"Just be yourself "..

By Bess
@epiffanie (10466)
Australia
May 29, 2018 5:15am CST
. Why do people say to other people "Just be yourself"?.. Why? Are people not just being themselves ?... What I really would like to tell some people I know is.. "Stop being yourself because yourself is dysfunctional".. Same thing I said to myself many years ago.. By not being myself, I found the real me. The better version of me.. Maybe that's what people mean when they say, "Just be yourself "... meaning, to discover the better version of you ... What do you think?.. Bess That photo I took of spider's web reminds me of the Ethiopian Proverb that I read somewhere .. "When spiders webs unite, it can tie up a lion"... .. ..
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@mlgen1037 (29654)
• Manila, Philippines
29 May
Hi Bess. From my understanding, being yourself is being "true" to yourself and not being embarrassed of who you are and accepting the "unique" you and being someone else. I have always wanted to be different from the rest because that is not who I am.
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@josie_ (7348)
• Philippines
29 May
"Uniqueness" is an illusion according to many religious and philosophical teachings as well as in the sub-atomic world of our human body.
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@mlgen1037 (29654)
• Manila, Philippines
29 May
@josie_ Oh. So basically we are all the same?
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
@mlgen1037 .. Thanks Louise ... Yes I understand what you mean .. I think everyone of us start out struggling to find our true self because we have been influenced by our culture, our schools, our community and our family members , friends , etc.. We have been controlled from the beginning of our existence... Being true to Self is very important .. I have observed a lot of people who are living a double life.. especially in this modern time where we have social media like Facebook , where many create totally different personalities of themselves far from who they really are .. If they know you and you are true to who you are, they isolate you ...But I can't help thinking, how is it working for them?..
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@mnglsp (1247)
• Philippines
29 May
Maybe it just means that you don't have to act someone else. Just be who you are. Do what you like. As long as you're not hurting someone, I guess you're on the right track.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Thank you Gela .. yes that means that too ..
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@mnglsp (1247)
• Philippines
30 May
@epiffanie You are welcome.
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@JolietJake (51144)
• United States
29 May
I think it means stop acting like other people to impress other people. I don't care if/how I impress people...I am simply me, for better or worse.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
I kind of think that those who try hard to be like others, acting like others , are just being themselves too .. Obviously they are shallow .. and that is who they are .. they are just being themselves ....
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@MALUSE (40225)
• Germany
29 May
@epiffanie @josie_ An answer that comes to my mind is that people very often say idiotic things which don't make sense if you think about them. :-) The saying may make sense if someone tries to imitate someone else. This happens more with young people than with older ones.
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@bunnybon7 (36504)
• Holiday, Florida
29 May
@MALUSE you are probably right about that one as some are boring in interviews when they have no cue cards to go by or writers and have to answer in their own boring words
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
@MALUSE .. I remember witnessing someone being coached on how to carry self during a job interview .. The young person was being told to " just be yourself " ... and yet he was told to have a hair cut, maybe a new shirt and new pair of pants and polish his shoes and arrive on time .... The young man likes wearing very casual clothes... he was always wearing runners and tracksuits .. He should have been told to stop being himself and be a little more presentable ...
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
@josie_ Yes .. and those celebrities won't have millions of fans if they are just being themselves .... because who they are in public is different is their private life ..
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@ridingbet (53060)
• Philippines
30 May
i act myself,no pretensions, because what you see in me is what you get
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
I also think of me the same ...I say it like it is .. I am direct .. that I was told that I am tactless .. Maybe I stirred the pot too much .. and they didn't like it ..
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@mlgen1037 (29654)
• Manila, Philippines
30 May
I do believe in you po, @ridingbet. I wonder how can someone even deny another human being for the sole purpose of getting attention.
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@ridingbet (53060)
• Philippines
31 May
@epiffanie that is true. At my age of 58 I don't think I still have to live a life of pretensions. Yes to the point of being misunderstood as a tactless old lady. If I can't say it, my eyes do the talking.
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@josie_ (7348)
• Philippines
29 May
That part you wrote about being dysfunctional made me laugh. Why do people say,"just be yourself"? I am many things to different people. I react in various way depending on the situation and each external stimulation to my brain. My physical body is also in constant change. So which "myself" are they referring to?
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@MALUSE (40225)
• Germany
29 May
This being different to different people is difficult to understand for small children. In our house is a 3-year-old girl who can't grasp this yet. Her younger sister's name is Isabel. When I say, "This is your sister", she corrects me at once and says, "NO! This is Isabel."
