Dealing With a Teenager

United States
June 13, 2018 11:17am CST
From my own personal experience after raising 3 daughters and 1 son I think girls are way more dramatic than boys. I'm blessed with having 10 grandchildren 6 boys and 4 girls. Again, the girls are more dramatic. Today my 16 year old granddaughter took her driving test. She failed. You would think it's the end of the world and she's miserable. I understand how disappointed she is but of course I don't know what I'm talking about because this is her life and not mine. Oh the dramatics!! There's no talking to her and I haven't even tried. There's no words right now to convince her that it's not the end of the world and life is full of disappointments. Personally I think driving at 16 yrs old is too young and half of me is relieved she failed. The other half wishes she had passed because I do want her to be happy. Aside from this mornings disappointment with my granddaughter all else is good. We're having a bit of rain today but nothing worth complaining about. Happy Wednesday everyone!
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@JudyEv (121544)
• Bunbury, Australia
14 Jun
Poor soul! I know exactly what you are saying. She thinks her world has ended. I also think you are right about 16-year-old drivers. Thankfully our tests are much stricter now and involve keeping a log book which requires x hours driving at night, in bad weather and on gravel roads so hopefully they are better drivers when they eventually take to the roads on their own.
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• United States
14 Jun
I do agree too that 16 is way too early to drive. With all the texting accidents we see these days I'm surprised that our driving age hasn't been raised to at least 18. I don't think 16 year olds are responsible enough even though they think they know everything at this age.
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• New Delhi, India
13 Jun
Don't you have a minimum age criteria for driving in your country?
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• United States
14 Jun
Yes 16 year olds can drive in my state but it varies from state to state here in the US
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• New Delhi, India
14 Jun
@Marilynda1225 ok..here in India 18 is the minimum age
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• United States
14 Jun
@amitkokiladitya that makes more sense
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@Freelanzer (8569)
• Canada
14 Jun
I am always grateful that I had three boys even though I really wanted a girl. My boys were so easy to raise.
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@marlina (72901)
• Canada
14 Jun
We had 2 sons and I am glad that we had no girls as I agree that they are more difficult to raise.
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• United States
14 Jun
@marlina and @freelanzer since I had both I have to say that boys come with different problems but generally raising girls is more dramatic.
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@Juliaacv (29711)
• Canada
14 Jun
I find that today's youth are much more into the drama then we were (allowed) to be when we were young. I remember when I had to tell my niece that Papa was dying, I was asked to tell her to keep it low key and sombre so that she'd understand the reality of the situation and not make a situation out of the news. Your granddaughter will eventually get her license, and she'll be a much better driver then anyone else her age I hope. And yes.......I find boys so much easier then girls.
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• United States
14 Jun
16 year old drama is one thing that revolves around my granddaughter. She is right there with this generation who think the world is ending when they have the slightest disappointment. Thankfully my older grandchildren aren't so dramatic.
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@Juliaacv (29711)
• Canada
14 Jun
@Marilynda1225 That old saying, this too shall pass comes to mind-both for you as well as for her.
@Courtlynn (64616)
• United States
13 Jun
I surprisingly was never dramatic as a teen, but was the first few times I went to job interviews and didn't do well. But I learned and now see that not everyone gets jobs right away, etc. My brother had passed for his permit the first 3 times he did it, but failed the 4th so it didn't bother him. Though, I think if a kid really wants that permit / license or even job, they will be a bit upset and dramatic regardless of gender. lol. I hope she passes next time, though also agree 16 is a bit young to drive.
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• United States
14 Jun
I get the impression that you have a good head on your shoulders Courtney so I'm not surprised to hear you say you weren't a dramatic teen. I know it's very disappointing when you have your heart set on something and it doesn't go your way (like my granddaughter) but at 16 she doesn't realize how immature she really is and it will take a few more year for her to understand that life comes with disappointments.
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@marlina (72901)
• Canada
13 Jun
She'll survive! But will you?
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• United States
14 Jun
I'll survive cause she doesn't live with me I'm sure it wasn't a fun day in her house yesterday
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@marlina (72901)
• Canada
14 Jun
@Marilynda1225 Glad I was not there.
@Jessabuma (21817)
• Baguio, Philippines
13 Jun
Happy Wednesday too. That's sad to know, but maybe this is not the right time she passed the driving test. Better luck next time.
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• United States
14 Jun
I agree that it wasn't meant to be. She'll have more time to practice and reschedule her next driving test
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@Jessabuma (21817)
• Baguio, Philippines
14 Jun
@Marilynda1225 yes that's right. Good luck to her
@garymarsh6 (13645)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun
This is the trouble these days when schools do not allow people to lose so no first or second place everyone is a winner so when they are in real life people do not always win! She will get over it as there is nothing else she can do about it. I am sure she is disappointed though! She is yet to gain life experience and wise head on her shoulder like her grand mother!
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• United States
14 Jun
She's very smart, pretty and has a whole life ahead of her but the drama that surrounds her when a disappointment hits is crazy. I hope she gets a wise head long before I did when I was young
@garymarsh6 (13645)
• United Kingdom
14 Jun
@Marilynda1225 You will have your moment of glory when in the future you remind her of how she acted !
@CinnamonGrl (5806)
• Paradise, California
13 Jun
I was lucky with my kids, BUT I was a real beyotch to my mother.. I've apologized a thousand times.One of my daughter's friends lived with us one summer and she was a supreme drama queen, it was hard work! Iknow what you mean about the young age for driving. It's like their brains and judgement aren't fully formed yet. Have a great rest of the day!
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• United States
14 Jun
With all the texting accidents we see these days I'm surprised that our driving age hasn't been raised to at least 18. I don't think 16 year olds are responsible enough even though they think they know everything at this age.
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• Paradise, California
14 Jun
@Marilynda1225 yes the texting has made it even worse
@Corbin5 (103485)
• United States
13 Jun
When I taught 8th grade, the 8th grade girls were drama queens all the time. The guys in 8th grade were so laid back. Girls really do go overboard on the drama. I was often rather relieved when the worst of the drama queens were absent from school for a day or two.
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• United States
14 Jun
my granddaughter fits right into the drama queen role. She's very smart, pretty and has a whole life ahead of her but the drama that surrounds her when a disappointment hits is crazy.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jun
I get that she's disappointed but she will move forward after a few days I'm sure and realize she can take it again. She probably just needs some time and space. I have one daughter that is extreme drama queen!! LOL.
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• United States
14 Jun
I'm sure things will quiet day quickly once she gets over the initial disappointment. Girls and boys certainly have different personalities dont they
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@just4him (113674)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Jun
You could try telling her that they flunk people on the first try, but pass them on the next. At least that's how it seems to be here and what I've heard from everyone who takes their test. Even I flunked my first and passed the second. So did my youngest. I wasn't around for my daughter and older son when they got their licenses, so I don't know if they drew the lucky straw or not and passed the first time. Though it's doubtful. I'm sure you're relieved she didn't pass, and sorry she didn't at the same time.
• United States
14 Jun
I agree Valerie that very few people pass their test on the first try. I do think they flunk them on purpose to give them an idea of what to expect next time around. Only one of my children passed on their first try.
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@just4him (113674)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Jun
@Marilynda1225 I expect you're right. I know I shouldn't have passed on the second try, but the person said I tried, which is why he passed me. It was the up hill down hill parking that he passed me on. I did it backwards. I don't think I could do it now if I was asked.
@db20747 (7510)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
17 Jun
4 teenagers, breaking a nail is the worst day ever!!!! And not finding our blue hairspray is a major crisis!!!