"Children shouldn't be allowed out in public." What do you think?
@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
Perth, Australia
June 4, 2018 10:20pm CST
I have heard quite a lot of adults say this and every time I hear it, I cringe. Though I know where they are coming from, to say that children "shouldn't be allowed out " is way too harsh. Some people have said this out of frustation but some people actually want this to be a thing. For adults to be out and about while children stay in school or home.
I understand fully that babies and children can be loud. They can run around and often almost collide with many strangers along the way. They can scream and chuck tantrums but you know what? So can adults! I have seen more adults acting childish than children have. No one on this Earth is perfect. But to say that children should be locked away from society until they are older makes me angry.
I'm not a child nor do I have any children but this bothers me that people want children hidden because they can be a handful sometimes. The ONLY thing I agree with is that children should not be in a place or position where it's harmful to them. But that's it. Movie theatres, shopping centres, parks, beaches, restaurants etc, that's where they shall roam and NOT locked away for adult snowflakes who can't handle it. 
What do you think?
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jun 18
I think some parents should teach their children to behave and people wouldn't mind kids so much. I am always told how well my children behave no matter where we go. I have taught my kids how to behave-anywhere they go!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
5 Jun 18
@LovingMyBabies I completely agree with you. It's not a child's fault they don't know any better. Parents are supposed to be teaching their kids good morals. I already know you're an awesome mum and that's good. Sadly not every parent acts like a good one.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
5 Jun 18
@dwstory I would love to read that post. Sounds like an interesting one. Enjoy dinner. 
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@dwstory (1276)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 Jun 18
I raised six children and they were taught to behave in public. None of them acted up anywhere that we went. I never spanked my kids I just told them we would leave if they acted up
Parents need to teach their children the word NO it is not a bad word.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jun 18
@dwstory Absolutely agree with you! I'm the same way with my kids.
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@dwstory (1276)
• Roseburg, Oregon
5 Jun 18
@LovingMyBabies Mine turned out great and yours will to.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
5 Jun 18
@dwstory You did a great job with your children! And I absolutely agree with you. I don't believe hitting children to get your point across is the key to teaching. I believe things can be spoken about without laying a hand on someone.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
5 Jun 18
Children are young people with feelings. They learn along their childhood and school age kids know how to behave. Children go to pre-school at age 3 to 4 where they learn to get on in social activiites. Children should be taken out and cared for well. I travel in my home country and overseas with my two children.
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@LadyDuck (457822)
• Switzerland
5 Jun 18
I think that parents should be held responsible if kids become too much of a nuisance. I do not care if kids run in the malls, or they are loud while they play. I cannot stand kids running among the tables in restaurants, placing their hands on the tables (sometimes touching the food) and putting waiters in danger. There is a limit to everything, I do not accept the parents who say "you have to understand, they are kids". I have been a kid and I always behaved.
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@LadyDuck (457822)
• Switzerland
6 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 I remember that this happened while we were eating at a restaurant during a trip near Seattle (United States). There was a kid who was horrible, he ran all the time among the tables, touched people, screamed, he even broke a couple of glasses because he pulled on the table clothes. The parents were sitting in a corner and said nothing, absolutely nothing. All the other customers were furious and finally a man got up and became really mad, asked to see the manager and there was a terrible fight with the parents. I would have thrown them out with their monster if I were the manager.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@LadyDuck oh man yeah see I agree that it's very annoying if kids were to do that but if parents aren't going to do anything about it then my annoyance is really with the parents.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jun 18
@LadyDuck How can parents be so careless like that? They showed no common courtesy at all. I would have been really ticked off too!
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 18
Personally I love to hear children playing and laughing (crying is as different matter, but hey-ho, it goes with the territory). I do agree with @Wordazza though - restaurants should be child-free in the evenings, after a certain time anyway.
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@WorDazza (15833)
• Manchester, England
6 Jun 18
My daughter used to work in a restaurant. She couldn't believe how many times people complained because a waiter almost spilled something on their child because they collided with the child who was running uncontrolled around the restaurant.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
9 Jun 18
@jaboUK I am the same as you. Watching and hearing child play is just pleasant. But yeah I do also agree that there are some places children shouldn't go. Just so adults can relax without the fear of other children ruining their time.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
5 Jun 18
I think that would be the perfect way to produce a generation of socially anxious adults, not to mention a generation of "live at home, never working zombies playing video games and trolling people on social media.... Hey, did I just describe mr "Hilary Clinton is a demon witch"?
Children need to be socially active in public so they can become mature, healthy, socially active adults.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
5 Jun 18
@Starmaiden LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YES! You described it well. Hey, I was actually going to ask you what was going on with all that but I shied away from it. Am I allowed to know what he did in regards to him being called a coward? It's ok if not. Just curious.
