If you don't mind me asking?
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
June 23, 2018 5:02am CST
Do you like to have a conversation with me?
Because I do like to have a conversation with anyone here.
I noticed someone here, he doesn't want to interact with me because of how the response to my comment. I feel a little sad about it.
Short responses make me feel a little bit blue.
Like I ask myself sometimes if I bore them with my comment.
I wanted to post here the responses I am getting from others but I'm so afraid they turn their back on me.
So I will just leave it here and move on.
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33 responses
@kobesbuddy (74568)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Jun 18
When members are answering many discussions in a row, they give short answers, to everyone. If someone doesn't want to interact with me, I just leave them alone. We are all different, with different needs and likes.
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@kobesbuddy (74568)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Jun 18
@JustBhem Thanks, I love hearing from you:)
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@kobesbuddy
You are welcome Kharla.
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@popciclecold (35103)
• United States
23 Jun 18
Don't let that stop you, just keep on like you are doing, it will work out alright.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@popciclecold
Yes and I will. Thanks.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
23 Jun 18
I don't think you need to care. Some people like it brief, others like to say a lot. In real life, some people love to talk, and some people don't love to talk.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
23 Jun 18
@JustBhem I mean, don't care about such a thing. This will only add to your unhappiness.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@caopaopao
Yes, that's what I'm thinking now. I will just ignore it.
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@kasmakarim (1933)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 18
Actually I'm a person like that. I don't like to talk or comment too much but I don't know why.
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@moirai (2836)
• Philippines
24 Jun 18
Do I like to have a conversation with you? Sure! Why not?
But it would probably depend on what the topic is. If it's a topic I know very little about, or doesn't interest me much, then what could I say? Probably very little, and our conversation will not last that long.
As for you wondering about this someone who doesn't seem to want to interact with you, well... perhaps it's just that your definition of interaction is different from his.
We all have our own different ways of mylotting. Some people post multiple discussions a day. Other people post none at all and just like to respond to other people's discussions. Some like to make sure they reply to every response and comment they get. While others don't think that's absolutely necessary and just move on to the next.
There are... what? hundreds? of myLotters here. We can't all expect them to approach myLotting the way we do.
So don't be sad about short responses. The mere fact that they responded to your comment shows that they acknowledged it. They did not completely ignore you. Perhaps (unless it was spam), we should just be thankful for that. In the meantime, as someone said, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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@moirai (2836)
• Philippines
24 Jun 18
@JustBhem An endearment? Hmm... I imagine some people from a certain place always seem to use some endearment. Maybe you are right that there is some language barrier. Maybe he replies to those others because he knew them longer than he knows you. But I don't really know. I'm only guessing here. :P
But if it were me, I wouldn't take it heart so much. There are many others I can have conversations with. I can't please everybody, and not everybody can please me. ;)
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 18
This one member I'm talking about post at least 5 discussions in one day.
It's not the short responses that got me on this but the same response I'm getting from him over and over again. He seemed so friendly because of the endearment he uses.
But this makes me think, maybe he doesn't know other words to say or maybe he doesn't want to have a long conversation because of the language barrier. If that's the case then, I will consider it. But it's not. He replies to other and has a long conversation with them. That makes me think that this person doesn't want to have a conversation with me.
@Cristi_Ichim (3663)
• Bucharest, Romania
23 Jun 18
I do not like conversations that will turn out to be too long.
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@Cristi_Ichim (3663)
• Bucharest, Romania
23 Jun 18
@JustBhem People generally cannot explain why they like or dislike certain stuff.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@Cristi_Ichim
Me too. Why don't they just enjoy and have fun communicating?
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
24 Jun 18
I like to try and comment on many. Might be long or short but a reply or comment is a nice thing to get. Not everyone will read or comment.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
30 Jun 18
@JustBhem And there is the handful that won't read your discussion, or respond. We just hope that the rest will comment, something, we need interaction here.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Jul 18
@CookieMonster46
Yeah, some are too lazy having a conversation with us.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
i wonder who this user is hija. you know me, i want to know those silly things, but can you share me in a private message?
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
24 Jun 18
@JustBhem yes hija. i know that user. the user thinks he/she is smart and very friendly but for me, the user is a user. hahaha. i know you get what i mean
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 18
@ridingbet
Ahaha. Oh yes, I know what you are talking about. And I guess you are right.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Bhem. Yes, I always do. I am always happy to converse with you. I wonder that person would rather talk to someone who is brainless that talk with someone as interesting and nice as you.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
24 Jun 18
@JustBhem That is weird. A short comment may earn him some cents but it is the learning you will get is the essence of having interactions.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 18
@mlgen1037
That's how Mylot is all about, interaction matters a lot. But looks like he don't care at all.
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@arunima25 (85305)
• Bangalore, India
23 Jun 18
If I like the discussion, I definitely respond and comment. The length of response depends on what I want to convey
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 18
@arunima25
That's nice of you. But can you take this reply - Thank you for sharing, my friend?
The discussion was interesting and he can only reply you like that.
@arunima25 (85305)
• Bangalore, India
24 Jun 18
@JustBhem Maybe!I am not sure about that. I don't mind as long as it is conveying the message.
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@little_kid (651)
• Italy
23 Jun 18
Don't worry of that person, I want to talk with you, friend :)
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@little_kid
I'm with my laptop now, myLotting. I want to gain more cents to reach $1 tonight.
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@little_kid (651)
• Italy
23 Jun 18
@JustBhem yes, of course. What are you doing today?
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Jun 18
The members of myLot are very different. Some people like to continue the conversation for a long time, some people write a short comment and leave the conversation and some people never comment back at all. After a while we notice the interaction style of other members. Maybe the person you mentioned doesn't like to talk much? Or finds it hard to have a long conversation in English? (if they are from a country where English isn't the first language)
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Jun 18
@JustBhem Yes, I think that could be the reason. It is a great thing that we are from so many different countries, but for some people it is a challenge to write in a different language than their own.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@Porcospino
It could be the reason. Or maybe he was afraid of long conversation.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
when you browse that member's profile, are you the only one he gives short responses to? or that's his style with all members he interacts with?
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
@JustBhem if he/she does it to everyone, then that's his/her style. don't worry about it anymore.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@hereandthere
And all I need to do is move on and never bother comment to his discussion anymore.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
24 Jun 18
Sometimes replies are not very long but it's a way of keeping g in touch
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 18
@responsiveme
At least new words.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
24 Jun 18
@JustBhem umm that's putting off for the readers
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Yes I do like to have conversations with you and with other members here.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@JustBhem yes that's right.. I have noticed that also
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