Do You Listen To Other People's Problem...
By Peter Ang
June 4, 2018 5:21am CST
...and take those problem with you? Consciously or unconsciously, we turn ourselves into a "sponge" for others people problem that we have heard or shared or confided to us. This analogy with a sponge is fitting since a sponge is defined as "a soft substance that is full of small holes and can absorb a lot of liquid, and is used for washing and cleaning." (dictionary.cambridge.org). I'm a good listener of other people's problem but I don't take those problem with me personally. How about you are you personally affected by other people's problem? Picture credit: indiamart.com
22 people like this
• Russian Federation
No, I prefer to put a wall, I do not think it will give me any benefits. I am interested only in my relatives. With more life experience, I have understood that first of all, I must care about my well-being (and my relatives). Listening to others' problems is invaluable, a person will not be able to pay me back, so it is worthless for me.
• Greencastle, Indiana
@MashaVickina I can understand how some or even MOST people can do that but yes I said BUT what IF your friends needs you for comfort through a rough spot then what will you do turn them away? I can't do that god put us here to help 1 another.
• Russian Federation
@sugartoes My friends are only my relatives and my husbands' relatives. I used to have many friends, especially male, but a couple of years ago, I limited the circle of my closed ones. Giving comfort to many others takes my precious time and reduces my happiness. That is why I am concentrated only on several people. It makes my life happier
• Bangalore, India
I am a special educator and a counselor to parents with special needs children. So I listen to a lot of problems every day in my profession. Otherwise also I am a good listener and my friends and family open up to me. On a professional level, I stay detached and listen to them. But many a times in my personal life I get emotionally drained and sometimes upset too if the person is very close to me.
I think we should listen and try to think of a solution based on our experiences. Who knows we might need those ourselves and who knows we might solve a problem of somebody who might help us in future. Who knows we can get information that will come handy in future. I am open to others problems. That said, I have my responsibilities and I know where to draw lines.
• New Baltimore, Michigan
I do tend to carry other people's health problems around with me. Like when my Grandpa had a stroke, my arm would go numb every time I thought about it. I would unintentionally mimic their symptoms. Stuff like that. But regular problems, not so much. I will listen and try to help (as long as it isn't a stupid problem or a boring problem that nobody really cares about and it's evident the person just wants attention.) I'm sorry if that sounded a bit harsh.
more like I have friends who tell me their problems whether I choose to listen or not :D And sometimes you do get sucked in to their problematic lives that it gets hard to tell which one is your problem and which is one isn't. I just call it empathy
• Washington, District Of Columbia
I listen and try 2 offer advice!!!! Sometimes I do take it with me!!!! And tell others about the problem they had although I don't give any names!!! I'll just say a friend of mine!! I wish I wouldn't let myself get so involved!!!