Forever
By Darcy Nemo
@YrNemo (20261)
May 1, 2018 7:12pm CST
I was washing dishes before when I thought of what a colleague just told me yesterday about a forever case in some marriages.
The husband in that case, told the wife that he would never consider divorce because to him, marriage was forever.
The funny thing about the case is, he was a control freak and was never hesitant in mentally and physically abusing his children and wife.
It sounds a bit too amusing to me when the bully is the one who said, 'forever' to his victims. (No wonder the wife in that case ran away from her husband in the end (successfully) with the help of some organizations.)
On second thoughts, I do know quite a few similar cases of this sort of 'Forever'. 
Do you often think about this and that while doing mundane tasks like washing dishes or ironing, and laughed suddenly to the surprise of others?
Do you often think about this and that while doing mundane tasks like washing dishes or ironing, and laughed suddenly to the surprise of others?17 people like this
19 responses
You are a practical lady. 
@LeaPea2417 (36438)
• Toccoa, Georgia
2 May 18
That is too bad the guy mentally and physically abused the wife and kids.
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@LeaPea2417 (36438)
• Toccoa, Georgia
2 May 18
@YrNemo My husband is a good mate.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
2 May 18
Glad to know she was able to escape that abusive marriage. It's funny indeed that he would say forever to such thing when he couldn't even keep the marriage healthy.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 May 18
Unfortunately I have witnessed too many cases like that and just reminds us that domestic abuse is alive and well. Many women feel trapped because of religious beliefs and the sick men who exert power and control over them.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
2 May 18
@YrNemo That is true but we seem to hear a lot more about the bad ones.
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
2 May 18
I let my mind wander when I walk...when I do dishes...when I'm quilting. I get awesome ideas....some actually come to fruition.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
2 May 18
I am so glad to hear the wife and children got away from this man. I often think of all sorts of things while washing dishes. Even though I hate to wash dishes, they do tend to free up my thinking process for other things.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
8 May 18
@YrNemo I despise ironing. I don't do it unless absolutely necessary.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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9 May 18
@Shellyann36 There was a job interview recently which I found out at the last minute that I had to iron the dress. I didn't get that job (closer to home) just as I guess (the bad omen was there: ironing 
!).
!).
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
6 May 18
I hope all the women who are abused must stand up bravely, and leave the abusers.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
6 May 18
@YrNemo Many women are struggling to stay married for their children.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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6 May 18
It is sad when one keeps convincing oneself to 'be patient'. One lady told me that she was patient like that for 25 yrs, then prior to her wedding anniversary, she told her controlling husband that she was leaving him. He begged her to celebrate the wedding anniversary first, which she did. (Their children were in university at the time, so the breakup did not affect them one bit.)
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@YrNemo (20261)
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9 May 18
@caopaopao You are very right. With men, I heard that many stayed because of the comfort (the unpaid servants were never on strike!). 
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
4 May 18
I married my college sweetheart and I've never a bad marriage day since. I'm glad that colleague got away from the abuser. I would not stay with one either. I rarely do mundane stuff. when I do I'm thinking about what I will do next...
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@PainsOnSlate (21854)
• Canada
5 May 18
@YrNemo sometimes I get jealous when I run into the easily distracted, a bit of jealously creeps into my head.
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@YrNemo (20261)
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5 May 18
I did hear of cases in which the males happened to be the ones who got abused and being controlled. Funny isn't it. (One of my very talented English teachers was henpecked by his horrible wife for about 2 decades. I lost a bit of my respect for him when I found out he let her chasing him around the neighborhood with a kitchen knife too often. He was the breadwinner, not her!)
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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2 May 18
My ex was so into 'forever' - he warned me that if I ever tried to leave him he would kill me. He was foolish enough to believe that his threat would scare me so much that I would put up with mental and physical abuse instead of leaving him. I got out within two months.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
2 May 18
i do and i know about abusers. they always say you belong to them forever. had to sneak off from 2 out of 5 sadly
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
5 May 18
@YrNemo yes a few i have known was very lucky to always get a very nice husband that done as they should
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@MarshaMusselman (38652)
• Midland, Michigan
6 May 18
Sure but usually I am alone. What I find funnier is when I realize too late that I forgot some important task and then reprimand myself out loud using my name several times which I don't allow anyone else to do. ( Meaning use my name several times. As many try in jest but it got old years ago).
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@YrNemo (20261)
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9 May 18
These days, I often mumble to myself. My grandma used to do that, so is my mother lately.
@Poppylicious (11133)
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2 May 18
I'm glad she was able to get out of the marriage. All too many people - both women and men - really are stuck in these kind of marriages for ever.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 May 18
That guy was a real piece of sh*t.
Yes I do laugh out loud about the thoughts in my head.
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