Why do some guys fear committed

I guess they fear being committed to someone and they just want to be 'free' or they don't like responsibilities

Not a guy I would want to have more than a friendship with, without benefits.

both i think. i would just be friends and act like i want no commitment either nor would i give out benefits that has always drove men wild. they want what they can't have. i have been proposed to more times then i was married and i was married 5 times to men that begged me to marrt them a while before i gave in

At times it is so hard to understand men

She can ask him directly or might ask other girl friends of her.

Just take her own time to know that guy..it's not good for her to get commited without knowing properly.

Maybe it's from a bad experience in his life. Reminds me of an episode of "Adam (Conover) Ruins Everything," where he explains how divorce is actually 'a good thing' for the now-free-&-single individuals My parents are divorced (I was a twenty-something when they finally got divorced). And--with my financial trouble (brain-injury trauma that makes me unemployable)--I have to live with one of them---My mom, as my dad had to move to 'an undisclosed location' (it's not secret, I just don't care enough to ask where his altitude-sickness forces him to move-to.) My point is: I'm 'at peace with' the go-nowhere routine I'm living now. If I meet a girl (probably through my TBI support-group or one of the 'camp'-organizations that host groups of TBI-survivors), she can join me---living with me (probably working or doing whatever brings in an income) or letting me live with her ... as long as I'm 'free to keep my routine.' (sorta like a friend of mine; who tells me that he loves his wife, but--if it's a choice between 'staying with her' and 'keeping his job'--he'll be "single" before he'll be "unemployed" )