Why don't people who are suicidal seek help?
• United States
They do. Kate Spade was diagnosed with manic depression and was prescribed medication for this disorder and was involved in therapy. Medication and therapy, sadly, helps some, but fails others. Humans are far too complicated. There is not a single therapy or medication that will help all, just some. Anthony Bourdain did have a therapist, but that did not work out for him, I suppose.
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• United States
I was one of those people. It was too dark around me by the time I wanted to die, I had talked to people and tried to help myself, I had taken anti-depressants and tried self medication, psychiatrists, and counselors. Nothing helped enough to pull me out of it. I didn't care about the stigma and this was in the 70s and 80s when the stigma was significant. I didn't care about anything after a certain point. Medicine has improved a lot since then and so has the knowledge of depression. It is often a chemical imbalance that can be righted with medication but there's a lot of trial and error involved. I wish we had mental institutions again where we could treat people and make sure they recover under supervision but we don't. Read this, it perfectly describes the avalanche that is depression and I think it will answer some of your questions:
***I didn't write this. And after some research to find out WHO did write it, I was led here -- a Reddit Suicide Prevention Megathread - although the author's name isn't cited. If you know who wrote it, let me know because I'd love to credit them.
• San Jose, California
Sometimes they do, or have in the past, and they no longer feel that they can burden people with their issues (or at least that's what their brain is telling them). Sometimes asking for help results in being locked away for a period of time, and then released with no new solutions. It can feel scary and even dangerous to ask for help. Sometimes the brain is telling the person that nothing will work anymore, and it just needs to end. It's less stigma and more the feeling of hopelessness.
• United States
The reasons are as individual as the individual, just as the reasons for a person killing one's self is singular to that person. Yes, some people just don't get help. Others may "get help" but then never take their medications or go to follow-up appointments. Some just cannot escape the trauma of the past. Some just want the pain (be it physical or emotional) to stop. Mental issues -- especially depression -- aren't "A + B = C." My doctor told me there are tests that can determine exactly what type of SSRI a person needs tailored for their depression, based on genetics; however, the test is expensive and insurance won't cover it. And sadly, when "society" tells someone that their life isn't worth the cost of a test, there's not a whole hell of a lot you can do to counter that.
• East Tawas, Michigan
In most cases, the individual had sought out help, yet it failed to keep their issues controlled. My daughter was in therapy, but nobody can change another person's mind-set. If they are determined to take their own life, sooner or later, they probably will
Sometimes people don't seek help because they believe that there is no hope. I once heard someone describe depression as "a cage without a key", and I think that depression leads to distorted thinking. I have had depressions for 20 years. When I am in the middle of a depression I am not thinking: "Things are bad right now, but they will get better" I am thinking: "Things are bad and they will remain that way forever." "I am a burden. The world would be a better place without me" is another example of distorted thinking and another reason why people don't seek help. Sometimes people didn't like the help they received in the past - medication with lots of side effects, nurses and psychiatrists who are too busy to talk etc and they stay away from help because of their low expectations.