Can You Keep a Secret?
By patgalca
@patgalca (18174)
Orangeville, Ontario
May 24, 2018 11:32am CST
My husband had two sisters and a brother-in-law visit over this past Canadian long weekend. When we were sitting around the living room chatting, the question arose that always comes us... when are J and K getting married? My 25 year old and her boyfriend have been together for 8 1/2 years. I like to bug him asking him when he's going to put a ring on it, etc.
The other night when the subject came up my husband said that J had asked him for his blessing to propose to K. I was shocked. I always told J he had to come to me! One reason being, I am the head of this household. My husband has always lived by the way his own father did... bring home the money; that's it. No rules, no disciplining. I'm the head of this house.
K and J are on vacation in Morocco right now so I am hoping they come back engaged because I don't know whether I could keep my mouth shut once they return home. Not to my daughter, but to the boyfriend. I'd get on his case I'm sure. Also, I am soooo excited about this. A wedding! Yay!
I have also noticed that my attempts to get together again with J's mother have been a bit fruitless. She has been putting me off for weeks. Now I think it's because she is afraid she'll say something. I'm thinking of texting her and hinting that if she has been avoiding me for a certain reason, she doesn't have to... that I know.
Do you think you could keep such a secret? Or any big, happy secret?
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@patgalca (18174)
• Orangeville, Ontario
12 Jun 18
@Hannihar My guess is no. I THINK he may let my daughter pick out her own ring. I also don't believe he would travel with a ring. If he proposed neither has said so. HIS birthday is tomorrow which may be the day he chooses. My daughter sent me a text with an instagram picture of her friend holding up her hand with an engagement ring on. For a brief second I thought it was my daughter. 
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@patgalca (18174)
• Orangeville, Ontario
26 May 18
@Juliaacv I've talked to my husband and we really don't know when it will happen. He says it could be six months from now but I said I doubt he would have asked him when he did if he wasn't going to do it for another six months. Time will tell. I'm over the initial excitement and should be able to keep quiet now. They come home tonight.
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@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
24 May 18
Keeping secrets arent easy at all. but now that they are vacation there wont be no more secret at all and you will be happy when they come back and are engaged then the secret really will be out at that time.
I have a secret i have held now for about 5 months and i honestly probably wont ever tell anyone at all unless my boyfriend says its ok to do so since its about him and our relationship. Nothing really bad at all its just something he told me that i feel i should keep between me and him so yes i can keep a secret for sure.
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@patgalca (18174)
• Orangeville, Ontario
26 May 18
@lologirl2021 You should see me analyzing the pics. In most cases only one hand is shown. Then it's a question as to whether the picture is reversed and which hand am I looking at. There was a quick video snap where I had to do a screen shot to analyze it. There's a funny black line going right across her fingers above the knuckle on her left hand. But you can't photo shop videos, can you? I'm being ridiculous. My guess is there will be no ring. Possibly engaged but letting her pick out the ring she wants.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
24 May 18
@patgalca that is pretty funny well I hope u get what you want. Have a good nigh
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@patgalca (18174)
• Orangeville, Ontario
24 May 18
I'm not a fan of secrets, especially lies. When I was 9 my mother told me my sister was in the hospital because she was in a car accident. The fact, which I found out 20 years later, was that she was 18 and pregnant and had a miscarriage. When I confronted my parents they asked what good it would have done to tell me that (considering my age I guess). So, not a fan of lies for sure.
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
24 May 18
That is wonderful. It is hard to keep a secret like that. I am glad that you have us to help. We will be all waiting now for the official announcement.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
26 May 18
@patgalca I hope not. It would be nice of it is a complete surprise for everybody.
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@Morleyhunt (21737)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
I can keep a secret. Sometimes it is difficult, but it gets easier with practice.
Congratulations...don't spoil the fun by blurting it out.
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@patgalca (18174)
• Orangeville, Ontario
5 Jun 18
The only person I have to keep my mouth shut to is my daughter, of course, and her boyfriend. I am always ribbing him about "putting a ring on it". I am not supposed to know that he is preparing to propose. It's been a few weeks now. When the heck is he going to do it? His birthday is June 16th. Maybe he'll propose on HIS birthday.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
25 May 18
I've never heard of the man just bringing in money. I wouldn't be able to allow that. As both parents should discipline, cook and clean.. in my opinion.
But I would be able to keep the secret. Any at that.
