Conflict Resolution
By STOUTjodee
@STOUTjodee (3572)
United States
July 16, 2018 12:00pm CST
Good Monday/Tuesday to my fellow mylotters!! Hope every one had a blessed weekend and got rested up for the week ahead!! 
If you've read some of my latest posts, I talk a lot about the mother-in-law. I did have a fairly "good" relationship with her and then ever since she moved down with us (5 years ago) things have steadily gotten worse. It's obvious to me and my hubby that she "hates" me. Any one who turns it around saying that a person hates them only to justify that they really hate that person. I can't say that I "hate" her because I don't believe in hatred.
With all that being said, I guess now that I'm getting older I want to "right" my "wrongs." So, 2 weekends ago, I confronted my pastor about how does one "love thy neighbor" even though they lie and steal? He told me that he was going to have a sermon about "Conflict Resolution" the next Sunday (yesterday.)
So, yesterday his sermon was "The Biblical Path to Conflict Resolution." The first step of course is to identify the problem. Now, we may have differences and opinions or ways we do things and of course that is human nature. We have to figure out if it is a sin??? Then you go directly to that person in person and talk to them in truth and love.
I really want to approach her and let her know what I feel about what I know, but I know how it will go..... she will be the one who does all the talking or she will say she didn't do any of the things I would mention to her. So., I'm torn in just not talking to her (which has become the norm for me) and letting God take care of it or IF I should really approach her. So, I'm writing this post to see if anyone has any suggestions/ideas about what I should do OR not do??
Thanks in advance for any help offered!
~Peace~
If you've read some of my latest posts, I talk a lot about the mother-in-law. I did have a fairly "good" relationship with her and then ever since she moved down with us (5 years ago) things have steadily gotten worse. It's obvious to me and my hubby that she "hates" me. Any one who turns it around saying that a person hates them only to justify that they really hate that person. I can't say that I "hate" her because I don't believe in hatred.
With all that being said, I guess now that I'm getting older I want to "right" my "wrongs." So, 2 weekends ago, I confronted my pastor about how does one "love thy neighbor" even though they lie and steal? He told me that he was going to have a sermon about "Conflict Resolution" the next Sunday (yesterday.)
So, yesterday his sermon was "The Biblical Path to Conflict Resolution." The first step of course is to identify the problem. Now, we may have differences and opinions or ways we do things and of course that is human nature. We have to figure out if it is a sin??? Then you go directly to that person in person and talk to them in truth and love.
I really want to approach her and let her know what I feel about what I know, but I know how it will go..... she will be the one who does all the talking or she will say she didn't do any of the things I would mention to her. So., I'm torn in just not talking to her (which has become the norm for me) and letting God take care of it or IF I should really approach her. So, I'm writing this post to see if anyone has any suggestions/ideas about what I should do OR not do??
Thanks in advance for any help offered!
~Peace~3 people like this
3 responses
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
16 Jul 18
Some people are set in their way and will not change for no one. You are going to have to some to that realization. Or have her move out. Otherwise you are going to find yourself going crazy. As I understand she is your husbands mother. Have him talk to her about your issues with her. If he love you then he will step up to the plate for you. No one should interfere in your married life. Even mothers. You can talk to a pastor until your face turns blue. Nothing will change. Religion, I have learned, never helped me with any conflict I ever had. I was the one that had to deal with them head one. No one else. Now don't think I am hating on anyone here. But this can only be resolved if you take the needed steps. And like I said, first have you husband talk to her then both of you together. And if the point does not sink in, well, she will have to leave.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
16 Jul 18
Hi! Good Monday morning to you! I am so sorry to hear that you're dealing with this kind of issues. I hope you will resolve whatever dispute you have. I am hoping for the best. Good luck
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