Surviving 7th Grade

@mommaj (23112)
United States
June 19, 2018 9:51am CST
All I prayed for this year was that my son's teacher didn't kill him. You may be laughing thinking "What an exaggeration!" You would be SOOOO wrong. I should start by saying this is a separate classroom for special needs. Most of these kiddos are under a third or fourth grade level. In Sept. the teacher called me in because my child was putting EVERYTHING in his mouth. She asked if he did that at home and why he might be doing it there. I told her he never did it at home and my best guess was that no one was paying attention to him or he was really stressed out. I told her I would need to watch to tell her why. So I thought the tree was taken out of the classroom and they listened to my suggestion of putting food out for him. December my child became an eloper at school. He would leave the room and the teachers wouldn't notice for a couple of minutes(teachers words not mine). So she asked me why he was leaving the classroom. Really? I thought these teachers had special training. Turns out with a ratio of one teacher with two students no one is watching my child! He was actually leaving the room to calm down. They don't have a sensory room so the kids can have a break. After a month or so, and me threatening to sue if my child leaves the room and gets hurt or eaten by the alligator, the teachers finally put up a bell so if the door is opened the bell jingles. FINALLY. My son doesn't like the noise so that stopped him immediately. So now we are into April. Only the rest of the month and May to survive! So now the worry is him still eating stuff. I had to pick him up and take him to the doctor for eating moss that splintered in his mouth and tore up his cheek and tongue. They didn't know where he got that. Next, I had to pick him up and call poison control. The teacher brought in a poisonous (to small animals) plant into the classroom. Well, my son decided to eat it. Luckily he did not swallow it. Thankfully there was only a couple more weeks of school left. He just had to make it to the end of the year. The teacher was upset she had to get rid of her plants. I told the principals I didn't care if she had plants, there are a lot of plants that are not poisonous. I discovered the school is a glorified babysitter. I bought the classroom books just so the kids had something to read that was on their level. They just aren't used very often with an adult helping with words. I hope there are more private schools that pop up just for the competition to make public schools better. This is just sad!
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@gofsey (1912)
• Madurai, India
3 Sep 18
Yes, there is life in being a mother but there is nothing much for the teacher. They too go through much hell but they must take elementary precautions at least. I mean, no poisonous stuff! Yes, that makes me wonder is the teacher trying to kill the students? Wonder what she will try to do next! It bears some thinking.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
3 Sep 18
I try not to think about what she may do. LOL I have enrolled a specialist to assist my son in the classroom. Luckily, I can find out what is going on that way.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
4 Sep 18
@gofsey He loves school. The teacher finally figured out he was reading so now she is teaching him. FINALLY.
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@gofsey (1912)
• Madurai, India
4 Sep 18
@mommaj That is great. I hope the little fellar is studying well. They take their time but being in school is a good thing.
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• United States
19 Jun 18
One after another! Hopefully next school the teacher will be adjusted & decorates accordingly for the classroom and accommodates everyone.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
20 Jun 18
I even offered to the principal that I would buy plants for her room. That way I know they won't be poisonous to the kids. She said she wanted to teach them responsibility of caring for them. She could have grown a whole garden outside of the classroom. At least that would have been edible.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
20 Jun 18
@infatuatedbby I don't want to cause too much trouble because my son will be there until he graduates. I don't know how else to get their attention without causing them to change the way they interact with him. I'm not sure they really "accommodate" any of the kids, after all it is public school.
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• United States
20 Jun 18
@mommaj The school your child is attending really needs to be more involved and go above and beyond to accommodate each child. That is not good to have poisonous plants regardless , even for a normal person! Is there anyone you could further talk to about the program they have at school, or contact upper management to make this right?
@vandana7 (98731)
• India
20 Jun 18
Aw...I don't really know how to manage special needs, but I would love to be 1 : 1 teacher to your child, giving him all the attention in the world (except when I am in wash room or sleeping or outside home for some work). Hope things get better for you. DE shared your email, and I did not write primarily because I have had this lousy case dangling over my head. With today, I am somewhat relieved.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
20 Jun 18
I hope it went/goes well for you. I'm sure you would make a great teacher. I wondered why no email then I couldn't remember which one I gave DE. LOL
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@moffittjc (118365)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Jun 18
That is so frustrating to hear. Especially since the same behavior happens in our special needs schools here too. It's like they don't even care, and don't even really want to bother trying to educate and nurture these students. You weren't lying when you said they were glorified babysitters. Maybe we should adjust their salary to equal what 12 year old babysitters are making, and tell those teachers they can get a raise when they start caring more for those kids.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
23 Jun 18
I have honestly had him to the doctor this year more for "accidents" than ever. I asked the school if it was my fault for the accidents DCF would be taking my kids away so what happens to teachers? I was shocked to hear one of the IAs has an autistic child, supposedly close to my son's level. I almost asked if the kid was still alive.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
23 Jun 18
@moffittjc He still has to go to that school for five years. If I thought they would get rid of the principal and the teachers I would. It's just such a shame.
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@moffittjc (118365)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Jun 18
@mommaj You should file a lawsuit claiming that your child and all the other special needs children are being mishandled. Maybe bring a class action lawsuit against the school board.
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@TheHorse (205263)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Sep 18
It sounds like the teachers in there should be better trained! I'm glad he was not eaten by an alligator.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
22 Sep 18
Please don't say that. There is always a chance since an alligator lives in the runoff in front of the school. LOL He escaped so many times he could have been. Luckily, he is so big the alligator would probably think twice. LOL
@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
19 Jun 18
Oh my goodness, how terrible. It sounds like that school needs to make some changes for the better. Are other parents having the same problems? Maybe everyone should get together to file a complaint or something with school board. I am sorry that you have to go through all that.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
19 Jun 18
I'm hoping next year will be better. We have had a lot of rough spots that is for sure!
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@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
19 Jun 18
@mommaj You can say that again. I hope next year is better for you too.
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@Namelesss (3368)
• United States
19 Jun 18
Public schools really are pressured to 'educate' the kids even when that education will never meet standard requirements. They truly are often glorified baby sitters with special needs kids. But your son's treatment is absolutely SHOCKING! Seems they haven't the slightest clue. I really hope next year turns out a whole lot better for him.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
20 Jun 18
The principal doesn't have a clue about these kiddos and she doesn't want to listen to the parents. She tells us to have our children's therapists talk to her and make the suggestions. It is just bizarre. The teacher isn't qualified even though she likes the kids. She supposedly has grown children of her own. The number one rule when kids are toddlers is no poisonous items in the kids' reach, or breakable items.
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