Although I answered him, I don't like how is he trying to annoy people on purpose. I actually told him it wasn't a good idea ( not in those words ) but I made my feelings known about what he is doing.
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@moirai (2836)
• Philippines
6 Jun 18
Children shouldn't be allowed out in public?
Nah.
I guess there may be two reasons why adults would say this.
(1) They don't want their children to go out.
(2) They are annoyed at seeing other children out.
But I think the issue here isn't really that children are out. It's that they are out without supervision (for the smaller children) or without being taught or reminded to act responsibly when they are out (for the older children). And those, I think, are the responsibilities of the adults that they may have neglected.
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@moirai (2836)
• Philippines
6 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 That is part of the responsibility of the adults that they are neglecting.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@moirai Even with supervision they can act wild. Sometimes parents won't do anything to stop it or take action on trying to prevent it.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
6 Jun 18
I too hear it often but not openly. But isn't it the same case with disabled too. Why, I heard a fellow uttering similar views while reaching to the entrance of Cole's a few months before! I think people are in a hurry or love their peace and privacy more than others.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
10 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 And it's a universal problem. Less in underdeveloped countries but more in developed countries. The debate is on for a long time and there seems to be no solution!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
9 Jun 18
@suni51 That is disgusting! I understand that there are all walks of life out there. Sometimes we can bump heads with strangers no matter how that stranger can be or how old. But it is a shame that some people will have very little patience for those who genuinely mean no harm to anyone.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
9 Jun 18
Well it is no law but certain things I think they need a sitter. Example a wedding , people dont want to hear a baby crying during the service.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
11 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 it is just common sense and controlling your children when out.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jun 18
@CookieMonster46 I agree. There are certain events that would be better without children being noisy or running around.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
13 Jun 18
@CookieMonster46 Exactly right!
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
5 Jun 18
I love kids, and even I have said that some kids shouldn't be allowed in public. (I have also said this about a lot of "adults".
It's more so, about their behavior. So if more parents teach their kids to behave, especially while out, then there would be no issue with strangers not wanting them out and about, while they are trying to get things done.
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@Courtlynn (66921)
• United States
6 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 to an extent, you can. I think. Depending on age. Though it does usually start with bad parenting.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@Courtlynn No of course. Children are impressionable so I know bad behaviour can come from elsewhere.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@Courtlynn I agree with you. Parents should be teaching children how to behave. Can't blame a kid if they don't know any better if their parents don't teach them.
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 18
Strange! I have been reading about the social etiquettes and aspects of Regency era in late 1700s to 1800s England. They had kids sequestered away from society till they reach their 16th year. The they will host a ball for their "coming out" or introduction to the society.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@Daljinder wow how odd is that! And that sucks too!
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 Not really! I am finding it fascinating actually. Have you read Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen? Its a novel from that era.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@Daljinder No I haven't but I've always wanted to. Always wanted to read something by Jane Austen.
@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
11 Jul 18
If someone can't respect the childhood, he himself don't deserve the respect from fellows. Children have every right to live and enjoy their childhood just like we are living and enjoying adulthood.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jul 18
@anamika161088 I agree with you completely!
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
5 Jun 18
children can go out but "guarded" . We can't just let them stay locked-up. How can they admire the beauty of the world by that.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Jun 18
Hi Dani. I think they shouls not have made babies if they will just be annoyed and if they cannot handle them. It is not the children’s fault to be loud and naughty.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Exactly. Parents are the ones who are meant to teach their children to behave.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
6 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 Dani! You are beautiful in your profile picture. I love it.
I agree with you. It is their responsibility to teach them. Poor parenting skills.
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@Shavkat (137202)
• Philippines
6 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 I agree. It is totally different nowadays. Bad things happen anytime.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@Shavkat Yeah I don't believe children should be out alone regardless if it's day or night. The world is very cruel so anything can happen during the day too.
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@JESSY3236 (18885)
• United States
5 Jun 18
I agree. I don't have any kids. Yeah kids can be annoying, but I don't think kids should be kept at home either.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
5 Jun 18
Parents's responsibilities to teach their children to behave.
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@notewise777 (247)
• Cape Town, South Africa
5 Jun 18
@VivaLaDani13 I agree with you - children needs to be free to roam where they can enjoy life, however, within limitations which as you stated, are neither harmful to them in person nor should it interfere with their necessities in life such as schooling and spiritual well-being. I do however agree with our entirely that they should be exposed to as many things in life - irrespective if they make a noise as it builds well rounded individuals
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jun 18
@notewise777 I agree with you. Very well said.
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