He never grew up

@LeaPea2417 (36268)
Toccoa, Georgia
May 24, 2018 12:01pm CST
I know a neighbor in my neighborhood who has a 27 year old son. For five years, he lived on his own, but he got involved with drugs and spent some time in Prison. He got out of Prison and is on Parole, because he wants to stay away from drugs and alcohol, he can't be around his old so called friends, who could temp him to get back into drugs. If that happened, he would end up back in Prison. So, the only ones who can take him in, is his parents and that is what they have done. Because he is a felon, it is harder for him to get a job. He is looking for a job. The thing is, the parents, feel like they have to tell him everything he should do, like getting up in the morning, and show him how to do things, for example, he doesn't know how to turn on the washing machine and dryer! They say the way they are handling him is like it was when he was a kid and teenager. They say they feel like they are in a 10 year ago time warp. In other words, he has not grown up. He is a kid in a man size body. I know a guy who is single, teaches school, has a Master's Degree , is around age 40 and lives with his parents. But there is a big difference between him and the 27 year old son I am talking about. The 40 year old guy is Mature and can take care of himself despite living with his Parents. The 27 year old is totally immature and can't live on his own. This is a sad situation for the parents of the 27 year old. Here is a question for you, did the parents of the 27 year old , immature guy, do something wrong in their past child rearing, that contributed to him being immature and never growing up?
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@andriaperry (116876)
• Anniston, Alabama
24 May 18
Sometimes it can be blamed on the parent because they were out making the kid a living and he seen it as a way to get out and find attention. Then another way that things went wrong was it was just him wanting to do what he wanted, being a part of the crowd made him feel accepted by his peers. You never know these things, but I do know one thing and that is when kids are dopers or drink a lot and quit seems like that span of time is blank and they are still at the point of when they began. I noticed this with a family remember and I wrote her a letter and told her what I was doing the past 30 years while she was partying and having a good time.
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@LeaPea2417 (36268)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 May 18
I think he may have wanted to be a part of a crowd, it was hard to say no to his peers.
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
25 May 18
Everyone is different. Some grow up and some don't. I don't think the parents did anything wrong. Some people have different brain make ups. Some are able to cope well with everyday stress and strain and others aren't. Emotional development should be engaged by about age 25. Impulse disorders are seen more and more now days. Some more severe than others.
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@BelleStarr (61050)
• United States
25 May 18
If only kids came with instruction books, then parents would know exactly what to do to make them come out as productive adults. Unfortunately, they don't and so it doesn't always come out so well, they may have done everything right but it may have been all wrong for this kid.
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
24 May 18
It is a Possibility that he has been spoiled kid during his younger years.
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@LeaPea2417 (36268)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 May 18
That is possible.
@HazySue (39269)
• Gouverneur, New York
25 May 18
Unfortunately we seem to have more and more young adults who don't grow up to be mature adults. I don't now if it is because the parents enable them or the capacity to grow up just isn't there. I believe that at least in part the raising they had has something to do with the irresponsibility and immaturity we see.
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@db20747 (43407)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
24 May 18
Sounds like he was independent before!!!! That sometimes happens after incarceration and moving back home!! Even though he does not work they need to make sure he gets into a program and gets back used to being independent!! And give him lots of chores around the house!!!
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@maezee (42003)
• United States
24 May 18
I dont know what I would do as a parent. On one hand you want to help them but you dont want to help too much.
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@amadeo (111956)
• United States
24 May 18
not sure maybe.It can contributed many ways there.
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
24 May 18
As I read this, I wondered what did the parents do wrong to have a good for nothing son like that. Sounds like they didn't teach him much, unless he is depressed from his ordeal.
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