Who should pay the bill on a first date?
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (43077)
Staten Island, New York
May 15, 2018 2:55pm CST
I remember when I went on a date with someone, the guy always paid the bill. And I think it was a nice gesture and chivalrous of them to do so. I am not sure if I ever offered to pay, and I wasn't sure if I should even offer or not, but they didn't seem to mind paying the bill.
Recently someone told me that the guy shouldn't have to pay the bill on the first date and that it should actually be split in half because the two people don't know each other yet and are not in a relationship. Also, if the girl doesn't at least offer to pay that can mean she is greedy or cheap...
What do you guys think...? If two people go on a first date and it's to a restaurant, who should pay the bill? The guy? The girl? Or both?
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@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 18
He better. But then the problem is... the girl might end up ordering the most expensive thing on the menu and the guy may not be able to afford it or want to pay for it.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
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15 May 18
@lovebuglena If I was the guy and she did that - then it would be our last date. Before I go on a date with him I must have some sort of idea what he can afford or not - if I am not sure, then I will order low - not high.
@mrki444 (15150)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
15 May 18
@lovebuglena Guy should always had extra money and choose restaurant what he can afford.
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
15 May 18
It all depends on who asks. If one asks the other person out, they should have to pay. Or they can split it in half. I always offer to help pay even if I don't have a lot of money, but the person always ends up paying. I have paid for many other dates, just never the first date.
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@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 18
I don't think I've ever paid when I went on a date with someone. The guy automatically covered the bill.
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@DesirousDreamer (34783)
• Peoria, Arizona
21 May 18
@lovebuglena I paid for almost all the dates with the person I was with the longest. Even though he was the one with the job. Oof.
@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 18
My husband paid on the first date as well.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
16 May 18
He's right. They shouldn't have to and I don't have to date them 
I have nothing against guys that truly want to make things more equal in the dating game.
The problem is that they're all about equality only if it benefits them personally such a with finances.
But if you marry them be prepared to take on every bit of the child care, cooking and cleaning by yourself ,all that on top of your full time job. They conviently turn into traditionalists whenever those things come up.
I have nothing against guys that truly want to make things more equal in the dating game.
The problem is that they're all about equality only if it benefits them personally such a with finances.
But if you marry them be prepared to take on every bit of the child care, cooking and cleaning by yourself ,all that on top of your full time job. They conviently turn into traditionalists whenever those things come up.1 person likes this
@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
16 May 18
It's not fair when everything falls on the wife -- cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids, laundry, shopping and other errands -- especially when the wife also works.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
16 May 18
I think the guy the should.
And I know many guys still would, even if the girl asked him out.
It's just the "nice thing" to do.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
15 May 18
I have never asked a girl to pay nor would I. If I can't afford to pay then I wouldn't ask for a date. I'd get a job first.
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@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
18 May 18
That makes perfect sense.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
15 May 18
It depends on the situation. If the guy asked the girl on the first date, he should know to pay. If two people (the guy/girl) said lets meet up mutually then spilt can be found. IF the girl asks a guy on date, she can pay =P
@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
15 May 18
@lovebuglena Yes if they're "talking", and they mutually bring it up, it can be a date. Like they're both 'shy' to directly ask.
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@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 18
Would that be considered a date if both people said "let's meet up"?
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@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 18
My husband pays most of the time but sometimes I pay as well.
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@lovebuglena (43077)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 18
I've always wonder why they call it "dutch". Do you know?
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