Trying to be Brave

@CRK109 (14459)
United States
May 6, 2018 10:25pm CST
Most of the people in the building in which I live are nice. I've been here 2 years now and while I'm sure I still haven't met everyone who lives here, I'm pretty happy knowing the people I do. With maybe one exception. Three doors down from me live a couple (unmarried) and her little dog. Pretty much any time you pass their door, the smell of cannabis comes through loud and clear. The girlfriend will smile and say hello when she sees me, and that's about it. The boyfriend is something else altogether. I'm still not sure what to make of him and I try to avoid him at all costs. I've heard him screaming at her various times. Sometimes they're in the hallway, outside the apartment. He's VERY loud. Once, the three of us were in the elevator together and all of a sudden he began screaming at her. He was so loud that my ears were ringing when they got out of the elevator. And I was shaking from fear. Last night, I was getting ready to go downstairs to get my mail. I heard him screaming at her. He went on for quite some time. I heard him slam their apartment door and I listened to see if he was taking the elevator down. And he did. So, I waited for a little while before venturing out my door to go for mail. And sure enough, there he was, standing by the elevator. For some odd reason, he was very nice to me when I got in. It was just the two of us and I was very uncomfortable. But he was polite and held the door for me and wished me a good night. I was very grateful for that. I guess you never know. He's someone who has gotten my attention and I will continue to try to avoid him as much as I can! Claudia photo is mine
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@peavey (16818)
• United States
7 May
That sounds like it could be a bad situation. Abusive people are usually nice to others and can change in a second. I hope that's not the case, because if it is, the woman is in danger.
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@Courtlynn (66576)
• United States
7 May
This is true too
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
7 May
You are so right. In the two years I've been here, the police have never been called to their apartment. So maybe it just sounds worse than it is.
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@peavey (16818)
• United States
8 May
@CRK109 Let's hope that it is. It would be awful for something to happen to her.
@cintol (6882)
• United States
7 May
I feel sorry for her if he is always yelling at her, I think if I heard it and then he left I would go check and make sure she is ok. I was married to a guy like that and he had me isolated from everyone. I understand you being afraid of him though, sometimes they can switch on a dime
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
7 May
She seems to be used to it. When he was screaming at her in the elevator that day, she just stood there quietly letting him rant and rave.
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@cintol (6882)
• United States
7 May
@CRK109 Yes, you get like that because your embarrassed and humiliated and you don't dare talk back to them or its worse behind closed doors. They are the controllers so you try not to make waves or cry in front of other people, that makes it worse yet. I feel for her, I know exactly what she is going through. Its a terrible way to live.
@garymarsh6 (14264)
• United Kingdom
7 May
He sounds a bit of a bully! You are right to steer clear of him! Just be polite but do not engage in too much conversation with him!
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
8 May
Definitely! when he held the door open for me, I gave him a big smile and said, "thank you" and then got as far away from him as possible!
@TRBRocks420 (79518)
• Banks, Oregon
7 May
I hope the girl friend will wise up and, dump him, but yes often abusers are nice until they go back home, because generally they are cowards, who would only hurt someone who can't or won't hurt them back.
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
7 May
She doesn't seem the type to walk away, but maybe it all depends on how far he takes things. I could never live in a relationship like that.
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@just4him (120556)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 May
I think it's wise to avoid him as much as possible. I'm glad he was polite to you.
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
8 May
me, too! I was so glad to see a nice side to him!
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@just4him (120556)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 May
@CRK109 That was a plus.
@LadyDuck (163607)
• Switzerland
7 May
Shouting at her with no reason could be a sing he has mental problems, natural, or caused by the cannabis.
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
8 May
There is definitely a problem there. She seems to have learned to just be quiet and let him rage until he's burned out. Maybe that's what keeps her safe, I don't know. I just hope it never goes beyond him yelling.
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@LadyDuck (163607)
• Switzerland
8 May
@CRK109 I hope he is not abusing her.
@Courtlynn (66576)
• United States
7 May
Oh boy. I hope he's not beating on her. Though the verbal abuse is bad enough. Yes please stay clear of him as much as possible.
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
7 May
If I ever heard her crying out, I would definitely call the police. But so far, all I ever hear is him. I think she just lets him yell out whatever his problems are.
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@Courtlynn (66576)
• United States
7 May
@CRK109 oh i know you would. Hopefully thats all it is
• Midland, Michigan
7 May
That's awful, Claudia. If it were me I'd want to confront him although I'd hopefully wait for some type of green light. I hope he stays friendly when you're around. It's good to see you back.
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@CRK109 (14459)
• United States
8 May
Thanks, Marsha! It's great to see you again. I'd be so afraid to confront him after seeing his anger up close and personal. I'm much happier to keep my distance and keep the phone in hand in case I need to call the police!
@JudyEv (126343)
• Bunbury, Australia
7 May
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. It is difficult living your life trying to avoid a person.
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• United States
7 May
It's probably best to avoid that guy and hope his yelling doesn't turn into domestic violence
@mlgen1037 (29649)
• Manila, Philippines
7 May
Hi Claudia. That is one majestic cat. Very regal.
@hereandthere (31893)
• Philippines
7 May
is the building administration aware of the situation?
@Jessabuma (33144)
• Baguio, Philippines
7 May
Ohh, hopefully the girl friend will decide wise .. She's in a bad situation