Our World is Smaller.
By rakski
@rakski (112925)
Philippines
June 16, 2018 9:09pm CST
Hello everyone.
Yes, me and my siblings' world is much, much smaller thanks to my father.
Why?
My mother's relatives was not really fond of my dad, my mom being away most of the time (overseas worker), her relatives has been her eyes. But my mom never said anything to us until December 2015. My mom's relatives were all angry at us because we do not believe a word they said against our dad. We were mad at them for saying those things to against my dad.
But guess what? They were all right. So we lost all our contact with them.
Move forward to present, my father's relatives are all displease with me and my siblings. They thought we are not looking after my dad. Because my dad goes to them for financial help.
Me and my siblings with my mom are all alone with this struggle.
He left us nothing.
Our house which my mom bought for the family and my sister had it renovated was now gone. They pawned it. They cannot pay it. So we have to sell it to pay their debt.
Are we to be blame for this?
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14 responses
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
17 Jun 18
Hi Rakski. I am sorry. But I think you are in the right position. I mean to say, you still did help your father in spite of what he did. Some people just do not know what gratitude is. Ingrata. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
17 Jun 18
@rakski Exactly. Some just forget about that.
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@moirai (2836)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
I hope your relations with you mother's family gets better. After all, it would have been understandable that you wanted to believe the best about your father before. But now that you know the truth, you know that they were right.
As for your father's relatives (I hope you mean his siblings and cousins, and not his wife and other kids), they should be more understanding of you because of what your father did. I'm sure it must also be hard for them to help with your father's finances, they must also have their own families to think of, but they should be more understanding of the strain in your relationship with your father that was caused by what he did. I expect this is why your father goes to them for support, because (how to say in English?) nahihiya sya sa inyo kahit papano.
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@moirai (2836)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
@rakski That your father helped them before is even more reason for them to want to help him. That fact alone -- giving back to the person who helped you. Even without considering the fact that he has daughters (and sons?) - you and your siblings.
I might be simplifying the situation too much, but if I were in their position, and I knew about your family's story, I would also be mahihiya to expect you to help your father financially, especially in supporting his new family. I would think it would be better if 'we' (your father's relatives) be the ones to pool our resources together to help him. Maybe, maybe, in extreme or emergency situations, I might approach you and beg for some help, but I would be mahihiya to demand anything from you.
But that's just my opinion. :)
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
yes I believe so. But as for my father's relatives. I understand them that they have their own family (cousins). When my father was younger, he helped all his cousins in all aspects. Now it seems that we are on the wrong footage for not helping him all the way. For eight years that we do not know about this, his new family was living from all the money my mom and my sister was giving him that should be for all of us.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
17 Jun 18
Oh, I am so sorry. I hope everything works out for you and your family.
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@GardenGerty (157428)
• United States
19 Jun 18
Sometimes truth is difficult to find and even harder to accept.
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@shaggin (71633)
• United States
19 Jun 18
It sounds like one big miscommunication issue sadly. I hope you can talk things out with your family and get along. So sad what you are going through losing your home etc.
@allknowing (130070)
• India
18 Jun 18
These days family ties have lost their meaning with so much drift. You should move on.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
I'm sorry but I don't really understand everything.
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@arthurchappell (45002)
• Preston, England
17 Jun 18
you did what you could, and the sibling rivalry didn't help - you are not to blame - so sorry for how things turned out there
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