Out of Frustrations, SHE is SHOUTING!!!
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (137212)
Philippines
June 19, 2018 10:37pm CST
I had plotted my schedule to teach in the morning. A young girl is quite a slow learner booked a class. As I had mentioned in my previous discussions, we need to incorporate the power of being patient. Along the course of the lesson, the child is really frustrated. Out of her frustrations, she tends to be shouting with her answers. I can sense ‘tantrums’ strike to her senses. “What did I do?” I managed to incorporate a play therapy. It works because I captured her attention and calm herself for the rest of the class session online.
“Do you feel frustrated in teaching kids?”
“Do you do play therapy to kids?”
Image Credit: drgreene.com
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Jun 18
Hi Shav. Yes. When one of my students was in prep, she had a hard time understanding Filipino. She is a Filipino but English was their primary language. She would always cry when she does not understand. So what I did was I explain to her in English and she was happy. 
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@Shavkat (137212)
• Philippines
20 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 I will say that kid of yours is a fast learner. My student is a zero level. It needs a lot of photos for her to understand.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
20 Jun 18
@rakski Nope, Rakski. My mom is the teacher. She just trained me to tutor kids.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Jun 18
I am glad you were able to find something to distract her from her tantrums. I am sure it's beneficial for her, you and anyone else involved.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
20 Jun 18
@Shavkat I hope she will study hard and continue to try to do her best. Hopefully this frustrated shouting will be a one time thing.
@Shavkat (137212)
• Philippines
21 Jun 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum She is a Chinese student, my friend. I assumed that this child is one of those that don't want to study the English language. But then, they don't have the choice.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
20 Jun 18
my students are 2nd, 3rd, and 4th year college students and at times, i encounter some who are so childish but no tantrums so far.
good luck, kabsat, you can be a flexible adult and child instructor.
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@Shavkat (137212)
• Philippines
21 Jun 18
@ridingbet It is this student's wasting of her parents' money. She even made big eyes on me.lol What a kid? She's measuring me up with her slant-eyes.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
21 Jun 18
@Shavkat right on that. as long as you are doing your job, it is the student's look-out if she studies with you or not.
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@Hannihar (129388)
• Israel
20 Jun 18
@Shavkat
So, where did you learn therapy for kids. That is great that you had a way to calm her down. Maybe she is not heard at home so she shouts and throws tantrums. I know it is not right for you to have to deal with that kind of behavior. I am glad you had the patience to deal with her and found a way to reach her. I probably would have hung up on her.
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@popciclecold (35085)
• United States
24 Jun 18
You did the right thing and I tip my hat to you.
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@popciclecold (35085)
• United States
24 Jun 18
@Shavkat It was the perfect tool.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Jun 18
I used to work in an international kindergarden. Most of the parents were immigrants from other countries and some of the children didn't speak Danish in the beginning. They got frustrated when they tried to express themselves in their first languages and we didn't understand, but they learned Danish pretty fast. It was an interesting job. I don't usually get frustrated when working with children and I enjoyed working there.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
21 Jun 18
@Shavkat I was impressed to see how fast some of those children learned a new language. If they don't have the will to learn it is a challenge, that is true. Sometimes the 4-year-old children who had already learned Danish acted as interpreters. How old are the children that you teach?
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@Shavkat (137212)
• Philippines
22 Jun 18
@Porcospino I teach all levels from kids to professionals. The youngest one that I handled is 2 years old. It was at random, my friend. They tend not to be in a regular class with this age range.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
20 Jun 18
I oncle gave classes to three children all with hearing problems but they did not cry but I realized that they could not hear properly either and nevertheless they passed their English Exams.
I did not give up however and I had to go back to England to stay there for quite a long while as I was without a house to go to.
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@crossbones27 (48417)
• Mojave, California
20 Jun 18
Maybe she is really smart and she sees course as to easy for her. While smart some kids still do not know they are smart and get a bit bored and show frustrations in various ways.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
20 Jun 18
I wonder what would happen if you were not able to calm her?
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
20 Jun 18
I think I can understand your feelings. This feeling, whether I teach my students or my daughter, will be encountered. This happens because students find it too difficult to understand the knowledge we teach. I'm glad you used the game method, which is very useful in the teaching process.
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@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
20 Jun 18
That's a very good technique to apply. I'm not patient about teaching though.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Jun 18
I have not experienced in my class. It would be hard to teach with kids having scare/fear tantrums. At least you are also a therapist, so you can immediately apply treatment. Congrats my friend.
