What to do when the school won't deal with bullying???

I may need to do that. I'm going to sit my daughter down and write down everything this girl has done to her, complete with dates and locations at school if my daughter can remember. However since most of it happens in the lunchroom, I have a feeling that the school is going to say that there isn't much she can do about it. The librarian has already agreed to let my daughter eat her lunch in the library but I dont think that will solve anything.

I woudn't do that kind of thing until it's been established that neither the school or the other child's mother are willing to work on the situation. When one child acts out toward another, it usually means they are struggling somehow.

@TheHorse That is why I told her to talk to the mother, alone. To see of she knows something is going on, by the sound of this the school had been told.

@CountryGirl31 That kind of "drama" is common among girls. The important thing is to enlist the Administrators at the school and all moms involved in helping the girls. I'd imagine the bullying girl is being bullied somewhere, perhaps at home.

Its true that both need to be sat down and their behavior discussed, but I have heard of more kids killing themselves because of bullying and no one would listen. Its not like it as when I was in school, we fought it out and then it was over.

What my daughter needs is just for this girl to leave her alone. And honestly, I think I know why this girl is doing it. There is a 3rd girl that tells the bully things that make her mad at my daughter because she was not invited to my daughter's bday party last year. That's how long these problems have been going on. And to be honest, my kid is not going to be framed as being a bad person for stepping up and reporting this person for bullying.

@CountryGirl31 Yes I would contract the school once more, then speak to an attorney. She is old enough to know better.

my daughter just turned 17 and i'm not sure about the other girl. i think she's 16.

@andriaperry yea and she is only doing it because she knows it gets to my daughter.

@CountryGirl31 okay so tell her to stay away from her. At the high school level, simply talking about someone really isn’t bullying.

@NJChicaa Since you really don't know what bullying is, I've looked up the definition for you and pasted it. The last line reads "Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose." There are MANY types of bullying, some minor and some major but NONE should be tolerated. Not when kids are at school for an EDUCATION! What Is Bullying Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems. In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include: An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people. Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.

They were friends last year and the only reason they're not this year is this other girl saying stuff.

I think it's too early for "legal advice." What is happening is pretty common in high schools in the US. The school administration and both moms should work in collaboration to help the kids.

@TheHorse you're right .that's should be done first . I hope that there would be an immediate action from the school authorities as I understood they did nothing