be fine with it. And the fact that people have difficulty in striking honest conversation is also true. I think both ladies felt protective towards Dani, a need to take care and comfort her, in whatever little way they could.
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@much2say (53699)
• Los Angeles, California
29 Apr 18
@vandana7 Exactly. I think it was their way to try to "help". Perhaps they had romantic explanations, but the thought behind it was with good intentions - trying to turn a hard-to-discuss topic to something possibly uplifting.
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@vandana7 (98527)
• India
29 Apr 18
@much2say Yeah....the concern for Dani is obvious... Dani is still to young to realize that people who care even that much are rare in life.
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@RasmaSandra (72520)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Apr 18
The world beyond is hard to explain unless you have had plenty of experience with it. I have a sixth sense as did my entire family and have experienced a lot among them all kinds of signs and sightings. I cannot say for sure about your massage but if you were thinking of your mom at any time the feelings could be related. I have felt bad and I have been comforted by my mom from beyond and many other things so I know I am not alone in that sense. As I said it is a matter of believing, opening up your mind to the spirit world and also about experiencing actual contact. Personally, I do not think the moon could be involved in this but I do know that if you think about a special loved one and look upon the stars you can tell their response by the star that suddenly shines the very brightest. .Don't worry about believing or not just know that your mom will always love you and yes, in a different way watch over you not in the way we know it to be on earth though. Nothing wrong with us all believing different things.
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• Perth, Australia
2 May 18
@RasmaSandra I do agree with you that there is so much in this world that we can not explain. I have had many unexplained things happen. Like I said, I believe in the spirit world. But as far as the massage and the ring around the moon, they were not related to the spirit world. I just don't understand how anyone can connect it that way. One was a massage which is supposed to make you feel good and the ring around the moon is something that happens from time to time as well as it happening to the sun too. I don't believe they had anything to do with me or my mum. Thank you for your answer.
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• Perth, Australia
10 Jun 18
@sugartoes The world sure has some strange and unexplained things. It's very interesting to me.
@jeets03 (12114)
• India
30 May 20
@VivaLaDani13, I think it was due to that trained massager you felt so relaxed. Because this is why we pay for! Also, you are correct that if it is your Mom why only that particular year she came for you? This might be said to make you feel better. And about circle around moon is no secret. It doesn't come for any single person. So, I don't know why she said so. However, we can say miracle to something that make impossible to possible.
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@jeets03 (12114)
• India
7 Jun 20
@VivaLaDani13 Thank you.
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• Perth, Australia
1 Jun 20
@jeets03 Thank you so much for reading and answering. I seriously agree with your answer.
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29 Apr 18
I know that you know they mean well.It's just that you did not like their belief.
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• Perth, Australia
2 May 18
@Iam_jauntyjen Oh I know they meant well for sure. But as far as these two events, no I do not believe what they were thinking or trying to connect.
@Daljinder (23222)
• Bangalore, India
12 May 18
The first time I read this, I was amused and now after reading your other post, it is just making me frustrated. I don't know why a little detail about you seems to escape people around you. That being that you tend to be more on the logical side of things. So, obviously wishful thinking or (bizarre occurrences in this case) without proof wouldn't fly with you.
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• Perth, Australia
20 May 18
@Daljinder Tell me about it!
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@Daljinder (23222)
• Bangalore, India
22 May 18
@VivaLaDani13 And you know I can see where your aunt is coming from. She actually knew your Mum. No matter very well or no but enough to know the general likes/ dislikes. So, she could be using that knowledge to discern what she would have said / done if she were around. But I don't get the lady your Dad dated. "Ring around the moon" was a bizarre thing to associate with her. This reminds me of the elders that would tell the little children that have lost their parents or loved ones that they have become a star. Well that is suitable for kids. "Kids" being the operative word here. No offense intended but yeah its I don't know...damn I can't find the correct word to explain..... umm...patronising (?) of her?...No, that one is too harsh so..ummm... a milder version of patronising...lol Jeez! I suck lol Gah! You understand what I am trying to say here?
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