myPROBLEM?
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66857)
Philippines
June 14, 2018 1:13am CST
Somebody is sending me chat messages on Facebook, and this person is asking me if I know anybody who can lend money. The person needs the money on Saturday.
Although I should help by asking anybody among my colleagues and friends, it seems this person has already passed the burden to me. Now, I am the one thinking about the person’s financial problem and I think this person is not searching anybody among the circle of friends if anybody can lend money to this person.
I do not know if I will be able to help. Tomorrow is a non-working holiday, and I cannot just say ‘yes’ to this person and tell that I have found somebody who can loan the money.
Do you take the problem of another and make it as your own?
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16 responses
@just4him (305362)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Jun 18
@ridingbet So they used the chat feature and didn't blast it across all of FB?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
19 Jun 18
@just4him no he didn't broadcast to the whole FB world. my sister did take the problem off me.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
this person used the FB chat because we live far from each other and that was the only means of communication that we have. good thing my sister will be the one to think about the problem.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
14 Jun 18
Do you know this person well? Are they close to you? I don't like lending to people. I have been asked before when we have not talked for over 5 years. I rejected.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
14 Jun 18
@ridingbet if they are someone you trust , close and you are willing to help them - then I don’t see a problem. For me, I’ve had people ask but they weren’t close to me and haven’t spoke to me in a long time so that’s why I rejected.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
16 Jun 18
@infatuatedbby my sister took the task off me.now, i need not worry anymore.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
yes, the person is close to me. many times before, i did the same things, and the loans were paid ASAP. the person is a good payer.
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
14 Jun 18
is this a friend? I would not lend out money.
I did help a friend of mine.. .Twice.. getting her bus money to come across the country from California to CT... again i say Twice.. and she never paid me back.. and this was my best friend.. unless people have money to throw away.. a lot of people do not help
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
14 Jun 18
@ridingbet well, if it is someone you trust, and you want to help. then you should try if you can.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
16 Jun 18
@minx267 i am just glad because my sister lifted my shoulder from the burden. she will do the task now; anyway, she has many friends who can lend money to her. quite a relief for me.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
yes, the person is a dear friend. the person is working in an office. tomorrow is a holiday and the money is needed on Saturday.
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@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
no my friend.. I shoulder my problem myself and not bring a hassle to anybody else.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
but what if you have done all means and you cannot solve your problem the soonest?
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
16 Jun 18
@ridingbet I just cried it all out to God and God is indeed good. He gives me miracles and solutions the soonest.
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@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
14 Jun 18
You should ignore or block this person right away.
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@Bosun201 (58)
• Nigeria
16 Jun 18
@ridingbet I believe you are honest, but I feel it is not right to borrow money from friends to lend another friend.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
@Bosun201 the problem is already given to my sister, she will be the one to borrow from her friends.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
i should not block or ignore the person. we have known each other for several years now and friendship is deep-rooted.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Jun 18
Hello po. Yes po, usually with my siblings and close friends. I sometimes carry the burden and I really hate it.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
of course hija for family members, yes i will also do that. as long as i am paid, i can do that too especially if the money i lend is my own savings. hahaha
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Jun 18
@ridingbet I stopped lending money to others as they do not pay. My husband really gets mad but I say that at least they will not have the audacity to pay.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
16 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 don't you let the lender sign a receipt even though the money loaned is just a small quantity?
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@popciclecold (35022)
• United States
14 Jun 18
If the person always paid you back, then I would help them. If I loan. and they don't pay it back then no.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
the person is a good payer. when i say, 'pay in 2 months', the person does that so i have faith and confidence the amount will be paid on time.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
i will tell the person after office hours. the person is busy with work now.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
15 Jun 18
Only if it is my family, kids or parents, sisters etc. I have too many problems of my own to deal with friends or colleagues problems.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
i agree with you. the burden is lifted off my shoulder; my sister took it off and laid it on hers.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
indeed. well, at least, this person is assured already because my sister found somebody to loan the money from.
@LadyDuck (457218)
• Switzerland
14 Jun 18
@ridingbet Exactly, too many ask money because they have not paid attention how they have spent it.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
yes, especially those who are gamblers. they ask money as loan with a certain percentage yet. or a 3-month payment period with additional 5% from the amount lent.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
this person, i helped before because the loan is paid on time. but now, the time is so constrained that i cannot help anymore. i have not yet told the person about my decision.
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
14 Jun 18
i am having second thoughts if i should ask from any of my friends and colleagues, or just say i cannot borrow because we all have no work this summer.
@SiddharthV (925)
• India
14 Jun 18
I think we should not help such persons unless they are asking for some genuine reason.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
the person, i have know for many years now. i trust this person, and the problem is no longer mine but my sister's.
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@popciclecold (35022)
• United States
14 Jun 18
If the person always paid you back, then I would help them. If I loan. and they don't pay it back then no.
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@Bosun201 (58)
• Nigeria
17 Jun 18
@ridingbet You are right. I made this comment before I got to know the person is very close to you and that the friendship is deep- rooted.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
why would someone i don't know, borrow money from me, or ask me to find somebody to lend him money? i think that is inappropriate. and i am a person who trusts sincerely but not to the newly acquainted persons.
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