Maybe I am Weird?
@gnatsmom (2336)
June 9, 2018 7:21am CST
I have had people tell me often, when my kids were at home, that I was weird for always wanting them with me. I missed them, even when they would be gone with grandparents for a few hours, and my parents were about the only ones they were allowed to go off with. As they got older, there were a few friends I would let them hang out with every now and then (most of those I would go back and undo). The point is-I don't understand the whole "happy to be kid free" mantra. Maybe it is just me and I am a weirdo for enjoying teaching and spending time with my kids. We blink our eyes and they are grown and out of the house.
My 16 year old just got a job. For me, it is bittersweet. On the one hand, I am so proud of her and I know she will do great. She was raised with a strong work ethic. On the other hand, that is one step closer to moving on into adulthood, and once she is married and gone, that will be my last baby gone from home. BTW, she is no where near getting married. She is so smart about relationships and boys usually run when they find out her level of integrity and morals.
This whole post, though, was instigated by fb posts this morning. In less than 5 minutes, I saw 3 posts of moms celebrating because they were kid free today. The thing is, these particular moms are trying to be kid free every day, but anyway, they are celebrating. I am fighting back tears because I just found out that my grandbabies' dad is working from home today, so he is keeping the boys with him. See yall, I am crazy. I should be happy that this dad keeps his kids every time he can, but I am sad because I will miss them today.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
9 Jun 18
You have succeeded as a parent when your kids no longer need you, but they WANT to be with you. I am kid free, wish I was closer to my young grands, they live too far away. Wish my son's step daughters needed me or wanted me, or respected me. My kids are the best work I have ever done.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
10 Jun 18
No, you are not crazy, you just put your kids first and prioritize them in your life. I will freely admit that I get overwhelmed with mine. I don't generally post on FB about being kid-free because I rarely am unless they are in school. The school break is in full swing tomorrow and they will be here 24/7. They are already fighting like cats and dogs today. I am praying I can keep them busy this summer.
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@rebelann (111164)
• El Paso, Texas
8 Jun 19
I can't imagine what it must be like to try to keep 3 small boys out of trouble and getting along while you hunt for a job and try to entertain them.
@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 18
yeah I felt the same too. When my teenager went to study and work in SIngapore, I missed her so much even though it is just a 3 hours ride, I could still see her. Now my son is growing up too, I feel to glue to him instead of vice versa. My kids are my limbs. Cannot part with them.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
13 Jun 18
That is called the circle of life. I went through it with my kids and my grandsons. We all do.