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@josie_ (7348)
• Philippines
29 May
@MALUSE _I envy children. how simple and uncomplicated their world. Unfortunately they become adults.
@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
@MALUSE Lol! it's the opposite here .. I pointed out to my 2 year old grand daughter a picture of her big brother and told her , " This is Luis " ... and she said , " NO! this is brother " ...
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@rakski (16203)
• Philippines
29 May
Being yourself is accepting who you are whoever maybe is infront of you. No pretensions. Once you acceot yourself then you can decide which way to go.... better or worse.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Yes.. it's all about choices ..
@TRBRocks420 (77637)
• Banks, Oregon
29 May
I try to be better each day.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
We are all works in progress until the day we die ..
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@jobelbojel (7169)
• Philippines
29 May
I agree. Being myself is not enough. I need someone's guidance and continue to declare I want Jesus in my life.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Oh okay .. thanks
@FayeHazel (18028)
• United States
29 May
That's a good point you make. What I make of it - is telling the listener to not be uptight, or nervous. On the other hand I agree, some people need to find their best selves before being theirself
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
I think we all have become influenced that we have become disconnected from who we really are .. Our authentic self ..It took me years to talk myself out of who I was made to be that became what I thought was the true me ... It wasn't working for me until I told myself to " stop being yourself ".....
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@FayeHazel (18028)
• United States
30 May
@epiffanie Do you feel like you are closer to / are your authentic self? I'm still trying to sort out who I am. I know what you are saying by "made to be". Situations that happen, especially when we are young shape us. Those things aren't necessarily "us" though.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
1 Jun
@FayeHazel You know, it took losing my siblings and their families to finally found my authentic self .. And it's all worth it.. I know that it is very hard for most people to comprehend the decision I made, but deep inside me, it's the right thing to do..
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@DianneN (78390)
• United States
30 May
There is always room for improvement. Being a better self is something we should all strive to be.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Yes indeed !! ..
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@DianneN (78390)
• United States
31 May
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@chicnthin (2556)
• Philippines
29 May
Stop pretending, love who you really are.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
I wonder if people are aware that they are pretending ?..
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@chicnthin (2556)
• Philippines
30 May
@epiffanie I think they are, they're just ignoring that fact and keep pretending.
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@Hannihar (36536)
29 May
@epiffanie There are many kinds of people in this world. There are those that kiss up to people, those that are themselves and those that want to be someone else. I try to be me and there are people that like me and people that do not.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
@Hannihar .. As we navigate our way into this life , we slowly but surely gain wisdom .. And as we gain wisdom, we discover our authentic Self .. and it is very freeing ..
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@Hannihar (36536)
30 May
@epiffanie You have a point Bess.
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@porwest (4861)
• United States
29 May
I think being yourself is important, but I can find some truth to your statement that you can discover new things about yourself sometimes by getting out of your shell a bit.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Yes.. We have to evolve into something or someone better ..
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@porwest (4861)
• United States
5 Jun
@epiffanie Sometimes. But sometimes just being true to yourself is still enough.
@inertia4 (27674)
• United States
29 May
I hear you. But there are people out there that always want to try and fit in so they become someone else to fit it. That is wrong. Me, I don't know how to be anyone but myself.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Yes.. Some people actually become so convinced that they are who they are not ..
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@inertia4 (27674)
• United States
31 May
@epiffanie Right. And that irritates me very much. But hey, everyone is different.
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@BelleStarr (38288)
• United States
4 Jun
I think I am pretty much always myself but it can be tempting to be who people want you to be and that usually leads to unhappiness of one sort or another.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
4 Jun
Yes indeed .. especially when we try to please others around us ...
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@aureliah (16150)
31 May
I prefer when people are themselves. i prefer being myself in so many ways
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
2 Jun
Yeah .. it's for our own good to be truthful to ourselves ..
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@sjvg1976 (18386)
• Delhi, India
30 May
By Being yourself I understand that don't pretend to be too good to others which you might not be your nature actually. Just do what you want to do, don't do anything under anyone's influence.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Yes indeed .. we can not pretend to be something else other that what we really are ... We don't want to be hypocrites ..
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• Eugene, Oregon
30 May
It could make sense if your "self" is the best "you," but if it is not it is bad advice.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Yes ..If "self " is productive, honest, with integrity, a quite achiever for instance , then he can be just himself .. But if someone is lazy , handout merchant , useless eater , etc.. then they should not be encouraged to " just be yourself "...
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@Corbin5 (106493)
• United States
29 May
All of us sure do have room for improvement. Better selves is what we should strive for.
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
30 May
Yes.. we must be willing to change to become better ..
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