child loss

Australia
June 17, 2018 8:42am CST
4 years ago i lost my son at 28 weeks though with time the pain still the same everyone tells me "its gods plan" or "hes is a better place" or worse of all "maybe you should move on and stop feeling down he wouldnt want that" that makes me feel like i have to get over the loss of my son in some certain time or people feel like im just holding on i guess what i want to know do you guys think there should be a time line on grief?
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Jessa Bumagat
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
17 Jun 18
Ohh I am so sorry to hear that., That must be very painful
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
17 Jun 18
yes it is i try to take it day by day sometimes its hard
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Jessa Bumagat
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
17 Jun 18
@xstacex in seven months , did you look for him?
stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
17 Jun 18
@Jessabuma i dont understand your question
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ultraman cosmos
@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
17 Jun 18
I hope that you will feel all right. There are no time frame on the grief but having to say that, I think eventually you will get over it and get on with life.
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ultraman cosmos
@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
17 Jun 18
That is insane to be honest
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
17 Jun 18
thank you just sometimes it feels like people expect me to "hurry up" and get over it all
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
17 Jun 18
@id_peace i agree
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DE
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
18 Jun 18
I'm sorry to learn of your loss... The people who told you that meant well but they either haven't lost anyone close to them or they simply don't understand. There is no time limit on grief. We all feel loss differently. My thoughts are with you.
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DE
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
18 Jun 18
@xstacex You're welcome. My pc informs me that I've never spoken to you before. Welcome to myLot! I hope you are enjoying yourself while visiting with the other members and earning your pennies.
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
18 Jun 18
thank you i agree people feel loss differently
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
18 Jun 18
@DaddyEvil thank you :) i bet i will
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Rubeena Bashir Kunju
@rubyriaz007 (4188)
• India
18 Jun 18
Sorry to know about your loss.I know it is very painful.May God give the strength to overcome your pain.
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
18 Jun 18
thank you :)
Sherz SharonZ
@Sweetsherz (265)
•
17 Jun 18
So sorry it's painful
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
17 Jun 18
yes it is but take it each day as it comes :)
chicnthin
@chicnthin (3031)
• Philippines
18 Jun 18
My mother experienced that as well, she had miscarriage in its 5 months, I believe, we didn't know the gender yet. She is strong person and overcome it. That is really painful, but time will heal your wounds.
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chicnthin
@chicnthin (3031)
• Philippines
18 Jun 18
@xstacex she is, and you are as well.
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
18 Jun 18
@chicnthin thank you :)
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
18 Jun 18
your mother sure is a strong woman much love to her :)
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M.-L.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
17 Jun 18
No, there shouldn't. People are different and mourn in different ways.
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
17 Jun 18
thank you i agree but i guess some people dont
anamika
@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
17 Jun 18
Sorry to hear about the loss you had. The time must be very painful for you
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stace
@xstacex (50)
• Australia
17 Jun 18
it is but i try to take each day as it comes :) thank you
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Resky Yandi
@reskyyandi (3616)
• Indonesia
19 Jun 18
I'm so sorry to heard that. I hope you can fell better.
clare
@clarebares (3)
•
17 Jun 18
no time line on losing somebody you love especially a child !!
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