Helping my friend today....
@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
Perth, Australia
June 2, 2018 11:47pm CST
I'm going to my friend's house today. She used to be my neighbour but sadly moved to another house. Luckily she moved to a house that's still in the same suburb and it's only a 2 minute drive there.
My friend is such a nice person. But just like me, she suffers with depression as well as other personal issues that get her down. Her ex husband does not help at all. They have a daughter together but to make my friend suffer, he will hardly pay any child support to help out. Although that's actually harming both his ex wife and child so he is an idiot. So my friend tries hard to pay for everything. But times are tough and she is struggling to make ends meet.
I've helped her out a lot and I will continue to help her until she's more settled. But today I will be doing something different. My dad and I are going grocery shopping for her. Only, she doesn't know about it. I thought about it for awhile and was debating whether I should do it or not. I don't want her to be offended but I have a feeling she will be very grateful as keeping her house stocked with food is a struggle on it's own. She has sacrificed her meals a lot just to feed her daughter.
I try to help those in need as much as I can but today it's about my friend. I'm buying her a bunch of flowers too hoping I can cheer her up a bit. But I still wish I had enough to do more. My dad and I are both helping but I wish I could do more. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
3 Jun 18
Hi Dani. I rarely see people doing something special for their friends. Your friend is blessed to have you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 aw thank you. And yeah me either. I like to help her out as her best friend doesn't even help her out. Which surprises me sometimes.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Yeah she does. They keep in touch and they talk a lot but her best friend is one of those people who prefers to receive than give. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
4 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 You are most welcome. That is just sad. Does your friend still talk to her bestfriend who is not helpful at all?
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 18
Did they not settle on child support during their divorce? Its very kind of you to help her and her daughter. It doesn't surprise me that you are doing this since you are generally a very good, kind, and generous friend.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@Daljinder I'm not totally sure about how all of this child support went down with the divorce. I just know that he doesn't do enough for his child. He could easily use his own initiative to pay but he doesn't to hurt his ex.
Thank you very much. Right back at cha.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@Daljinder He is a jerk. He will say "I can't afford to buy her new shoes." Yet he will go on a trip to Bali for 2 weeks. Or "I can't help pay for her school camp." But he will go buy a new car. $hithead also laid his hand on both his ex and daughter.
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 If he can't help to even keep his own child fed properly then he is a jerk.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
3 Jun 18
Cut the flowers, draw or paint something. Flowers dry up, and can become depressing again. It is nice of you to be helping her, but help is a double edged sword. It usually comes with some expectation of return help. If those expectations are not met at the right time, chances of you feeling more depressed increase. Second thing is the kind of help you are offering is perhaps not the right kind of help. It is like filling up a bucket with a hole. Third thing is this kind of help creates expectation that if more help is needed they can turn to you. While you are in a position to help today, are you sure you can tomorrow? If not, first provide first for yourself, and only spare as much as you can give and forget about it. Note the word I used ..give instead of help. Give means you gave and felt good about it, reasonably rewarded in your immune system by the almighty.
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@vandana7 (98823)
• India
4 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 One thing I have never understood about your society is how children can be left without help of natural parent. Your society means the westerners. I feel denying a child a safety net to turn to is wrong. Here, the law should collect the monies from the earnings of the guy, and pass on to the mother. Of course, proportionate. I know I would not leave my daughter helpless, especially when she is young or has some problems. Why is it that men feel at ease to leave their children. That is like piddling.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@vandana7 I understand what you are saying. I didn't have time for anything else except for the flowers and the shopping. And yeah I wouldn't be doing this for just anybody. I've been friends with her for over 10 years and she's been there for me just as much as I have been there for her. She has been my shoulder to cry on, ears to hear me vent and just been helpful in regards to other things so this is something I had no problem doing for her. It all worked out well.
I didn't have time for anything else except for the flowers and the shopping. And yeah I wouldn't be doing this for just anybody. I've been friends with her for over 10 years and she's been there for me just as much as I have been there for her. She has been my shoulder to cry on, ears to hear me vent and just been helpful in regards to other things so this is something I had no problem doing for her. It all worked out well. 1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@vandana7 I'm not too familiar with how the law works in regards to child support but yes, I've heard many stories about one parent not pulling their weight to help out their child / children. It's pathetic and so wrong.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
8 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 Any man who uses physical violence is indeed scum.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
8 Jun 18
@jaboUK Thank you! Yep he is a horrible person I swear. I try to avoid him if I happen to be close to him. Which is rare now due to my friend moving houses. When my friend lived across from me, whenever he arrived to pick up / drop off daughter, I would not come out until he left. He has laid his hands on both his ex and daughter. He is scum to me.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
4 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 just appreciating you as person and a good friend. Not all friends will do that
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 Jun 18
@rakski Thank you. But yeah I know what you are saying. I've had my fair share of people who prefer to get help than help out. It can be quite frustrating at times. Especially when you really need some help or support.
@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@rakski aw thank you very much. That makes me feel good.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Jun 18
That's nice of you. She's lucky for having a friend like you
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@Jessabuma Thank you for your kind words.
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@popciclecold (35084)
• United States
16 Jun 18
That is so good of you and your dad to help out like that. More people should have friends like you and your dad.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
16 Jun 18
@popciclecold Thank you! That's a very nice thing for you to say.
@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@maezee Thank you kindly. I do what I can to help those I care about.
I do what I can to help those I care about.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
3 Jun 18
You are a real friend and not a " good or fair weather " one.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@sjvg1976 Thank you and yeah he is. He is a horrible man.
@Letranknight2015 (51511)
• Philippines
3 Jun 18
Don't stop helping your friend, you're an angel to her.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@Letranknight2015 Thank you. I will never stop helping her.
I will never stop helping her.
@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@Icydoll aw thank you for your kind words. I am lucky to have her as a friend too.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
3 Jun 18
She is fortunate to have a friend like you. That is a very noble gesture. I am sure she will be thankful.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
4 Jun 18
@Starmaiden Thank you. And she was very grateful. Made my dad and I happy.
And she was very grateful. Made my dad and I happy.1 person likes this
